3.1.4 to 45. help!

[lysithea]

I asked what can I expect regarding X and me, and I got 3.1.4 to 45
X and I were starting a very promising relationship, but from one day to the other he got into some sort of crisis and vanished from me and his friends. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks, he hasn't returned my messages.
From what I gather this could be interpreted as overcoming setbacks with the help of someone else. My I-Ching competencies are very rusty though and I don't want to interpret things through wishful thinking, so I would very much apreciate some objective insight.:bows:

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I asked what outcome to expect if I remain silent and don't intervene and I got 44.1.2 to 13 and now I am just plain confused. From 44.1. I understand that I am being adviced to not move in any direction, but I don't understand line 44.2.

 

[mryou1]

An interpretation using the Wilhelm/Baynes translation:

The Judgment:
DIFFICULTY AT THE BEGINNING works supreme success,
Furthering through perseverance.

It is a difficult situation at the start of your relationship with this "X", a time of chaos, but carry it through to whatever its end may be.

Nothing should be undertaken.

Do not give up so suddenly and move on to a new "X". Again, finish what has been started.

It furthers one to appoint helpers.

And yes, this means seek help from someone else. It's especially hard to get through difficult beginnings on your own. Maybe his friends will clue you in to what's going on.

Nine at the beginning means:
Hesitation and hindrance.
It furthers one to remain persevering.
It furthers one to appoint helpers.

The whole situation has proved a hindrance to the relationship and hesitation is an aspect of this. You need to take action and remain persevering in carrying it through. And again it's telling you to seek help with this.

Six in the fourth place means:
Horse and wagon part.
Strive for union.
To go brings good fortune.
Everything acts to further.

Reunite what has been parted between you, doing so brings good fortune and there is no need to worry, because the intent is enough to further the situation.

and reading the hexagram by itself:

fear in the face of danger changes to acceptance of what brings the most happiness (be it the relationship ending or working)

foundation of peace, yin in you, and hope for peace
changing to
your yin in this situation (unwillingness to act) becoming the foundation of a new-found stagnation, but the hope is still for peace

Mixed signals there, basically what I'm reading from all this is that it's most definitely the time to act. Letting things take their course will do nothing for you here.

 

[lysithea]

it's confusing because i already seeked help from others (asked a friend of his who ended up calling X to see whats going on and according to what the friend said, X was just homesick) I already "made a move" (actually more than one) and didnt get a response. The second reading/question really confuses me (44.1.2 to 13)
Asked how should i intervene and got 13.9 to 19. the advice seems to e in the lines of "go with the flow"

 

[mryou1]

Don't take this the wrong way, but I think when most people ask "followup" questions, what they're really looking for is a different answer. The I Ching already told you what you need to know in its first answer, and I already interpreted what would happen (stagnation) if you didn't do anything based on that answer. If you already did what the I Ching suggested in its first answer, then you were on the right path and need to keep doing that.

remain persevering

 

[lysithea]

I didn't. The follow up question was in order to get some clarity regarding the right approach, because I don't feel that what I had done in the past did any good, based on evidence (message, no answer, email, no answer, chat message, no answer, chat message 2, no answer, short email a week afterwards, no answer). I am not saying your interpretation was wrong at all, just needed some insight on the "hows" more than on the "whats". I've read that follow up questions are actually encouraged in order to gain deeper insight in a given reading.