28.2.3.5>16

[serinasioux]

Hi All,

I looked around the forum but there doesn't seem to be a whole lot on Hex 28...What I did find wasn't all that applicable.




Some background; I am making plans to move to another city. I have work lined up, so income is a non-issue. I know what I need to do to prepare myself to make that type of transition financially without screwing myself and I am taking proper steps. The last piece of the puzzle is shelter. I have not decided if I want to find a room in someone else's place and sublet or if I want to immediately rent my own place. There are pro's and con's to both and I don't think I can make that decision without actually being in the area to observe.

So, I have a good friend that I could possibly get some assistance from in this matter. He owns a home reasonably close to where I would need to be and has an extra room in his house. I'm debating on whether or not I want to ask him to let me stay with him temporarily while I look around for a more permanent living situation. Part of me says that in times of need it is necessary to turn to dependable friends for assistance or risk failing alone. The problem I have with doing that is this; I have really really strong feelings for this person and have for quite a long time. A fact that he is aware of. I don't want to re-establish my relationship with him with the impression that I am a needy person. I would much rather be in a position that he can see me as strong, independent and capable of handling my own shizeh. The idea that I may have to ask him for help hurts my pride just thinking about it. My fear is that asking for his assistance now will make me less viable as a relationship partner to him later on when the conditions are right for me to pursue such things. We'll always be friends, he has proven that to me in 1001 ways. Eventually I am going to want more than that though and I want to set the foundation properly.

My question; "What would be the outcome of turning to "x" for assistance with my transition?"

The answer I received was 28 with lines 2,3 and 5 Changing to hex 16.

I love that the first line of the explanation for 28 is "When you exceed something, you cross over a line and make a transition" because that is exactly what I am trying to do. My current situation can be described very well by 28, My position cannot hold up as it is and I need to make a change.

But the lines...oh the lines! I am hoping that the Yi is not being literal about the references to man and wife...I'm really in to this guy but am in no position to make promises now and am not likely to be then. With respect to love, slow and steady is more my pace.

I would love to hear what you all have to say about this one. I feel there is a very relevant connection to be made with this reading but I am having a hard time looking past the literal verbiage to relate it to my actual question.

 

[newmoon]

"My fear is that asking for his assistance now will make me less viable as a relationship partner to him later on when the conditions are right for me to pursue such things."

I am not very good at interpreting my own readings, so I won't comment about the reading. I will say something similar happened to me. We never lived together, but I needed assistance and it hurt my pride to ask. I did ask and returned the loan. We married 6 months later for 10 years. We are still friends. I think the key word is "friend". Offer to pay rent.

I wish I could interpret your reading, but I am not there yet.

 

[iams girl]

"What would be the outcome of turning to "x" for assistance with my transition?

Marriage images aside...

28.2 “Although this is something out of the ordinary, everything is favorable.” (W/B, Book III)
28.3 “Through obstinacy [pride?] one cuts oneself off from the possibility of support.” (W/B, Book III)
28.5 “If in times of insecurity we give up alliance with those below us and keep up only the relationships we have with people of higher rank, an unstable situation is created.” (W/B, Book I)
16 “Movement,” “obedience and devotion.” (W/B, Book I)

Imo, says it’s ok to be practical under the circumstances. That your relationship can withstand a mutually respectful and appropriate arrangement during this unique and temporary situation.

“I am making plans to move to another city.” “I have work lined up.” “I know what I need to do to prepare myself”

Think this will be seen as admirable, not “needy”! Also, evidence that you can be appropriately cautious in spite of added emotional challenge.

 

[serinasioux]

New Moon: Thank you for your personal insight, your experience is surely relevant to my position and it is nice to see that it can work.

iams girl: I don't know how long you have been working with IC but you have a beautifully simple way of interpreting the lines, thank you this was very helpful . I will go ahead and ask him for his assistance when the time is right and update the thread when I have something more to share.

 

[mryou1]

dà guò. dòng náo. lì yǒu yōu wǎng. xiǎng.
GREAT EXCESS. RIDGEPOLE TWIST. FAVORABLE HAVE PURPOSE GO. SACRIFICE.
GREAT EXCESS. The RIDGEPOLE is TWISTED. It is FAVORABLE to PROCEED WITH
a PURPOSE. Let a SACRIFICE be conducted.

There's too much yang energy here needing to be released, it's been stored up and it's about to make you collapse. You need to make a move or else implode. It's a time of action and if the action is not attempted it will be at a great, great cost.

That's how I've always seen Hexagram 28. You can apply that to your situation in your own way. Hope it helps!

Edit: and here's my interpretation of the lines. iams girl did a good job but if you need a second opinion here it is:

28.2: The situation has been prolonged and the yang energy has built up, but while you may not be at your prime, acting now, there is nothing that cannot further you. You have everything to gain, despite maybe not feeling like it.

28.3: The situation is dire. This line emphasizes that the "ridgepole is twisted". So the situation is especially dangerous if some sort of action isn't taken. The "house" could collapse.

28.5: This is the yin side of the coin to 28.2. It essentially means the same thing, except it seemingly emphasizes beauty over success, and equilibrium over gain.

And your potential, 16, is usually translated as Enthusiasm or Happiness. Brought about by action. A very good sign imo.

 

[iams girl]

With about 15 years of yearly readings over time, feel a close relationship, but am limited in actual use of Yijing, so, like others, am appreciating chance to learn more...thank you for your compliment, SS. Looking forward to results and can’t wait to post gold star ...

 

[serinasioux]

Update

I wanted everyone who responded to this one to know;

He and I met up in San Francisco over this last weekend and ahhh it was great! My worries were for naught. It was all of five minutes after meeting up with him before he offered me his home to stay as long as needed Additionally, though not related to this reading, his good friend was there and has been sending me messages on FB to hurry up and move to LA and "get my man".


*Beaming*

 

[serinasioux]

Hi All!

It has been a veery long time since I updated on this and it's really just because I kinda forgot.

In my last update my love interest had offered assistance, his friend was encouraging me to make my move and all seemed hunky dory for me and my silly little plans.

Oh how the universe works its mysterious ways...

Anyhoo, I got my stuff together and told my love interest that I was ready to make my move and asked if his offer still stood. He said yes, but sent me a text the next morning apologizing and saying that he wouldn't be able to help me out afterall but that we were still going to see each other when I moved.

His friend in the meantime became my friend. We kept talking and seemed to really mesh though I wasn't really thinking about anything other than "I made an awesome new friend."

I made my move and my love interest (who I should also add was a close friend of mine for 10 years) kinda pulled a dick move and flaked on me several times to the point I felt it safe to assume that he wasn't interested in me at all outside of the type of friendship we already had. His friend and I in the meantime got really, really close to the point that we have now been together for 2.5 years.

 

[steve]

The lines especially 2 and 5 talk about an unusual situation that turns out well, thats what happened

Steve

 

[Melissa_here]

This is a beautiful reading. Thank you for the update!!