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just try and be open minded about it. sometimes the message can be the same but the way we hear what is being said changes - I know it sounds crazy but having been through counselling and seen how my own perception of the same situation changed over time, I can attest to this.
If you are finding your counselor patronising you should say this "Hi, I appreciate what you are doing for me but what you are saying makes me feel XYZ"
It's perfectly OK to say this to anyone. I didn't know that before, so maybe you don't either.
Also, you have to cut the counsellor some slack. They are no omnipotent and it may very well be that he is not focusing on the right things. I would hope Rhinda comments to your quandry actually. If I were you, I'd shut my eyes real tight and wish very hard for Rhinda.
But, good luck, and don't give up.
If you are finding your counselor patronising you should say this "Hi, I appreciate what you are doing for me but what you are saying makes me feel XYZ"
It's perfectly OK to say this to anyone. I didn't know that before, so maybe you don't either.
Also, you have to cut the counsellor some slack. They are no omnipotent and it may very well be that he is not focusing on the right things. I would hope Rhinda comments to your quandry actually. If I were you, I'd shut my eyes real tight and wish very hard for Rhinda.
But, good luck, and don't give up.
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Hiya! ...it feels good to be asked for!
Thank you - hope I can help a little.
If you look at 19 as the background of your question - that you are in the midst of a kind of growth spurt, then the rest hangs together. I think it indicates that you might do well to realize that you are already a full partner in the therapy process.
While the therapist may have the toolbox, you are the expert on where the ouchies are, how they are affecting your life, and how things need to look for you to be satisfied when you are through with your therapy. How to get there from where you are will no doubt take some stretching from you, otherwise you wouldn't be there, eh?
If your therapist is off base with where you are now or what you want to accomplish, by all means speak up, keeping in mind that it is in your therapist's best interest to meet you at your need. Getting a new husband may be getting clarity about some new aspect of yourself that you can unite with that will give your life a new kind of fruitfulness (?)
Thank you - hope I can help a little.
If you look at 19 as the background of your question - that you are in the midst of a kind of growth spurt, then the rest hangs together. I think it indicates that you might do well to realize that you are already a full partner in the therapy process.
While the therapist may have the toolbox, you are the expert on where the ouchies are, how they are affecting your life, and how things need to look for you to be satisfied when you are through with your therapy. How to get there from where you are will no doubt take some stretching from you, otherwise you wouldn't be there, eh?
If your therapist is off base with where you are now or what you want to accomplish, by all means speak up, keeping in mind that it is in your therapist's best interest to meet you at your need. Getting a new husband may be getting clarity about some new aspect of yourself that you can unite with that will give your life a new kind of fruitfulness (?)
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