33.3.6 > 45 Twice

[precision grace]

Can you help me work this out please? I just can't figure out how 33 and these lines connect with 45 be it present or future or whatever.

i got it twice for two related question, one being what X & Y want me to do and the other about why is X mad at me . So, I get that I should retreat. I thought I had retreated, but I guess my mind is lagging behind my actions? I got this same answer I think some months back in relation to the same X and it's been a bit of a bungled retreat I guess, so now I'm waiting for 33.6 to be able to completely move on. Is this it, though, am I missing anything?

Thank you :bows:

 

[Trojina]

Can you help me work this out please? I just can't figure out how 33 and these lines connect with 45 be it present or future or whatever.

i got it twice for two related question, one being what X & Y want me to do and the other about why is X mad at me . So, I get that I should retreat. I thought I had retreated, but I guess my mind is lagging behind my actions? I got this same answer I think some months back in relation to the same X and it's been a bit of a bungled retreat I guess, so now I'm waiting for 33.6 to be able to completely move on. Is this it, though, am I missing anything?

Thank you :bows:

I don't think you got it wrong. 45 can be about gathering oneself together, self integration. if the relationship with other person has made you feel 'undone' or 'beside yourself' as if you are not really yourself, feeling scattered, 'in pieces' and don't all the love songs talk about being left 'in pieces'...then withdrawing allows you to gather together those pieces once more. And thats often the point of withdrawing in 33 to save your self, to keep it whole.

Withdrawing has been more hard and tangled than it should have been maybe things kept you together...and often in 33.3 tangible assets, activites, places keep you together, ie theres some kind of resource sharing....and come to think of it the 45 may also be referring to this, that the background of your relationship is in context of a shared resource, a group, maybe a group of friends, colleagues etc so of course its not so easy to withdraw cleanly (33.3) but you do in the end (33.6) and feel quite pleased about it ....and going with my first interpretation of 45 here you feel more in one piece


On reflection I feel it more likley the 45 is showing the backdrop to the relationship...a group thing...but aspects of 45 as in bringing yourself together may still apply

 

[precision grace]

thanks Trojan, that's really helpful and what I sort of thought as well. Wondering if 45 is about facebook because that is the only joint platform we both have access to. I have often thought that these people (and X in particular) often ascribe meaning to my comments and posts that I never intended. Like they think everything I say on there is some sort of message to or about them. I may be delusional about this to be fair but it would sort of fit this particular reading.

 

[Trojina]

Facebook terrifies me. Following an invitation I once joined....for 20 minutes...i couldn't get out fast enough.

What really freaked me out is that automatically, without my permission....the facebook machine must have read all my email contacts, ie anyone who had ever emailed me, and made them 'friends'. How can it do that...how does it have access to my email list how can it read all my contact list without my permission ?

Whats more it doesn't even let you fully leave...it will only suspend your account...its totally freaky..why do people use it ?

I'm genuineally asking. I often wanted to ask but thought it was something everybody already knew....I mean doesn't it mean that anyone you ever went out with can contact you ?

 

[precision grace]

Hm, I haven't had that experience although FB does my head in with its continuous attempts to invade my privacy. A lot of social networking applications try to integrate with what you already have so that you will have less reason to not use them, hence the attempt to add all your email contacts as friends. It really shouldn't be able to do that and I don't know how it does, but this happens with other applications too, like Google + etc.

I think it will delete your account eventually, after a long period of inactivity, but I am not sure. I think it always suspends it at first, hoping you will change your mind and come back.

For me, it's a love/hate relationship. I have been able to reconnect with a lot of people I lost touch with over the years and can sort of keep in touch without actually keeping in touch. This is probably not very good because it gives me a false sense of being in contact with people when I'm really only looking at their photos and reading their comments. But it suits me as I get easily overwhelmed with actual proper contact.

You can set privacy so that you can only be visible in limited way or sometimes not at all if you so wish - which means if people you are not friends with search for your name on FB, your account won't show up in the search.

It's not for everyone, to be sure.

 

[answeredquestions]

I am upset with FB as well. I have an account, and it seems every time they create a new feature, which is often, they automatically assume that you want it the most public it can be. Rather than being smart about it, and setting the option to private in the beginning, they do the opposite and you would have to manually go in and change it... if you even know it exists. Also, their security options are all over the place and very unclear. I just went in last week and went thru all of them.. at least I THINK I got them all. I made all of my artwork albums private as well. I just purchased a website domain for this instead. I don't think I want my art on FB anymore.

I am not ready to delete my account with them, I am interactive with FB. I will look into this, but does anyone know off hand .. if I DELETE a picture, is it really gone? I feel like someone down the line told me that even if I delete things, FB still has them on file .. Something like that..

I have been very lax in the past on FB and regret it. I am not really going to be like that anymore. It's good to be as aware of things as possible but not cut yourself off of the communication wheel. I wouldn't be too upset without FB though, mainly it is just my friends and I joking back and forth, sort of like tending the fire while we are apart. But it is not necessary.

33 to me really fits into the conduct of FB. It is very easy to comment away, post a picture etc and not really think about it. 33's wisdom applied to socializing on the net is to be private or at least to guard yourself from harm (which we all know, there can be harm from "putting ourselves out there" too much on the internet). 33 goes on to say to keep small people at a distance. This not only applies to daily physical interactions, but it can be applied to FB quite well. It's a security option issue IMO.

45 as an environment to the situation. FB is where everyone is congregating. There are no giant bodies of water that cannot be crossed here. So it is a GREAT example of 45 in general and hence the extra need for security.