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scorpioontherun

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The questions what decisions will he take concerning me and our relationship?
Background: it is still the same person I wrote about friend/lover, always pushing back a little but not going anywhere eather. Basically we are an old couple without ever being one. We both feel in different ways that the situation cannot stay the same for long. Today he wrote me that he is thinking a lot lately ... I know it involves us .. so what decisions will he take. I do love him and I want to be with him but sometimes it is like being on a rollercoaster, he says he loves me (not in a I love you think but more in care very very very much for you .. I don't find a word in english for that), he cares not to hurt me, but sometimes he does, for clumsiness more than anything ... well the i ching spoke
37.3.4.6 to 17

So the 3rd like sounds like right now but 4 and 6 sound good .. I do not want to hope ...
Maybe he want to give our relationship a form, a structure that we could follow, I don't knoW. Thankyou for any ulterior idea you may want to share
Scorpio
 

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In a formless long-term friend/lover relationship it is easy to sink into the stagnation you describe. (As another scorpio, I can appreciate the creeping depression that comes with this situation.) You correctly grasp that the old yin (4th line) rules this reading.

37 generally talks about the necessity of clearly defined roles and boundaries, starting in relationships and expanding through all society.

4th line -- You are the treasure of the house :) and the real center the relationship. Your correctly relating, acting in everyone's best interest rather than ill-defined or selfish motives, holds things together.

17 is about following what is true in yourself. Only then can you be true to others.

The reading as a whole strikes me as cautiously hopeful. As you and your friend seem to realize, the situation cannot continue in its current rut for much longer. If you're going to be "a couple" then commit to that, if you're going to go separate ways, commit to that.

It is very important that you establish your own boundaries and that the roles in the relationship be clearly defined. This also means requiring your partner to be true to himself, and correctly relating to you rather than doing hurtful things. His "clumsiness" may be his way of testing you to see what you will put up with, or to force a break-up without taking responsibility for it. The more you put up with, the worse his behavior may become...

All the best---
 

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Scorpio on the run.

I think you worry too much. There is certainly nothing disappointing about the reading. The one thing I would suggest, quit worrying about it and let it take its course. It seems to me you read too much into what people say. Women seem to be really good at that. They analyze everything a man says for some meaning when all he is doing is shooting off his mouth. Don't worry about it. If you want to know a specific direction things are going, ask him. Then accept the answer even if it doesn't make sense to you. It will in time. Relax and enjoy life.

Gene
 

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Thank you so much both of you .. I think I'm worried of losing him at the same time I feel frustrated ... maybe i should ask how i can overcome this frustration i'm feeling. As i said in anoter post I do not want a super committed relationship, moving in together marriying having children and bla bla, been there done that. I would just like to know i'm his girl .. how womanly silly of me :)))
 

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