30,2 > 14 (someone new)

[oponopono]

hi,

a new person entered my life and I honestly can't tell what this is about. we are seeing each other very often and it is obvious we enjoy each others company and I do feel attracted, but I do not have a clear green sign, neither from him nor in myself. For a while I did not bother and just thought it was a question of spending time and getting to know each other - the nature of the connection would make itself clear. But lately I fell from that beautiful state of acceptance and am finding myself increasingly tense, last night I was even angry at him, though he did nothing "wrong". I perceive it is the "not knowing" that is starting to get to me. His clear investment in me can mean a great number of things, and he leaves that space open for ambiguity. On my side, I can't tell for sure whether I want him, up to now I haven't managed to fullytrust him. Sometimes I do, then I don't, sometimes I'm sure there is something genuine between us, sometimes I feel he just enjoys my company...

I have entered the emotional roller-coaster - and I hate it.
I am seriously considering a full retreat. I don't feel apt to go through another rejection.

So I asked for guidance: What is the best decision to take regarding the space this man is to have in my life? 30,2 > 14

I come to you because this means very little to me. Not even the fact that it seems auspicious was very comforting, because right now I feel torn between so many different pulling directions. Which one is auspicious? For me 30 is exactly about seeing things clearly, consciousness expansion, and I am at the opposites of that. I am clouded and doubtful. This presence of golden or bright radiance seems like there is here something I should be seeing, or cherishing, but I am at lost.

I find 14, as in "Big Domain" an interesting answer given that I have asked "how much space"....

your insights are very welcomed,
thanks
:bows:

 

[cris]

Hey Yoana! Long time no speak.

I can perfectly relate to the situation you're in and the emotional roller-coaster you describe, including the latent resentment for someone who does not make his intentions clear. Been there and got a few t-shirts

Your casting sounds totally auspicious to me. Ewald Berkers' translation:

Line 2:
Yellow radiance,
a source of good fortune.

I understand your search for definite answers, but I find that sometimes Yi simplistically avoids the nuances and just sends a blatant message. 14 is very good in general, which confirms the positive oracle. How about putting your anxiety aside for a while and keeping living this situation as it comes, nourishing the relationship and expecting only the best? I know it's hard but even from a purely personal standpoint it seems to be the best attitude. Hopefully someone more experienced will chime in and enlighten both of us

All the very best!

 

[xuesongyu]

Hello friend:
According to the hexagram, it seems that you have fallen in love with him.
Hex 30 stands for fire, civilization and attachment. Why? Because fire must be attached to something and it cannot exist on its own. Hex 30.2 means great luck for you. Besides, Hex 14 stands for a promising future(or a bright future), which shows that you may have a close relationship with him.

 

[oponopono]

Hi xuesongyu and cris,

I agree that the casting sounds very auspicious but things are taking definite turns for the worse. I totally agree with you cris, the most interesting thing would be to relax and see what time teaches me about this encounter, and for weeks I was like that, and I could see the benefits. But I seem to have fallen from that state.

I also won't argue against my growing emotional involvement, xuesongyu, though saying I have fallen in love goes a bit to far. But I was counting on him, that's true.

the next day I asked where he stands regarding us? and again a very uplifting 48,5 > 46

Both answers are very positive but what is happening feels like decay. Today he left the event where I was presenting my work without even saying goodbye. Later this night, by sheer coincidence, I was invited to a dinner where I sat in front of his ex-partner. She seemed very torn and bruised about their break-up, and between the lines I got the feeling this man is hugely unreliable.

I'm calling it quits.



thanks for your feedback, anyway
y

 

[Tim K]

Yi advises you to go the middle (golden) way. In hex 30, the outer circumstances are not changing (3 and 4), the two active lines are 2 and 5, the lines of the feelings. You want change badly but it's not happening.
You need to learn this lesson, accept this stillness. Don't break up with him, and don't get too close and emotional and needy either. Raise your awareness and the anxiety will go away.

14 says he represents a big potential, which eventually will manifest into something real on its own, without your activity.

Inner hex is 28.1(Exceeding) → 43 (Break-through)
Legge:
1. Shows one placing mats of the white mao grass under things set on the ground. There
will be no error.

28 also represents changing the old rigid structure. Placing a white mat can be viewed as taking at slow, be prepared and don't rush.


And 48.5 is an awesome line. The water is there just lower the bucket deep enough and get it.

 

[oponopono]

You want change badly but it's not happening.

Raise your awareness and the anxiety will go away.

That's great ashteroid.
I completely feel this is what I need to focus on right now, you hit the mark.

All your 3 readings were very helpful to me. Right now I just don't understand how come everything sounds so auspicious and I can't see any future into this encounter. But I must focus on regaining my center and everything else will fall into place.

The side-note of irony is that I have a pattern, regarding relationship readings, to find hope in clearly unhopeful readings. Looking at old I-Ching diaries I catch myself doing it over and over: the answer is bluntly discouraging, but I twist and turn my interpretation until I can hold on to what I need to hear: it will be fine! This time around, I keep getting these auspicious readings about someone I seem to like more and more each day, and I just feel there is something in these readings i am missing out, because it is clear there is no future to this story. (!!!!)

I wonder what is up with me some omitted expectations ...what sort of new mind game I am playing with myself...

Anyway, I loved this thread, very mind opening, great feedback from all of you, super thanks!!!!
yoana
:bows: