39.3 > 8 on whether to let go of certain perceptions

[AdaHudson]

Hi, everyone!

I asked the oracle today: "Outcome of letting go of my perceptions about relationship w/ X?" and received 39.3 > 8. This was kind of a follow-up: I had just gotten 39 uc when I asked, in regards to a creative project we're collaborating on that I'm doubting, "What if I give up on this project with X?" The person who I was referring to is someone who I met while traveling years ago. We had a strong connection and have kept in touch through the years, along with seeing each other again a handful of times. There's something of a romantic undercurrent but given the huge distance, I don't allow myself to even toy with the notion of a relationship. That being said: I've never met someone that I felt so close to on a fundamental level. Lately this has been translating into a feeling of lovesickness...am in a constant state of missing and distraction and wishing. The dopeyness makes me wonder if I've overestimated the nature of our friendship, that my imagination ran wild and created this "connection" where there isn't any. A painful feeling.

I interpret the 39.3 as maybe I can't force myself to detach from my emotions -- that I'll end up feeling what I feel until things run their course. Earlier I asked "What should I know about mine and X's relationship as it stands now?" and got 1.1.4.6 > 48. I found this interesting because of our creative collaboration, and I did have a big move a couple months ago. Other than that though, it's a really confusing response to me. Would love to hear any takes on either part of this!

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi AdaHudson,

"Outcome of letting go of my perceptions about relationship w/X?"​

39.3 to 8 ~ You will preserve the friendship.​

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"What if I give up on this project with X?"​

39uc ~ You will avoid trouble.​

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"What should I know about mine and X's relationship as it stands now?"​

1.1.4.6 to 48 ~ It's too soon to go to the wishing well.​

The theme might be that you are a little out over your ski tips at the moment, but there's still time to restore balance and have a good landing?

In the case of 39.3, you are at the top of the Mountain. On the other side of that Mountain is a deep chasm flooded with a torrent of emotions (desire) roaring through it. And, beyond that formidable obstacle on the far side is X.

Your brewing passion for X would have you take the leap into the raging river of your flooded emotions in haste to get to X, but, but, but, that is not the advice for line 3?

Line 3 says to turn back. So, rather than stepping-off into the abyss, you turn back to stay on the Mountaintop in the stillness of the Witness Position in order to let your True Self, free from the ups-and-downs of emotional turmoil, see X for whom he is, rather than whom you hope, or dream, that he will be?

So, perhaps slow down the pace of involvement with the project, and relax back into a longer view of the relationship as a friendship with good upside possibilities?

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Although I am not a therapist, I think you are right not to try and detach from your emotions ~ it's much better to honor them from the stillness of the Witness Position ~ but you can refrain from indulging your emotions? It helps to have a ritual for diverting your energies away from constantly dwelling on the same object?

If you can hold back to watch in stillness, and you like what you see, then you'll have the confidence to walk on water to be with him?

I hope this helps!

 

[rosada]

Your original answer included 1.6, a warning against going too far, and now you get 39.3, "The connection and belonging you seek is not to be found along this path" (Hilary). So it seems pretty obvious a romantic relationship is not happening. So what to do with your feelings? I've heard it said that we like people not so much for who they are, but for who we are when we're around them. That is, we love people who bring out the best in us. He brings out your creative side it seems. I wonder if you were to throw yourself into creative projects of your own now, if that would result in you being strong enough, able to sense your own path and thus being able to tolerate being around his energy more without getting pulled off balance?

Anyway, who knows how much time we've got? Don't waste it! Blow him a kiss before you go to sleep at night but focus on YOU during the day.