Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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Lodestar
visitor
- Joined
- May 21, 2013
- Messages
- 291
- Reaction score
- 9
This is my pattern: Meet new friend who is very extrovert & pretty. Always starts out well, they are positive towards me, then the odd comment about how others haven't treated them so well, or they just butter me up saying what a 'nice' person I am. There will be gifts, or dinners bought, usually a little extravagant to drawn attention to how generous they are (but it always more than evens out as I pick up the bill for lots of small things that don't draw attention). Then somewhere down the line, I notice an unfairness, that's probably been there all along, because right from the start I allow the dynamics, by listening to them, encouraging their dreams, and they take the attention and run, never returning it in kind.
A friend from the past has re-entered my life & I'm starting to wonder if this is yet another repetition. What drew my attention to it, was how unwilling she was to help someone else out in a real definitive way - yet is so quick to ask me to help her out. Also at no point in my knowing her has she ever encouraged my career, though I have given her quite valuable practical advice. I asked the iching, is this a repetition of this pattern?
39.2.3.5-7 Limping - Army
I have helped so many people in my life, yet again and again it happens me that I draw in egotistical people who despite being 'nice underneath it all', just use me. And always it happens through a process of them accessing my good-natured desire to help people.
It would kill me to experience this again, especially as I am more creative and talented than any of the people I help. I know a big part of my healing is to stop helping others and follow my own star, so I ask, even though it feels selfish - what if I simply opt out and focus on my own needs and career?
9.2.6-63 small taming - already across
Any feedback on this most appreciated!!! It's quite a longstanding and emotional topic for me.
Recently I've made some new friends who are very different, they never dominate the conversation, they are not dramatic and they seem to really value me and care for my well being. It's such an unusual experience for me, but really highlights that what I've accepted as friendship..just really really hasn't been..
A friend from the past has re-entered my life & I'm starting to wonder if this is yet another repetition. What drew my attention to it, was how unwilling she was to help someone else out in a real definitive way - yet is so quick to ask me to help her out. Also at no point in my knowing her has she ever encouraged my career, though I have given her quite valuable practical advice. I asked the iching, is this a repetition of this pattern?
39.2.3.5-7 Limping - Army
I have helped so many people in my life, yet again and again it happens me that I draw in egotistical people who despite being 'nice underneath it all', just use me. And always it happens through a process of them accessing my good-natured desire to help people.
It would kill me to experience this again, especially as I am more creative and talented than any of the people I help. I know a big part of my healing is to stop helping others and follow my own star, so I ask, even though it feels selfish - what if I simply opt out and focus on my own needs and career?
9.2.6-63 small taming - already across
Any feedback on this most appreciated!!! It's quite a longstanding and emotional topic for me.
Recently I've made some new friends who are very different, they never dominate the conversation, they are not dramatic and they seem to really value me and care for my well being. It's such an unusual experience for me, but really highlights that what I've accepted as friendship..just really really hasn't been..
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