30.2.3.6>54

[wind]

When asking, "What do I need to know about X?" I received 30.2.3.6>54.

I understand the marrying maiden as being second. How do these two apply to what I need to know? I am totally lost on this one. What does the Yi feel I should know?

 

[ginnie]

Alfred Huang says that when we get three moving lines, we can go by the middle one. Following this rule, I'd say that X has a tendency to be grumpy and complain about his aches and pains. I don't know whether he's elderly or just tends to see the negatives more prominently than the positives.

 

[wind]

Once again, Ginnie, you are on the mark about seeing the negatives and never the positives. I don't know why I find myself constantly praying for this person when they are consistently down right horrible to me. I guess it's my way of trying to be the better person when deep down I want to hurt him as bad as he hurts me.

Thank you Ginnie.

 

[goddessliss]

Hey wind,
Furthermore I'd say Hex 54 is suggesting trying to get him to do things your way is never going to work and will only read to trouble whilst Line 6 of Hex 30 suggests you would be better off without this person and you are in no way to blame for removing yourself from the situation - Liss

 

[wind]

I think you're completely on to something there Liss. I know I did nothing wrong and I am constantly challenged to do more and more beyond my abilities, yet I do so for my kids. I'm tired of being treated like the villain when surely I have been the victim. It's like a bad nightmare that I just can't wake up from. I keep asking God for help and strength and I find myself treading weakly... all the while he smiles smuggly and lives his life free any of the hardships I have piling up.

I just wish I didn't have to deal with him anymore on any level.

 

[angelatlantis14]

When asking, "What do I need to know about X?" I received 30.2.3.6>54.

I understand the marrying maiden as being second. How do these two apply to what I need to know? I am totally lost on this one. What does the Yi feel I should know?

Hi Wind,

this is indeed a complex reading, at least it would be if it was for to me The following would be my conclusions:
54 is the general context of your question (in this case, I don't think to see 30 as the present and 54 as the future would make sense - from what you wrote you are already in the uncomfortable situation 54 describes) 54 is in my opinion mostly about being in an inferior position with no immediate perspective to get out.

However, your primary reading is 30 and that is a lot more positive. To me, 30 is a confirmation of female strenght and nurturing (Raise a cow. Good Fortune). According to the translation I am using it is also about enlightenment - which could mean that you are finally realizing in which ways the relationship with X is not good for you.

I am not sure about what to do when you get multiple moving lines - so far I have always read them in sequence, and interpreted them as the progress the hexagram I am making. Maybe you prefer another method, like the one of Ginnie which seems also a good apporach. Line 2: You are stepping into the center. Could mean, you arrived at the heart of the problem now. Line 3: The end of something is approaching. It is natural, so should not be bemoaned. Line 6: Action is required here, but with a temperate heart. Remove the bad influences in your life, but do it with kindness and forgiveness where appropriate.

These are the thoughts I would be having for this reading - but I am really still learning this and don't claim to be right

In any case I wish you all the best for dealing with this difficult situation

maui

 

[wind]

Thank you, dear Maui. What you have said makes sense and indeed has given me the strength I surely was lacking today. I do know what has to be done and I am working on it. However, the servings of nonsensical BS he is offering as side dishes is enough to sometimes knock me off my path- which in turn, makes me question my own resolve.

I need to have more faith in myself and what I feel is right. I have to learn to stop yielding to him on all levels, as I had done for the last 16 years. I have stepped into the light that no longer belongs to him, but to myself and my babies. I did not fail this marriage. He did- long before he started sleeping with anyone that would drop their drawers. I have peace of heart and mind knowing I was always a fabulous wife.

Thanks for the pick me up. I surely needed it.

 

[angelatlantis14]

Hi Wind,

you are very welcome!!! I am glad if I was able to help you a little. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation right now, but based on the reading, and your attitude I am sure it will work out well for you and your family in the end. I love your image of stepping into the light that belongs to you and your children, and not someone who is darkening it.
Again, all the best of luck

maui