28 <2,5> 62

[nAstWr]

Dear friends of Iching,

I come to you for help as I am feeling a bit down lately after one more breakup. The disastrous relationships I had in the past has led me to lose any hope for happiness.

My question: Will my misfortune in my personal life over? 28 changing lines 2 and 5 to 62
It looks auspicious that both changing lines mention the revival of a poplar If poplar represents me. Don't you think? Also, both lines refer to a man taking a wife in different circumstances. Any clue?

 

[diamanda]

Hi nAstWr,

Will my misfortune in my personal life over? 28.2.5 > 62

When an old man takes a new young wife, there's the possibility of procreation. (28.2)
When an old woman takes a new young husband, that's fine but there's no possibility of procreation (28.5)
62 - lower your expectations.

The answer asks you to think about your choices. What type of partner do you usually go for?
Be realistic and think practically. Take into account your age, and think what your choices ahead are.
You're asking about a misfortune, but the answer says it's not so much bad luck here, but a matter of choices, and how much you expect from a partner.

 

[nAstWr]

Dear diamanda,

Thank you for your answer. You suprised me with the interpretation of hexagram 62. Indeed, I have a lot of expectations from my partners as I give a lot without limit and I expect a lot from others. It is difficult for me to compromise.

I feel confused with the lines - choices. They are like a riddle.
28.2 refers to an older man who takes a younger wife and 28.5 he takes an older woman. What does it mean for a woman? The similarity is that both lines show a renewal.

One more similar question. I asked if I will find happiness in my personal life and yi answered with 51 changing lines 2,4,6 to 41
Yes I am shocked and I am afraid that the answer is not so good with resulting hexagram 41. I wish it means that the shocks in my life are going to be decreased.

 

[diamanda]

What does it mean for a woman - well, it might be pointing to the fact that fertility ends sooner for a woman than for a man. So think carefully about this issue - if you do want children, you will have to compromise and act sooner rather than later.

if I will find happiness in my personal life, 51.2.4.6 > 41
51.2 says that it won't be long before you get another relationship. The shocks in your personal life will stop. 41 says that one should be happy with small possessions. Maybe rethink what your idea of couple-happiness is. Are you expecting blissful feelings and hot love and strong exhilarating emotions? If so, have a realistic look at the real-life couples you know. Being happy with small possessions is, realistically, one of the best things we can hope for.

Indeed, I have a lot of expectations from my partners as I give a lot without limit and I expect a lot from others

Well, giving a lot doesn't guarantee receiving a lot.
On the contrary, I'd say that giving too much too soon makes others take us for granted.
It also depends on how much the other person is able to give - not everyone is great-hearted.
Again, have a look at couples you know - I'm sure you'll see that compromise is the name of the game in long-term relationships.

 

[nAstWr]

Dear diamanda,

Thank you for answering for one more time.
I suppose you are right. It's time to be more careful with my relationships and don't be so "open"..

I had some talk with the yi... Yi never stops to suprise me. So, I said: I don't want one more relationship that will end up to separation and I will be devastated.
40 changing lines 1,4 to 19
No problem! just relax and the right companion will finally come.. It is so obvious I think.

 

[diamanda]

I don't want one more relationship that will end up to separation and I will be devastated.
40.1.4 > 19

Since you're asking about a next relationship, 40.1 shows the beginning, where there's no 'blame' yet.
However, 40.4 clearly says that something must go.
"Deliver yourself from your thumb/great toe".
And 19 is a hexagram which shows putting in a lot of effort and work.

So I wouldn't say it's a case of relax and it will happen.
Yes, a new relationship will happen, but after it happens it will need getting rid of something, and then work on it. And only then it can go well - if you put in the effort to act as described. So, a lot depends on you too, your actions, it's not a case of some 'perfect' guy falling into your lap from heaven.

 

[nAstWr]

Looking back the answers I have received in the past, I think that yi tries to talk to me but it's difficult for me to understand.
About 3 months ago I asked if sth good is going to happen in my life: hexagram 51 changing lines 2 and 4 to hex 19.
I notice that yi gives me a lot the lines 2 and 4 of hex 51. Any ideas?