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hello,i asked - what is the best thing i can do to my benefit in my relationship with x?got 37 unchanging - family dutiesI was wondering if it would be best for me to hope and act for romantic development or if a friendship that is growing with this person would be the goal and stop my thoughts that come from my attraction and longing for more.I felt a connection since we met, coincidences happen between us. Like i perceive things, i made the effort to start the friendship and most of it to maintain it and now i feel some reciprocation, just don't know what is the best thing to do with this reciprocation.Tomorrow i'm gonna go meet my family, and X gonna go next weekend to theirs (knew today) could this be literally describibg that? it's not very helpful to my question.I'm grateful if i can have some insights about this hex and my question
 

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I think maybe the answer points to the context , the whole context of the relationship and what's possible within it.

For example where is he in your life, is he part of a group of friends or is a colleague, what role he has to you is quite important because some roles make it quite hard to change the tenor of a relationship.

So I think this answer is asking you to be quite clear about what his role is and then see what's possible and how it fits with yours.

For example if he is a teacher of yours then his role confines what relationship he can have with you at the current time. If he is a family friend then you have to consider where you fit into the network of all those relationships. If he is a colleague you have to think about how it would be possible to have a relationship given the roles you both have.


It is a difficult answer to interpret given the question but on the whole I think you have to think a bit wider than just you and him, you have to fit into the whole context, network of relationships that surround you both. If you can become more a part of his world and he of yours that may make the relationship far stronger. Perhaps you could get to know his friends and family better. I feel he is very much connected to his family, he may not be but if he is then your relationship with him is part of the whole circle of relationships he has around him. Where can you fit into that ?
 

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Thank you, your insight makes sense and i have a point of view to think about :)
 

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