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Hello friends,
I have the feeling I'm pushing too hard but I'd need some help in the interpreatation of my situation..
I have a strong connection with a man, everything started with sex, but he was very defended, and clear about the fact he didn't want a relationship, so we stopped the sex and we started to be friends, very good friends.
it helped also the fact I met somebody else in that time, and I loved the way we became closed to each other without the 'love and sex" thing.
Then, in a natural way, the sex came back, and things changed again.
He looks for me, he cares about me but he keeps saying he's not inlove, so I'm trying to be less attached to him, I've been thinking for a while this was a kind of self defense from his part but probably it's his way to be with women, he doesn't want to be too involved..
and it's difficult, confusing, we're used to see each other very often, and sometimes I feel I need him more than he needs me.
This thread was about him, few months ago
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...t-a-friendship&p=208853&highlight=#post208853
then he came to visit me during holidays, it was confusing, I told him it was impossible to separate sex from friendship, he replied something like 'we'll see..'
In the last few days I've got some questions and these are the results:
44.4 > 57 about him generally, that I find difficult to understand,
because he's very supportive to me, but probably it refers to my attitude, to my expectations.
the best attitude regard him: 25.2.4 >61
Then, yesterday night I was feeling I didn't want to be alone, and he has been kind but very determinated,
he felt my need and he didn't want it. He likes to be the one who decides when and what.
I came back home with the feeling I was too demanding and clearly it's something he can't afford,
I feel like I've broken some implicit agreement between us,
I asked about the consequences of my behaviour and I've got 45.5 >16.
At last, this morning, asking now what I should do to be in peace with myself and with him as well,
again 25 but 25.5 > 21.
My interpretation is I should be less attached, not projecting anything in the future,
and things will adjust themselves in the best way.
In my guts I feel I need a man who wants me in another way and I should appreciate what he gives me, that's a lot, but look for love somewhere else.
But an overlook from you would be very appreciated,
thanks!
I have the feeling I'm pushing too hard but I'd need some help in the interpreatation of my situation..
I have a strong connection with a man, everything started with sex, but he was very defended, and clear about the fact he didn't want a relationship, so we stopped the sex and we started to be friends, very good friends.
it helped also the fact I met somebody else in that time, and I loved the way we became closed to each other without the 'love and sex" thing.
Then, in a natural way, the sex came back, and things changed again.
He looks for me, he cares about me but he keeps saying he's not inlove, so I'm trying to be less attached to him, I've been thinking for a while this was a kind of self defense from his part but probably it's his way to be with women, he doesn't want to be too involved..
and it's difficult, confusing, we're used to see each other very often, and sometimes I feel I need him more than he needs me.
This thread was about him, few months ago
http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...t-a-friendship&p=208853&highlight=#post208853
then he came to visit me during holidays, it was confusing, I told him it was impossible to separate sex from friendship, he replied something like 'we'll see..'
In the last few days I've got some questions and these are the results:
44.4 > 57 about him generally, that I find difficult to understand,
because he's very supportive to me, but probably it refers to my attitude, to my expectations.
the best attitude regard him: 25.2.4 >61
Then, yesterday night I was feeling I didn't want to be alone, and he has been kind but very determinated,
he felt my need and he didn't want it. He likes to be the one who decides when and what.
I came back home with the feeling I was too demanding and clearly it's something he can't afford,
I feel like I've broken some implicit agreement between us,
I asked about the consequences of my behaviour and I've got 45.5 >16.
At last, this morning, asking now what I should do to be in peace with myself and with him as well,
again 25 but 25.5 > 21.
My interpretation is I should be less attached, not projecting anything in the future,
and things will adjust themselves in the best way.
In my guts I feel I need a man who wants me in another way and I should appreciate what he gives me, that's a lot, but look for love somewhere else.
But an overlook from you would be very appreciated,
thanks!