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31.4.6 > 53 What is holding me back from relationship

elllybellly

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Hey guys,
I cast 31.4.6 > 53 and I think I can clearly see the answer but I am curious about your interpretations.
Hex 31 speaks of being open to advice, get rid of all the prejudice in your mind, be receptive.

Line 4: Be constant in your visualization of a partner, currently I am wishy-washy, my heart isn’t in it.
Line 6: maybe I just say I want a partner but I don’t really want one.

Gradually I am preparing for a new partnership, 53.

Thank you all :)
 

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Hello,

Seems like you need to lead the attraction toward the gradual process of forming a relationship. 31.4: At first there are doubts & that's not a bad thing. You should pursue the relationship until this shaky phase passes. 31.6 talks about "oral persuasion" (Bradford)- maybe you need to show more affection, or whatever needed to forward a relationship, through the words.
 
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Hi banjomary,

I had this cast twice, in the far past.

In the first instance, I was asking if it was a good idea to write to N (a guy on a dating app, who I didn't really like but I was trying to distract myself from someone else who didn't want me). I did write to him, he replied, we exchanged some empty words, and that was that. The situation with him never evolved in anything different, we never even met because I didn't feel like meeting him.

In the second case, I was asking about if I could do anything so as 'to be the one' for A (please note the futility of this question... I knew it already back then that there was nothing I could do, as he was a player). This was another dating app fiasco. We had a short affair with A, then it fizzled out as he wasn't interested in anything substantial, and then we reconnected months later because I made the mistake to reach out to him. Of course it turned out that nothing could be done, he was not interested in 'one' woman, he was interested in great numbers of women.

So the common point of both stories is that they were both futile, leading nowhere, and I knew it. 53 meant that the situation would continue to evolve exactly as it looked like from the beginning (in a confusing, empty manner).

Applying all this to your question: are you investing your energy in futile situations, which don't have substance, and which already show signs of not leading anywhere?
 

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Hey guys,
I cast 31.4.6 > 53 and I think I can clearly see the answer but I am curious about your interpretations.
Hex 31 speaks of being open to advice, get rid of all the prejudice in your mind, be receptive.

Line 4: Be constant in your visualization of a partner, currently I am wishy-washy, my heart isn’t in it.
Line 6: maybe I just say I want a partner but I don’t really want one.

Gradually I am preparing for a new partnership, 53.

Thank you all :)


I think it's a question of time here. Both actual time and you giving things time to develop and giving yourself time to know what you want. I say that from 53, the change lines and also change patterns 35 and 5.

53 describes the slow courtship of a lifetime pair. It describes anything that evolves according to custom and the usual process of things. There's no shortcuts

31 that which pushes and pulls you into relationship. I think it's quite a clear answer really, quite specific anyway on how you can change towards finding relationship. Line 4 from Hilary in wiki

'Constancy brings good fortune, regrets vanish.
Wavering, wavering, going and coming,
Friends simply follow your desires.'

You may need to spend more time just getting clear about what would work for you in a relationship. Are you sure you feel ready to commit ? Also are you spending enough time with people/places you already like or feel drawn to ? Familiarity makes relationships grow. If you show up each week for a gathering for example you become part of the group quicker. Whether you know it or not you are on some level 'wavering' not sure, maybe there's someone in the past you still hold to. In any case this is something you need to know you actually want. You said this already in your own interpretation.

31.6 is often the line where there's talk no action. There are pressures towards wanting a relationship but are you sure you do ? It might help to talk less about this to other people to save energy to fuel and grow your own intent. If 31 is to do with magnetising, creating and receiving vibrations that push and pull us together, then it's a kind of force an energetic force and your reading shows this to be a little diluted and hence not so powerful. It could be powerful especially with the 53 there so it seems to me you could slow down, gather your wishes, let them speak for themselves, let them gather momentum in order to come into the kind of relationship you want.
 

elllybellly

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Hey everybody, sorry for the epic delay and thank you all for taking the time to reply to my question.

Diamant, yes you are right about maybe putting my resources into something futile. Trojina was spot on about just taking the time to see what it is I want to be putting my time into first.

This was back in 2019. I dated a lot of people over the past 3 years, and it took me a while to find out what I actually like and need. But I'm happy to report that as of Feb 2022, I am finally in a relationship where I feel super happy and secure. No guarantees but it feels like the geese are happy :)
 

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