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27.5->42: Retreating when I want to advance?

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Had a date set up this evening, but he cannot make it. Instead, he invited me elsewhere tomorrow, a much less informal event.
Should I go tomorrow, at risk of seeming too availabke/desperate?
I ching said: 27.5 -> 42 (nourishment changing to increase).

I want to see him, but this is someone "attracted to the figure of the receding woman" as Agatha Christie said.

I take the response as "don't go."

Also asked about consequences if I turn it down. Got 46.5->48, further suggesting that saying no here is better.

Your thoughts?
 

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Stay with this guy and do more dates with him

27,5: consists of 10 characters they say:
Don't go off the path to seek nourishment. To stay [on the path] is correct and good. Don't cross the great river [to seek nourishment].

42 is just plainly increase.
I'd simply say you should stay with this guy and go on more dates with him.
Good luck! ;)
 

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Thanks, larsbo!

I just read the commentary for the line, and your interpretation makes more sense than mine in that light. The commentary says:

"The good fortune in remaining persevering comes from following the one above devotedly."
 

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sammiemae

One thing stands out in the commentary of book 3 of the W?B commentary, "Hence it devotedly places itself below the latter. (sixth line) Probably the best way is to accept the relationship in the way it is going, and leave it at that. If he invited you, he is interested in having you there. That would not seem too desperate I wouldn't think. I get the feeling... this is a less formal event. Does that make you uncomfortable somehow? Maybe there is another aspect of this.

Gene
 

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Gene; yes, this makes sense. I said the event was "less informal," meaning more formal, and I wasn't sure if it was appropriate to go to such an event when I was planning to keep things more casual at this stage. Hope this clarifies!
 

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Yes, go tomorrow, it says that you need to see him as this date will be quite beneficial to you.
 

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Thank you all for your responses. I have agreed to go tonight and will report back. Am a little anxious because when I asked about how the date would go, I received 57.6 -> 48 (Gentle -> Well).
The line says: "Penetration under the bed. He loses his property and his ax. Perseverance brings misfortune." I expect to be discussing career matters with this person as well, so I wonder if this refers to that, or something else. Oh boy!
 

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Line 57.6 don't ask personal questions, while Hex 48 suggests that it will quench your desires.
 

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Thanks, Willowfox! As always. Makes me feel better.

Question (for Willowfox and anyone else reading) - do you see The Well as largely a positive hexagram, or have you had the experience of reading it negatively? I note that the text does not necessarily portend good fortune like some of the other hexagrams. But a well is essentially a good thing, though it is immovable.
 

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Wells are cool, they provide life giving water, so they are positive, unless one is silly enough to fall down one and drown.
 

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46,5-48

This sentence is quite easy to translate:
46,5: Four Chinese characters:
1. Correct (and) 2. good (to) 3. ascend 4.gradually.

48: 24 characters describing a well:

You can move a city but not a well. It never runs dry so people can come and go to draw pure water. But if the bucket leaks and rope is not long enough you can't draw water.

48 can mean "cannot" but that's not really an issue here. The other meaning is it means the water of the well should be clean and accessible, the well should have a lid, tiled surroundings, it should be drained once a while etc. all this is described in the lines building up from below. Bad water at first, clear cool water that can be reached at the top.

Go ahead step by step and make yourself accesible. A nice well with clean water than can be reached. :)
 
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Hi, Larsbo! Thanks for your clarification; that makes a lot of sense. The challenge in 48 for me is knowing when the reference is to the good qualities of the well, versus the things that could go wrong (bucket leaking, rope too short, etc.).
 

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Hex 48, the date will go well providing you stay clear headed and don't get drunk and end up falling down the well.
 

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Reporting back after date.

It went well (did not get drunk, figuratively or literally!), we had fun, though it was very low key and friendly as one might expect for two Aquarians. Certainly nothing untoward happened! In fact, it was a little bit too low key for me, so at the end of the night I wondered if he had a good time. He sent me an email saying he did, so I guess so. Not sure where the 57.6 reference came in; maybe the doubts that set in afterwards?

After the date, asked the I Ching about the overall relationship trend over the rest of the year, and got 26.1.3.6->7.

Guess that means progress at first with difficulty (line 1) but then more and more easily (lines 3, 6). Some kind of relationship will form here (7, The Army); always had trouble interpreting this one in relationship context.

What do y'all think?
 

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After the date, asked the I Ching about the overall relationship trend over the rest of the year, and got 26.1.3.6->7.

Line 26.1 shows an eager too proceed at a much faster rate, so the advice is to slow right down to a crawl as it seems that he is not going to be rushed.

Line 26.3 this suggests that slowly over the coming months he will open up and a stronger bond will form between you but it warns you to becareful of making any faux pas.

Line 26.6 by the end of the year all things should be running smoothly between you.

Hex 7 is about self control in matters relating to this relationship.
 

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Thanks, Willowfox; you rock! Yes, a crawl right now seems a very accurate description of the situation; I am not one to push, but you can be sure I am chomping at the bit over here <sigh>. We used to see each other more, but outside circumstances have changed this, and I miss seeing him more often.
 

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Update:

So far, WF's interpretation of 26.1.3.6 seems to be coming true; the other person appears to be opening up and the relationship is growing closer. Will post more later as time goes on.
 

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