31.1.5.6 to 30 Having a child

[Zebulon]

Hello everyone,
I need help with the interpretation of hexagram 31 to 30. I asked the I Ching what the most important thing for me is towards having a child.
I was in a more friendship kind of relationship for about two years, but it just didn't feel right no matter how hard I tried and decided to end it a few weeks ago.
Since I'm at the end of my 30's I thought that this guy would be my last chance to have a child, but trying to keep the relationship alive started to cause more pain than joy.
I like him a lot, he's very good to me, but again it just didn't feel right. I I think that these thoughts and feelings made it impossible for me to become pregnant. I feel better now, but sometimes I panic about time running out.
If you have any thoughts on the reading please share them with me.
Thank you.

 

[blue_angel]

Hi,


"What is the most important thing for me towards having a child?" Answer 31.1.5.6>30.

31-Advice is to first be available, open minded, take some action, flirt, and get out. Then you connect with someone, go through the steps of being courted, and have your potential husband/father.

Line 1- This is not something you can rush. Things will have to fall into place in their right time and place.

Line 5- Be realistic, dig a little deeper into yourself and what's going on with you.

Line 6- Take actions towards your goals and then have faith.

30- Let your light shine, this is after all the best way to attract others. Could also be saying lighten up about this.

Suggestions... have you considered adoption?
Artificial insemination? Or the possibility of
having your eggs saved so that you can have a
surrogate mother later? End of your thirties... I've known women to have children
as old as 45. Its rare, but sometimes older. The reason for my
suggestions are... if your main goal is to have a child, its kind of hard to
build a new relationship, if all of your focus is on how you can have a child.

Best wishes on your journey,

Blue_Angel

 

[Zebulon]

Thank you Blue_Angel,
your interpretation makes lot of sense. Most things in my life(right job, buying a home etc.) did fall into place after working on myself and trusting that it is going to happen at the right place and right time. They didn't have anything to do with emotions, though = I could achieve them easier then something that depends on my feelings.
The hexagrams seemed rather positive than negative to me, but I wasn't sure as I am no expert. I find your interpretation very encouraging.

And yes, I have to let go of the child idea in order to let it happen naturally. I might as well enjoy the two years before my forties without stressing about the biological clock.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Best wishes
Zebulon