26 uc, relationship, and 57>35

[luciliuz]

I've always read in this forum 26 as to be a good omen,
but after looking at many threads about 26 uc, I'm still unsure what it means..
it looks to ask you to stop and restrain, yes, but I don't get the difference from other hex like 52 - stillness and 33 - withdrawal, for example.
Today it came to me asking about the relationship with a man I'm seeing since a while,
who doesn't want to be involved but shows to me a kind of "friendship with benefits".
I'm good with it, we're single, he's smart and funny, and we enjoy each other company sometimes, except I often feel him "in defense", despite things are pretty clear between us, and this fact leaves me with the feeling to be pressing him also if I'm certainly not, and consequently makes me think if continuing to see him is a good thing.

So 26 uc was the answer I've got asking the reason of this feelings I have after having seen him last night,
then, to clarify things, I asked what should be my attitude from now on regarding him,
and I've got 57>35

my idea about the reading is I want love in my life and this "friendship with benefits" is simply frustrating my desire.
there are too many emotions that would like to find a way out but I restrain them because I can't allow them to be seen.. not with this man. that could be the big containment.

and 57 says to me to take it easy.. gently..
is my interpretation too simplistic in your opinion?
thanks,

Luci

 

[Trojina]

No one answered so I'm bumping it up.

So 26 uc was the answer I've got asking the reason of this feelings I have after having seen him last night,
then, to clarify things, I asked what should be my attitude from now on regarding him,
and I've got 57>35

my idea about the reading is I want love in my life and this "friendship with benefits" is simply frustrating my desire.
there are too many emotions that would like to find a way out but I restrain them because I can't allow them to be seen.. not with this man. that could be the big containment.

and 57 says to me to take it easy.. gently..
is my interpretation too simplistic in your opinion?

I can't really deal with the reading since I'm biased. Erm why would you sleep with someone who you cannot share emotions with ? 'Friends with benefits' is more like 'friends with a rip off merchant' IMO.

I don't even know why any woman would settle for this Your heart and your body are connected. He can't really expect to have one without the other and you shouldn't imagine you have to give him one without the other. And then there's the DNA question....link following http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...he-DNA-of-sexual-partners&p=205982#post205982 Well whatever you think of that it almost reinforces how false it is to yourself to expect on going non attached friendly sex....with no feelings arriving. And then expect the sex to be allowed but not the feelings.


Readings ? Someone else can do those as I'd just say stop sleeping with him until he decides whether he wants to be

a. a friend

or

b. a boyfriend.

he can pick one or the other, but if he is just a friend then why would you sleep with him ?

 

[luciliuz]

Obviously feelings arrive, if I sleep with a man who make it clear he doesn't want a relationship it's because I feel attracted and I suppose he's trying to protect himself from involvement.. then things get weird and I understand he doesn't really want to deal with feelings. Or he hasn't, not towards me.
I feel frustrated, I ask the Yi, but you're right Trojina, there's no need to ask, the assumption is wrong
thanks,
Luci

 

[Trojina]

I wasn't saying you don't need to ask...I just said someone else could interpret the cast as I couldn't....Was bumping thread up since it was sinking with no responses and even one response triggers others.

For some reason it seems to often be the case that if there is even one response to a thread others will follow. But if there are 0 responses then it just stays at 0 responses for some time until someone picks it up who checks down the list periodically for unanswered queries. I think a few people here do this, they check down the list, and it means no one goes completely unanswered....which is good.


Your question is no less worthy than any other relationship question here so I was just booting it to the top of the pile. To my mind it's a clear cut situation but to you it obviously does need a reading or you wouldn't have asked.

Your yang change pattern here is 28.....and with the 57 and all those lines something is being over repeated/over done/over thought ? The yin change pattern is 27 .

So something is pressing you to make a choice (28) about what you need (27). Actually this is what the question seems to concern. You said you are feeling frustrated with how things are, you can't go on guessing what he's thinking and carefully restraining your own emotional needs.

So to me it clearly boils down to whether he wants you, warts and all, or not. But I appreciate it may not boil down so clearly to you because everyone is different in these things.

 

[luciliuz]

I've been thinking, as I've seen nobody was replying, that probably the matter of my question was already 'expired'.. so now, few days after, I don't know if the reading is still reflecting my state of mind, of the state of things. And despite your words weren't about the reading but about my attitude in this relationship, they were appropriate.
Said that, thanks, I've noticed some threads remain with this sad "0 replies" until somebody bumps on it,
and I appreciate your move!

 

[luciliuz]

Trojina,
today when I read your reply I was so' overwhelmed' from the evidence of what you said,
that lost in my thoughts I totally jumped over the last part, where you gave me the reading.
thanks, I wouldn't be able to see all this in the lines, despite the concept was clear in front of my eyes..
the choice is done if I stop lying to myself.
sometimes I need an extra help to lift the veil, and yours has been very kind, and precise.
you've given a good input to me (as you always do since I'm part of this forum and a lot to think about,
grazie!
L

 

[Trojina]

Thankyou :bows:

I have another hot tip for getting more people to answer you in SR. Write in the change lines. You wrote you had 57>35 which means people have to find a pen and paper to draw it to see what lines move. At least I have to do that, can't usually do it in my head if many lines change. So if you had written 57.2.3.4.5>35 it's likely more would answer because it's more work for us to have to figure it out, find a pen, paper and so on if the change lines aren't written