34.1 > 32

[Mayorka]

Does he want me sexualy?
34.1 > 32

Any interpretations?

 

[WanderingRaven]

Does he want me sexualy?
34.1 > 32

Any interpretations?

34 is conditional: very powerful, but only positive when used in the right manner, rather than a strong and unconditional yes.

"
Cleary (1): Thunder is up in the sky, with great power. Thus do superior people refrain from what is improper.

Cleary (2): … Developed people do not do what is improper.
Judgment: Control yourself.

The Superior Man does nothing that is not in accordance with the principles of the Work."

34.1 suggests strongly that taking this action would not be wise, and would lead to bad outcomes:

"
Blofeld: Power in the toes. [I.e. power of a rather low or limited kind.] To advance now would bring misfortune.

Liu: Power in the toes. Actions lead to misfortune. This is true."

The reading I'm seeing is basically: "if he does, this could backfire. Be careful."

The Yi often answers multiple, interconnected questions, I think that is what is happening here. Hope that helps

-WR

 

[marybluesky]

Yes, he does, and badly; he needs to control himself.

 

[Trojina]

Guessing his mind? Not a good game really, doesn't work.

 

[Mayorka]

Yes, he does, and badly; he needs to control himself.

It could be the right interpretation... However his behaviour has confused me... It's interesting to share some other casts:

Does he have feelings for me?
34.2>55
(One more line of hex 34)

How will he feel when we meet?
11.5 >5

Do I attract him?
11.2.5 > 63

Twice the line 11.5

I asked also if we make a relationship how could be involved:
14.5 > 1

Anyway, we are similar characters very strong personalities that I am really worried that we couldn't be together for long...

 

[marybluesky]

You receive really beautiful lines:

34.2>55 Yes he does, and he continues to have feelings;

11.5>5 feels like a pleasant happening you waited for;

11.2.5>63 yes, absolutely, he just wants to be with you;

14.5> 1 Let your reality shine.

 

[Trojina]

I don't think it is possible to be so confident about what another feels via readings and I think it's a real trap, a danger where you start believing Mary or anyone else over what he communicates to you.

The dangers are listed here if you haven't yet seen it

Blog post: Advice for relationship readings

Most people seem to get started with the Yijing by asking about a relationship. It’s a good way to start: it’s present, immediate and something you care about – when you ask these questions, you’re really asking them. It’s also potentially tricky, that mix of getting started with overwhelming...

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There's also some advice generally how to navigate relationship readings.

It's a very common and distressing pattern whereby people start to build an idea of a relationship upon not what on the other party is showing them but through building a picture through the I Ching. And of course the more questions you ask the more likely you will cast answers that show what you want and the more lost you can get.

Hopefully Mary is right but be careful of building things up through readings. It's him who needs to show you what he feels, none of us can possibly know and it's unfair to him to presume to know his feelings better than he does and so until he does show you you have to take it as an unknown.

If he wants you he needs to show you that otherwise you don't know where you are.

And 34.1 could easily be taken as warning you off this line of questioning. It really cannot just be taken as 'yes he wants you' with any degree of certainty.

 

[dfreed]

Does he want me sexualy?
34.1 > 32

Based on this and your other questions, it seems your asking this about a total stranger, someone you've never met, is that right?

Line 34.1 reads, 'Strength in the feet ....'. This means that if he is capable of movement, he's likely capable of being sexual.

 

[Trojina]

No, if memory serves there's lots of threads on this person I think like this one

Love Attraction

I had asked about a man in my life who I am interested but he seems to be stuck in his past and there is no interest towards me.. The answers seem to show there is no hope between us and a lot of times I have received 23 unchanging. The thing is... yesterday I asked I ching about and I told: I...

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Love attraction to be continued....

One more time about the man that I wrote you on my previous posts.. We had a meeting yesterday and it seems that there is a mutual admiration and understanding... I can't recognise if this is just a friendship or there is an attraction here... but anyway I have to face it for a long time, every...

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I assumed this is about the same person in which case more and more questions probably won't help.

If you look under the name you can follow the story, it's not there in isolation.

It may be about a new person but given the depth of feeling I had thought it was about the same person.

 

[dfreed]

If you look under the name you can follow the story, it's not there in isolation.

I don't usually dig into previous posts in order to respond to the current one. And i also asked because she said " How will he feel when we meet?"

But whatever her answer is to my question, it's just a question, not my interpretation.

 

[Trojina]

I didn't make it clear why I advised you to look at previous threads. It was in response to this comment of yours

Based on this and your other questions, it seems your asking this about a total stranger, someone you've never met, is that right?

What I meant was if you had seen previous threads you'd know this wasn't a stranger, it's someone Mayorka talks to a great deal in person.


That's the point of looking back at threads sometimes. If there's a whole series of threads on someone a person has spent much time talking with then to assume it's someone they never met takes you on the wrong tack. It's just a suggestion therefore if unsure to check out previous threads one may have responded in.

I don't see why you'd assume it was someone she never met? 34.1 doesn't say that. Nor do the questions really suggest that do they?

