Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Hi everyone, I got 37.5.6 to 36. as an answer to my question; what I should do about the relationship? Background about the relationship is that we have been seeing each other for two months now and he seems really intense for such short time. My feelings are constantly changing, the only stabile feeling I have is that I cannot fully trust him. He already asked me to marry him, and I kindly told him that it is too soon and it is a matter of another time. I am sure we are not there yet, and I don't know If I am going to be there ever, but I do have feelings for him.So what do you think? I understand that if I can be more decisive, there may be a chance to grow something real from here but in the end I will take responsibility of a "home"?
what I should do about the relationship?
37.5.6 > 36
I had this exact cast when asking what to do about a very attractive guy I had met on a dating website. It started great, we shared things about ourselves, etc., and I definitely started having some feelings. Not long after, it turned out that he was after dirty pics, something I'm not into at all. He really persisted for a short while, and when I reminded him in clear words that I was after a real relationship, the whole thing collapsed and I never heard from him again.
37.5 - He approaches the (notion of) 'family' as if he's a king who's entitled to get anything.
37.6 - If the woman is strict and persists on her principles...
36 - darkness.
Of course you don't trust him. You've said before that he's a womanizer, and has problems with work and finances. Would he make a good husband? He sounds like a freeloader.
I feel he is hiding something from me.
He also asked me to marry, but a secret wedding just as to avoid feeling guilty with God.
You mean the secrecy? That's what made me suspicious.@Olga Super Star
that's a Big Red Flag!
I doubt he has a wife, he's very young and it would appear so from social networks (I went to lurk around his brothers profiles). I think he just wants to have sex but since he's telling himself he's very religious, he has made up this non existing wedding between me, him and God without signing any piece of paper.I see two likely reasons he would say that.
1-he wants to hide it from his wife.
or
2-so he won't feel guilty when he leaves you. (I didn't marry in a real church or anything.)
Avoid any man who divides women into the ones with whom you have sex and the others you can marry. A guy with such a viewpoint won't fulfill either type because he doesn't see women as humans with different needs.I think he just wants to have sex but since he's telling himself he's very religious, he has made up this non existing wedding between me, him and God without signing any piece of paper.
Don't accept. It's one-sided.He also went so far as to say if I love him I should just accept his religion.
This sever religious background makes people think they are saints while they aren't. A really religious person should believe in their faith and not look for the turnarounds. I don't think his heartless, porn-like view of sex helps to fulfill you. Too mechanical, if not objectifying and insulting.So he's just playing the spiritual type while he's not - his sexual requests were porn-like, but of that I am not surprised as I know young people today watch a lot of porn and think that's how you have sex, especially refugees who get here with no family and have a strict religious background.
I understand girl. But don't overthink it. Put your energy on other aspects of your life.The more I think about it, the more furious I get.
It was so unimportant to you you forgot? If it was so unimportant you forgot what made you post in the first place? It baffles me when people say this. You started the thread in Jan 2019 and never returned till today when you have posted a new thread wanting answers again. But you will probably forget that one so I'm not sure there's any point in replying.I totally forgot about this one. Here is the update: It was ended because he had a long term girl friend.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).