30.5 > 13

[klann]

So.
I've been meeting this guy for over five months... I mean, we see each other at this place of study, but we still haven't talked to each other, we still haven't gotten acquainted although there has been strong chemistry between us. I'm totally intrigued and I can see that the feeling is mutual. As it has been going for quite a while now, I'm afraid I've started falling in love in some silly way and I really think we should get to know each other and see what happens. Maybe we wouldn't even like each other, maybe we would, maybe there is potential for a relationship, maybe not, maybe...

As we've just been looking at each other intensely and he hasn't approached me, and I haven't approached him (as I'm really old-fashioned in that respect), I've asked IC:

"What am I to do to get acquainted with him?"
and I got 30.5 >13

Line 5 I find really confusing as I cannot see how "tears in floods" can be auspicious.

Will I have to come up to him in the end? Am I to install helpers? What am I to do?! This as it is has become unbearable.

Thank you all so much in advance!

 

[pocossin]

What am I to do to get acquainted with him?"
30.5 >13

30 and 13 both suggest group activity. Line 5

Tears in floods, sighing and lamenting.
Good fortune.

suggests a dramatic activity. Could you join a group he participates in? Working together is a good way to get to know someone.

 

[ijing0509]

You have to look sad when you meet him and give him a chance (or an excuse) to approach you out of sympathy. I can see the good ending.

Wilma

 

[klann]

@ijing0509: huh... I'm not sure that faking a state which requires sympathy would be a fair thing to do, nor do I think I could do that... Besides, I somehow think that those "tears in floods" mentioned are not a piece of advice, but.. I don't know what it means or what it can mean, it really baffles me...


@pocossin: yes, I realized that group activity is implied by hex 13, it's the "auspicious tears" part that makes me confused...

No, there isn't any chance to join the group he participates in, it's too late for that... but maybe in the cafe or through some mutual friends (if any. I'll have to pay attention to whether we know some people in common, maybe...)

Thank you for the responses! :bows:

 

[Trojina]

Actually i would read this as its not possible to connect in the way you want so tears flow.

Yi doesn't always answer the question, esp if the question carries an assumption that something is feasible/possible when it isn't

However there is good fortune in the flowing of these tears so perhaps things will come okay in the end without you having to figure it all out. Perhaps there isn't anything you can do or have to do to get acquainted with him, you may grieve but possibly theres a whole other way around this. I'd see the answer as saying drop the idea, grieve and then see what happens happen. perhaps the tears cleanse your eyes, your perceptions, and you see the situation differently

 

[klann]

Actually i would read this as its not possible to connect in the way you want so tears flow.

Yi doesn't always answer the question, esp if the question carries an assumption that something is feasible/possible when it isn't

However there is good fortune in the flowing of these tears so perhaps things will come okay in the end without you having to figure it all out. Perhaps there isn't anything you can do or have to do to get acquainted with him, you may grieve but possibly theres a whole other way around this. I'd see the answer as saying drop the idea, grieve and then see what happens happen. perhaps the tears cleanse your eyes, your perceptions, and you see the situation differently

Oh, I see... I didn't see it from that point of view but yes, obviously it is not possible for some reason as it would've happened by now, I guess.

I don't think I'm going to literally grieve but yes, I should drop the idea of either making the connection there, or of actively doing something in order to make it happen. If it's meant to be, it won't pass me by, hein?

Thank you for the response!

 

[klann]

Btw, in the meantime, I have asked:
a) How does he perceive me? (though I usually refrain from asking about someone else, but...) and got hex 51 no changing lines, and

b) How are things going to develop between us and got hex 38 > 58


Hex 51, I guess, confirms my assumption that the interest I feel is, actually, mutual. Hex 38.6, in a way, repeats the idea of taking time, taking break and letting things unfold.

Right, or...? (hate deluding myself, let me know if I'm reading into it )

Thanks!

 

[gato]

i don't think rain will fall or good fortune will come with this guy ... your companion still "bites his way through the wrappings", so have patience

 

[klann]

i don't think rain will fall or good fortune will come with this guy ... your companion still "bites his way through the wrappings", so have patience

Omg, and the only thing I'm asking for (and about) is to get a chance to say: "Hi, my name is this", "Hi, my name is that" ...

When ever (and why) has simple human communication become so intricate...

Thank you for the post!

 

[gato]

Omg, and the only thing I'm asking for (and about) is to get a chance to say: "Hi, my name is this", "Hi, my name is that" ...

heh, really ?

 

[klann]

Omg, and the only thing I'm asking for (and about) is to get a chance to say: "Hi, my name is this", "Hi, my name is that" ...

heh, really ?

We, actually - yes. I'm bothered by the fact that I have started "falling in love" (not literally but in a way, developing intense interest, yes) for someone I don't know, someone I'm just intrigued by. Like a teenage girl falling for Justin Biber (or whatever that guy's name is).
Of course, wanting to meet someone always implies hope you will like that person & that person will like you. I don't know for a situation when someone wanted to meet someone hoping he&she wouldn't like that person or being indifferent.