I mean maybe this is a whole new person but I don't get that impression.

 

[dfreed]

Mayorka talks to a great deal in person.

Again, I am only responding to this post. And for Mayorka to ask about his sexual desire and 'How will he feel when we meet?' makes it seem as if she's talking about someone she doesn't know and certainly has never met; ergo, he seems like a stranger. You may assume differently or draw different conclusions.

 

[Mayorka]

Trojina is right. My posts are about the same person.
Our relationship is professional but I feel a strong attraction.

 

[dfreed]

Our relationship is professional

Thanks for clearing that up. But this makes me wonder, if you have a professional relationship, why do you ask, "How will he feel when we meet?" Haven't you already met with each other? (Your question makes it seem like you have never met.)

 

[Mayorka]

Thanks for clearing that up. But this makes me wonder, if you have a professional relationship, why do you ask, "How will he feel when we meet?" Haven't you already met with each other? (Your question makes it seem like you have never met.)

As I wrote we have a professional relationship. Of course we meet each other in meetings. I asked how is he going to feel when we meet because we have to see each other for long and we talk only on the phone (around 1 hour in every call).. We have a meeting tomorrow and I am wondering how is he going to feel when he sees me...

 

[Mayorka]

If he wants you he needs to show you that otherwise you don't know where you are.

Exactly. I am not going to make any move towards a relationship with him... I am wondering if he is thinking better to finish our work in order to make a move... Actually, I have received 63.2/5 about him... so yes... What belongs to me it will come to me...

 

[Mayorka]

As about his ex, casts show that sooner or later he will get rid of her...

 

[dfreed]

As about his ex, casts show that sooner or later he will get rid of her...

Mayorka, which Yijing casts are you talking about? And 'sooner or later' sounds like a really big and uncertain timeframe - from later today to 20 or more years from now.

 

[Trojina]

Yi casts aside for a moment - it may be a good relationship, you had 61.2 twice didn't you in previous threads, he may like you, he may be attracted to you, I imagine he is given he pays you much attention, but if he's not making suggestions to date or anything like that then it's slow torture for you and maybe you need to draw boundaries for yourself to stop yourself getting too hurt.

It's an old book now but it's message 'He's Just Not That Into You' was and still is important, I recommend it. I'm not suggesting he's not into you, that's just the book title, but that book did stress when a man wants to be with you he generally makes sure you know about it and acts on it. I just think that book cut through so much confusion for women as most women are ever ready to make excuses for a man/find reasons why he's not making an actual move despite constantly signalling interest.

Also beware game playing. In another thread you said he wasn't game playing but what I mean is in work situations it's so common, even with no actual ill intent, for men to signal so much interest and yet remain actually unavailable. And this is very confusing - I can't tell you how many women I know this happened to including me. The bottom line is you could end up suffering a great deal so I think you may have to set firm boundaries for yourself. If he isn't asking you out, if he isn't calling you up and asking to see you then can you afford to spend your time on him even if you like him and he likes you?

Looking at the casts above and thinking of previous very nice casts you do have a thing together clearly BUT that doesn't mean he's ever going to act on it and if he isn't then life is too short, you need someone who won't leave you in any doubt he wants you and who is prepared to actually date you and moreover date you and pay attention to you without ever mentioning his ex. You don't want someone going on about their ex all the time do you, no one would. If this current guy does want you he needs to shut up about his ex.

 

[dfreed]

Does he want me sexualy?
34.1 > 32

Mayorka, in post #8 above, I was trying to address the 'sexual' part of your question, but here I want to give a more complete interpretation:

Line 34.1 is, "Strength in the feet. Attacking will bring misfortune. There will be captives." (trans. R. Rutt)

I think 'strength in the feet' may indicate sexual attraction - after all, having sexual feelings is as natural as walking, or breathing! However, the Yi's full response makes me wonder if you are asking the right questions, or focusing on the right things. The rest of the line reads:

"Attacking will bring misfortune. There will be captives."

This might be a prediction (seeing into the future) about your relationship with this guy, but I think it is saying, that simply having someone sexually desire you does not equate to a lasting, loving, positive relationship. People can 'desire' one another, but - in the extreme - still have a relationship that feels more like an attack, or want relationships which make someone else a captive.

I did as someone suggested and looked at your other posts about this relationship. Within less than a month and a half you have asked at least a dozen questions, and gotten many, many hexagrams and lines.

Your questions seem to be entirely focused on this guy - on another person: does he desire me? How does he feel? Will he let go of his ex? Is he interested in me?

In many ways these are natural questions we ask about someone we're attracted to. What I wonder is, is this all you are seeking - to have someone desire you? If not, perhaps there are other questions you could be asking (and other aspects of a relationship you can be focusing on) - that are about trust, communication, commitment, friendship, shared interests - and I think these are all aspects of a healthy, supportive relationship.

These are all as important - and perhaps in many ways more important - than sexual desire. And these can have - or do have - as much to do with you as they do with another person.