26.3.5 > 61 in a relationship

[pargenton]

Hi all, and apologies for my bad english.
I'm in an intimate relationship with a woman, since more than 4 years, but no or very little sex attraction.
We like spending time together and, during this time, we have learned to know each other so our dialogue is pretty good and intimate.

In the meantime both her and myself have had partners, but did not last long. So we decided, since of our very good understanding and support of each other, to start a true relationship, but, maybe obviously, our sex life was unsatisfactory for both, and so we went back being friends only again.
But sometimes we do the same mistake, so I asked YI, is it better to definitely stay friends only or not?
The answer is 26.3.5 > 61

As I understand:
26 means the relationship is indeed important in my life; 61 means that it is trustworthy and sincere.
Line 3 for me suggests following my friend in doing something, or maybe suggests to me doing something like martial arts, or let grow my interest in these things, don't understand exactly.

Line 5 for me suggest clearly to transform the relationship in a friendhsip and nothing else, no sex and that there will be rewards in doing so.

Any suggestions ?

Thanks
Paolo

 

[dobro p]

Hex 26 is about exercising great restraint, so the Yi seems to be telling you that your best approach to this relationship is one of great restraint.

26.3 is about pursuing what's valuable at a time when it's difficult to do that, and protecting what you've got at the same time. It's difficult, but it's positive. In your situation, this could mean pursuing the friendship.

26.5 is about making something which is powerful and dangerous less powerful and dangerous by altering its nature. However, in your case with this woman, I think you should look carefully at the image in the line. 26.5 talks about the tusk of a gelded boar. A pig's tusks are the two big teeth that it can use to attack somebody; gelding a male animal means removing its testicles. So if you geld a male pig, the ordinarily dangerous tusks are no longer dangerous. There's a really good chance you got this line about converting sexuality into non-sexuality because that's what you need to do in this situation. In relation to her, maybe you need to forget about sex.

 

[dobro p]

This gelding thing is symbolic, you understand lol.

 

[pargenton]

Thanks everybody, I find divination for myself more difficult than that for others (you know, that thing named Ego obfuscates things) and so was looking for confirmation.
I do believe line 5 is a strong indication of a trasformation of the relationship, forgetting completely about sex (at least with her...

Anyway is it correct: even now it is actually like a brother sister relationship, I think Yi indicates that for me and this woman this is the best.

Thanks again
Paolo