So, yes, I do have a wish to like him (and him to like me) but I hate not being able to get to know each other on the basic level

Maybe that's what "floods of tears" are all about...

 

[Trojina]

We, actually - yes. I'm bothered by the fact that I have started "falling in love" (not literally but in a way, developing intense interest, yes) for someone I don't know, someone I'm just intrigued by. Like a teenage girl falling for Justin Biber (or whatever that guy's name is).
Of course, wanting to meet someone always implies hope you will like that person & that person will like you. I don't know for a situation when someone wanted to meet someone hoping he&she wouldn't like that person or being indifferent.

So, yes, I do have a wish to like him (and him to like me) but I hate not being able to get to know each other on the basic level

Maybe that's what "floods of tears" are all about...

The people we don't know yet are always the most alluring since we can project pretty much anything we want on to them.

You're right this has become too complicated, you need to scale the answers down to the size of the question.

Your first answer suggested there was cause for sorrow here but that led to good forune...so I saw that as actually he may not be the right person for you right now, but that turns out to be okay.


38.5 suggest barriers that can be successfully bitten through, 38.6 that what seemed great distance is not. But 38 is about radically different ways of seeing. What hes thinking and what you are thinking may have very different orientations....

58 is often alot of talking and laughing so to progress you need to talk.

Someone has to do it first .....so why doesn't he ?


To cure yoursel of fantasy love you could just wade in there and get to know him....and I've a feeling he really may not be who you think he is and you may feel disapointed but its okay. I could be wrong




I'd advise you not to ask more questions...it won't help...especially ones about what hes feeling

At this point either give up and wait for him to make a move or just start chatting its not hard....well I don't find it hard I can always find some rubbish to talk about


A great cure for love from afar is getting to know the person.....he could actually already have a girl friend


but more questions won't resolve this now

so its either

a. do nothing and wait
b. go up to him and just start rabbiting on about something, whilst smiling alot and see where it leads



Frankly though if he hasn't got the interest to come to you then is it worth investing so much emotion in all this.

 

[klann]

The people we don't know yet are always the most alluring since we can project pretty much anything we want on to them.

You're right this has become too complicated, you need to scale the answers down to the size of the question.

Your first answer suggested there was cause for sorrow here but that led to good forune...so I saw that as actually he may not be the right person for you right now, but that turns out to be okay.


38.5 suggest barriers that can be successfully bitten through, 38.6 that what seemed great distance is not. But 38 is about radically different ways of seeing. What hes thinking and what you are thinking may have very different orientations....

58 is often alot of talking and laughing so to progress you need to talk.

Someone has to do it first .....so why doesn't he ?


To cure yoursel of fantasy love you could just wade in there and get to know him....and I've a feeling he really may not be who you think he is and you may feel disapointed but its okay. I could be wrong




I'd advise you not to ask more questions...it won't help...especially ones about what hes feeling

At this point either give up and wait for him to make a move or just start chatting its not hard....well I don't find it hard I can always find some rubbish to talk about


A great cure for love from afar is getting to know the person.....he could actually already have a girl friend


but more questions won't resolve this now

so its either

a. do nothing and waitb. go up to him and just start rabbiting on about something, whilst smiling alot and see where it leads



Frankly though if he hasn't got the interest to come to you then is it worth investing so much emotion in all this.

Yes, it would be totally ok to be disappointed and YES! I have to stop asking questions! That's an excellent advice!

I'll just do my stuff and see what happens because, I also don't see the point: had he wanted, he would've come to talk.

No more questions! Thanks

 

[Trojina]

I hope you'll let us know how this turns out

BTW in old films the way a girl gets a guy to talk to her is by dropping her books (or something) nearby and then he rushes over to help...and then they look into one anothers eyes....and then...and then.............they do this and more !


you could try that

 

[klann]

I hope you'll let us know how this turns out

BTW in old films the way a girl gets a guy to talk to her is by dropping her books (or something) nearby and then he rushes over to help...and then they look into one anothers eyes....and then...and then.............they do this and more !


you could try that

Hahahahahahahaha!!

Well, you sure did put me in the good mood!!

I could try dropping things, yes

I'll make sure to tell you how it turns out - whenever it happens.

Thanks again!!

 

[bradford]

Why aren't you asking the question: Why would the Yi say good fortune at the end of this image? That''s where the key to it is.

 

[klann]

Why aren't you asking the question: Why would the Yi say good fortune at the end of this image? That''s where the key to it is.

Hm... never asked a question of that sort, I'm curious..... how do you mean?

You think I should ask: "Why is there a hint of good fortune in the reading?" or "What action/attitude would bring good fortune?"

I'm not sure I'm getting it...

 

[bradford]

The progress of this line has a lot in common with 38.6. There's a big buildup of tension and emotion and other stuff that's mainly just in your head. The reality is a lot simpler once all of this stuff gets worked out. And at least there is concern and not apathy. Sometimes the relief alone, of not having to go through it anymore, if fortunate enough.