37.3.5 - 27 dream

[whiteowl]

had a dream last night about my ex girlfriend. when we broke up it wasn't in good conditions, after a few months she met somebody and got married. now she lives on another continent. even though she's been on my mind every day for the past 2 years, i don't remember dreaming about her very often. actually not at all, but in the past 2 weeks, i've already had 2 dreams about her.

in my last dream she moved back but single, without her husband. we met in the dream and at one point embraced, and that felt really good for me, like i got something off my chest.

asked about the meaning of the dream. got 37.3.5 to 27. i actually thought about 27 while divinating because i've been watching a tv show where the female actress looks like her, and i thought hmm what are the odds of me watching the show and thinking of her make me have this dream.

any ideas about 37 and the moving lines?

 

[der_wanderer]

my guess would be, that you want to have a family with her - that would near you (hexagram 27)

maybe you should ask if the option is on the table

 

[whiteowl]

but isn't 27 about the things that make us? we are what we eat, the info we expose ourselves to and accept, etc

 

[mryou]

I'm using the Wilhelm translation on this, so bear with me.

37. The Family

THE FAMILY. The perseverance of the woman furthers.

In interpreting your dream. It indicates that you still view your ex-girlfriend as a part of you. Your "family", so to speak. And you need to consult either a woman's opinion or use a woman's interpretation in this. Maybe ask your mother or sister for help, or simply view the dream from your ex-girlfriend's shoes.

Line 3

When tempers flare up in the family,
Too great severity brings remorse.
Good fortune nonetheless.
When woman and chile dally and laugh
It leads in the end to humiliation.

Here you have a choice, you can either face the situation headstrong by contacting your ex-girlfriend with your grievances and, while it probably won't work out and leave you sad due to your bottled up feelings, it'll get the situation off your chest. Or you can contact her trying to be friends. There's a warning in this that it'll end in some form of humiliation, due to the interaction being insincere and based on "warming her over". But this is the choice you face. Then again, the I Ching (imo) isn't an indicator of unbreakable fate. It's a book of situation-based advice. You can still simply do neither.

Nine in the fifth place means:
As a king he approaches his family.
Fear not.
Good fortune.

Full of confidence, if you approach your subconscious "family" (ex-girlfriend), there is no need to fear. Whatever happens will lead to an improved situation because you'll be facing what's been in your mind for so long. This line's another indication of your need to act.

Leading to 27, Providing Nourishment, indicates that the dream and the I Ching, when followed, have the potential to to nourish you in a spiritual sense. By reuniting briefly with your ex you can have that last goodbye and this will build you up to move on.

And personal advice, be careful and don't intrude to much or be too creepy if she has a husband. Just contact one or two times to let go of those lingering crappy vampire feelings that are clogging up your brain.

And also, all this is just my interpretation/opinion.

 

[der_wanderer]

yes, its your decision what you eat in a physical and spiritual way

and i guess you think that you think that your ex is something that would taste good for you and make you a happier man ;-)

the hexagram 27 is not only a categoric imperative - it also shows what you think, want etc.

 

[whiteowl]

@ wanderer i was actually thinking like...if i keep thinking about herself, i'll only maintain this state of nostalgia over the years. which is true.
@mryou i definetly miss her, i miss having her part of my life. i can definetly see the family picture now, since we were at one time very close, we both have feelings for each other. so we're still a family. too much discipline (not talking to each other) isn't good, although it doesn't do any damage so in a way is favorable but neither starting loosing sight of our places (starting talking and fooling around) wouldn't be good.

and yes, the correct way to approach this would be 9 on 5, the mature way.

btw, very funny parts about the vampire feelings ) i could definetly see a picture of me stalking the windows