39.2.6 > 57 how to proceed in a relationship when one partner is awake

[spiralshadow]

I'm in love with a very intense, introverted guy. The last time I saw him, almost 2 months ago, we opened up to each other and then he disappeared. I've been giving him his space and taking this time to meditate, although I did reach out to him a few weeks ago. We were in communication for about a week where he kept trying to see me with no advance warning and at the most inopportune times, before disappearing again. This person is deeply important to me as he triggered my spiritual awakening, although he himself seems to be asleep. I want to know how I should proceed and got 39.2.6 changing to 57.

 

[ginnie]

39.2.6 > 57

If you proceed, this person will bring more troubles into your life. You might ask yourself why you need to pursue an unaware person like this. Wouldn't you be a lot happier if you just let him go?

 

[spiralshadow]

Ginnie, thank you for your response. It didn't use to be this way between us. I went on a trip that I had been planning for months a few days after someone in his family died and things haven't been the same since I came back. I thought things would get better after the last time we saw each other but he's still distant. I really care about him and feel a strong connection that I can't shake.

 

[ginnie]

Oh, I see the situation better now. I am thinking that even though you didn't do anything wrong, it might be good if you apologized to him for leaving on a trip right after the person in his family died. He might be thinking you abandoned him when he needed your presence or that if you were a caring person that you would have canceled your travel plans. It really is a case of needs that came into conflict, I think. He needed you to stay and you needed to go. Even though it isn't a matter of right and wrong, I am thinking that an apology would soothe him.