32.1.2 > 55 Could she be the right fit for me when the time is right?

[Amau65]

Hello,

It’s the first time I post on this forum. I am a non native english speaker, I’m sorry if my english is poor…

I asked IC about a girl I met 2 years ago. I had never experienced such feelings.
Since Covid-19, I couldn’t meet her again. I consider this person as my soul mate. It’s a really long story but I know she has trauma and is not able to open herself to love for the moment. She break up with her boyfriend, emotional dependency.
IC told me with no doubts that I had to give time to the situation. The connection and the feelings that she provides me are the most uniques I could experience in my whole life. There is nothing with pure physical attraction, even if I consider her as a really pretty girl.
I’m not in contact with her anymore, the time is not right at the moment (confirmed by IC), she has to evolve and I have to do the same on my own path.

I decided to ask IC if she could be the good person for me in the right time.
I got 32.1.2 > 55

I also asked if the relation could be successful if I wait the good moment (pretty much the same thing).
I got 34.6 > 14
I know that now I have to go ahead and continue my road through life, but I have this feelings that this story is not over and still has potential.
What do you think about that ?
Thanks for reading me

Regards

 

[diamant]

Hi @Amau65 ,

if she could be the good person for me in the right time. 32.1.2 > 55
There's no 'marriage' between you, so I'll assume this is referring to her relationship with her ex. Their relationship is not exactly what it used to be (32 is changing), but it is continuing, they have given it further chances (55). So is she a good person for you, I don't know, but you considering her a soul-mate sounds one-sided for now.

if the relation could be successful if I wait the good moment (pretty much the same thing). 34.6 > 14
The line is a warning to you, to not delay too much. Because you risk missing the right moment and simply getting stuck and unable to do anything about it.

 

[Amau65]

Thanks you very much for your answer Diamant. She broke up 4 months ago.
I asked aswell if a deep emotional relationship could exist between us some day and I had
54.4 > 18. (Sorry about my english, this must sound cringe, Idk)
Visiting the forum I understood this line like this : this could happen in time, when she will be ready for this and when the circumstances will be favorable.

thanks for your help.

 

[diamant]

Your English is more than fine!

I asked aswell if a deep emotional relationship could exist between us some day and I had
54.4 > 18.
I guess you mean 54.4 > 19, right?
54 shows a love triangle. The right moment for marriage is missed in line 54.4. Then the 'maiden' awaits to marry someone else in the future. Not sure what's going on here. Are you single yourself? I cannot see any deep emotional relationship in this cast.

 

[Amau65]

Sorry for my mistake,
I checked and I had 54.1.4.5 > 29 which sounds really bad.
I don’t know what is the appropriate question to ask. Knowing it’s complicated at this time and the answer would be negative if I ask something concerning the present of this situation.

 

[diamant]

54.1.4.5 > 29
Someone is happy to take an inferior position and plod along. But in that way they miss the moment for marriage. The person they like marries someone else due to other benefits. Resulting 29 shows that this dangerous scenario will be repeated. So will there be a deep emotional relationship between you some day? Not according to this cast. Too many people involved.

You say that you are convinced you are soul mates. I just don't know, maybe you are projecting your feelings on her? What makes you believe that she sees you as her soul mate too?

If this was my issue, and my precious time getting invested, I would ask two questions:
- Result on my life if I keep waiting for her?
- Result on my life if I try to find someone else?

 

[Amau65]

Thanks for your answer and the time you are dedicating for me. I hope this could help people in the future with the same hexagram.

Concerning the story, I can’t wait longer. I know I have to go ahead as this situation is very complicated and I must live my life for the moment because the situation is kinda locked. I see that as maybe a longterm project (you may think Im insane )
I asked these 2 questions this way :

what is the result on my Life if I keep the plan to look for her later ? (Sorry for the bad translation of the original question asked french)

Result : 46.2 > 15

What is the result on my life if I completely give up this idea ?

Result :

10.2 > 25

Thanks again for your precious help.

PS: About this soulmate story, I have that feeling I know this person for years, that feeling I can understand her. Something that can’t really be understood, a kind of evidence.

 

[diamant]

No I don't think you're insane. Human emotions are a weird thing, I know

what is the result on my Life if I keep the plan to look for her later ? 46.2 > 15
A small sacrifice will bring modest results.

What is the result on my life if I completely give up this idea ? 10.2 > 25
This one sounds worse than the previous one, since the question is about your love life. Loneliness (10.2) and no sex, no entanglement (25). So according to your casts, go with keeping your plan. Even if it doesn't yield any spectacular results, at least it's not as lonely as this one.

 

[Amau65]

That’s seems not very optimistic. Thanks for your help diamant.

 

[diamant]

You never know exactly how things will pan out, and the I Ching is tongue-in-cheek sometimes. Perhaps you'll meet someone great for you, while you're still on your quest for this lady. Just a thought. If you asked me, I'd say try to forget her asap, but the I Ching disagrees and thinks just keep on exactly like you are now. Perhaps her situation will change, perhaps, perhaps a lot of things.

 

[Amau65]

Thank you Diamant.

Every body is telling me to forget, as you advised me. I have tons of reasons to do so.

But sometimes, I think that our inner feelings are the best guide we could find.
Thanks for your time, your help and the help you provide for those who needs.

Vous êtes un vrai diamant.

Best regards.

Amau