37.4.5 to 30 and two more - follow up

[libelula]

Well, I've been doing questions about my new job, and where I am at, and how to deal with lots of things as my new job comes with some history that I am trying to let in the past, but it is sometimes difficult. Anyway...

I asked today: what is my position in my job? and received 37.4.5 to 30. Well, it seems for the response that I am better positioned than what I though. I still would like your insights, that usually help me enormously.

Also, I see my relationship with my boss (which whom I had a sort of affair in the past) as a mountain that I have to climb. I cannot go back to the past because is gone, I cannot stay where I am with my fears because I need to move on. But at this moment I am in the middle point. Sometimes I want to give up completely and disappear or erased the whole thing from my life, but actually, I know that I am in the right place, doing the right thing and following my path, ... but it is so hard.... It is clear to me that my boss is totally over with whatever we had, so the problem is only with myself. Sometimes I feel that I am over it but I see some differences between the treatment he has with my coworkers, where obviously he feels freer, and I just lose whatever peace I gained. Right now, I feel that seeing him and see his behavior is like a toothache for me. But I have no more option that climb this mountain...

What's the reality in the relationship between us? 6.4.6 to 29 (argh! but expected)

What's the best I can do to have a good relationship with him? 50.1.4 to 26.

What's the best way to avoid situations with him that bring me a sense of unbalance? 9.2.3.5 to 27


I appreciate your help as always!
Libelula

 

[rosada]

The reality in the relationship:
6.4
One can not engage in conflict.
One turns back and submits to fate,
Changes one's attitude,
And finds peace in perseverance.
Good fortune.

The way things are right now, the distance between you is inevitable. Don't try to talk things over, work things out, whatever, just let it be.

6.6
Even if by chance a leather belt is bestowed on one,
By the end of a morning
It will have been snatched away three times.

Even if you could force some moment of friendliness, the good feelings wouldn't last long.

29.
If you are sincere, you have success in your heart,
And whatever you do succeed.

So don't be disheartened, keep to your path, you're getting stronger every day.
-Rosada

 

[rosada]

To have a good relationship with him..

50.1
Remind yourself you are only in relationship with him for the sake of your job so a "good relationship" requires only that he be a fair boss, not necessarily a friend.

50.4
If he can't be that and things don't mellow out he'll lose you, in which case you can chalk this all up to having been...

26.
A Learning Experience.

 

[rosada]

To stay balanced..

9. Dress well.
27. Eat well.