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zumi

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Hi everyone, there is this fatal attraction I developed to this guy. We have a history, tried to be in a relationship, it did not work out. Last week I accidentally met him on the street, we started texting and decided to meet. I don't know if we are soul mates, but we could feel each other, I wanted to be friends with him but he told me he attracted to me sexually. I met him just to hang out, but the chemistry was so strong, we ended up making love. But the worst part is that i told him this doesn't mean anything, I tried to be cool about it and not to lose myself again. I have to say I was in love with him, and I suspect I still am. I asked I Ching about the potential of our relationship and got 31.4 changing to 39. I do agree with that insane attraction that is mutual, I just don't feel right telling him that that night didn't mean anything. Besides, I had this rule before to have a exclusive sexual relationship, now I broke it. He asked me about that and I said rules are made to be broken :(. Now I am afraid to see him again, because of obstacles like me falling for him again. Also, hexagram 31 talks about the correct way. I don't know what is a correct way to follow. And the line 4 symbolizes a heart, does it mean we could really fall for each other? Please help me to get an insight, I did research on the site, but every situation is very unique. I decided to keep low profile, but how to be with him?

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Hello friend:

Hex 31 stands for love, 31.4 means that you are falling in love with him.
Hex 39 stands for "walking with difficulty", which means that it is difficult for you to build a good relationship with him. So I think you'd better not make further development of your relationship.

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Thank you, but it also means mutual attraction, so according to hexagram 31, hemay fall in love with me. But there also mentioning of manipulation, I am afraid he might make an attempt to manipulate me. On the other hand, line 4 also means that I should stop worrying about the situation, besides, hexagram 39 means obstacles that are possible to be overcome and to become stronger. So I am totally confused. What if he contact me again? Maybe he is falling for me too?
 

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Hello friend:

As is shown in Hex 31.4, both of you fall in love with each other. Hex 39 tell you that you need to overcome so much difficulties to build a close relationship with him.
I Ching just shows you the situations and gives you suggestions, then you should make decision on your own. For example, if you actually get ready to overcome all the difficulties, you could try contacting with him.

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Actually, I have just reread about hexagram 39, and this background hexagram doesn't sound optimistic at all. It seems like our relationship is doomed. I don't think about him as a life partner, but we are magnetically drawn to each other by an insane chemistry. Since I decided not to settle down yet, it works for me. But I am not sure if it's worth a trouble. I think my previous demands and irrational behavior confused him too much. He was the one to break up with me... I will wait and consult I Ching again about his feelings. Thank you xuesongyu.
 

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I asked I ching again "What does he think about me" and I have got 17.4. It says that he may be insincere and flatter me in order to manipulate me. Is this correct?
Thank you, Bradford, but if we are so attracted to each other, what can be bad about this?
Please help me to interpret hexagram 17. 4. Overall, positive hexagram turns into 3, where line 4 suggests trickery from his side? Does he only want to use me for sex?
Thank you very much.
 

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Or does the line 4 in hexagram 17 mean that I have to be sincere with him? That is how he sees me? Is it me who is following him or him who is following me?
 

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I couldn't help it. I asked I Ching if he loves me ant got hexagram 43.3.4.5.6 < 41. I know, I may be obsessed over nothing, but I think I am in love with him and getting such a complicated answer from Oracle confuses me even more. Please, give me a constructive advice, regarding all three h exagrams I got, asking about the X. I am driving myself crazy. Thank you, I would really appreciate any feedback.
 

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"Insane Chemistry"

we are magnetically drawn to each other by an insane chemistry. Since I decided not to settle down yet, it works for me. But I am not sure if it's worth a trouble... .

Zumi, having recently pulled out of an "insane chemistry" relationship, I understand where you're coming from. I really like your first reading, 31.4 > 39 for where this relationship is going. Though the pull to be together is strong, the I Ching indicates that there's nowhere else to go with this attraction.

Insane Chemistry can be very painful, crazy-making, and time consuming to get over, even when you know you don't want the guy forever. Why put yourself through it?

Perhaps you could ask I Ching what type of a relationship would work for you at this time, before you are ready to settle down.

I wish you the best, whatever you decide to do. It's your call.
 

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Poised, thank you very much. I really appreciate you, sharing your own experience. I will ask I Ching those questions, as you advised.
 

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