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ChangingOne

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Hi everyone,

Things have been going well in my current relationship but we live in different parts of the country. I have wanted to move for years but didn’t have a calling to a particular place and always thought if I did move it would be with someone rather than upping sticks and being on my own somewhere new. I asked what the outcome would be if I relocated to live with my partner and got 4.2 changing to 23. I have seen people talking about a student teacher relationship and working out who you are in the scenario. I have a difficult family life with strained relationships, I note it talks about taking ownership of the household, could this be something to do with that?
Any thoughts on whether this is more positive or negative? Generally, I’m aware that it might be saying it’s not something you can know until you do it..
 

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The line looks positive for your question. I have found this line tends to mean bringing a certain amount of spaciousness and openness to the relationship. It could also mean that if you move the focus will mostly be on the relationship/home/inner world (for example, I’m not sure what your job prospects are out there or what community would be like for you). You received a nice line for what you’re asking about. I think having very human expectations and patience will go long way.
 

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I looked back at when I cast this and one thing I’ll say is that it did involve immaturity and me being frustrated by it. I think there is a fresh, open innocence to this line, just also remember that sweet things can be frustrating too. So how do we approach it, can we ask for help (since there will be things up ahead that aren’t as simple as the initial decision.) It’s still a nice line and I think 23 resulting is about focus. If you make that choice, be 100% where you are, leave the past behind.
 
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4.2 says to me that you know how to handle where you live right now but you are looking for a broader experience.
23. Splitting Apart suggests moving would give you a chance to release old warn out patterns.

It reads to me as if to say that you are motivated by a feeling it's time to clear out the closets, get rid of old clothes and connections but it doesn't seem to say what your new life would be. Also 4.2 seems to say that you're doing pretty well where you are right now, so to be cautious about jumping into a whole new situation where you may not know the ropes or have the support you have now. Together I think you should start where you are now trimming down to make a move easier but also watch to see if new paths don't open up as you're doing this. You may find that after simplifying your life as it is you find your interests take you off in as yet unseen directions.
 

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Sounds like a good omen: you strip away the old place, then there is a woman, a youth & a home.
 

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Just wanted to post an update on this as I realised I didn’t reply! My current situation still stands, I still haven’t moved but I know now that I definitely want to. It’s not an easy move though, I have A LOT of responsibilities at home and a very difficult relationship with immediate family who I see everyday due to illness and having to help out! With this looking like it won’t ever improve, I rather feel as though I’m abandoning those that need me so I don’t feel good about wanting to move on the whole. My partner and I are now wanting to try for a baby and feel it would be best we live together once I’m pregnant so this will ultimately decide the timings for us. I still haven’t communicated my want to move with immediate family. I need to, but again it’s complicated and frankly I’m terrified what their reaction will be (more so one particular member of the family who suffers with mental health issues and depends on me). Ultimately the reading seemed positive on the whole and I thank you all for your replies. I will post an update here once my situation changes.
 

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Appreciate the update! Good luck with the next steps.
 

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Just wanted to post an update on this as I realised I didn’t reply! My current situation still stands, I still haven’t moved but I know now that I definitely want to. It’s not an easy move though, I have A LOT of responsibilities at home and a very difficult relationship with immediate family who I see everyday due to illness and having to help out! With this looking like it won’t ever improve, I rather feel as though I’m abandoning those that need me so I don’t feel good about wanting to move on the whole. My partner and I are now wanting to try for a baby and feel it would be best we live together once I’m pregnant so this will ultimately decide the timings for us. I still haven’t communicated my want to move with immediate family. I need to, but again it’s complicated and frankly I’m terrified what their reaction will be (more so one particular member of the family who suffers with mental health issues and depends on me). Ultimately the reading seemed positive on the whole and I thank you all for your replies. I will post an update here once my situation changes.
Wow! This is a great read and thank you for the update!
All the best for your family plans … it’s amazing.
 

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Re-reading this I realized my first interpretation wasn't really answering the question you asked.
You asked:
What would the outcome be if I relocated to live with my partner?
I saw your answer, 4.2 - 23, as describing your current situation as livable and worried that changing to 23 meant relocating would lead to a Collapse of some sort. After giving this a second look I think 4.2 is describing what your situation would be if you relocate - that is, I think it's saying that if you relocate you have what it takes to set up housekeeping, rather than it being any comment about your current housing. If that's the case then I think changing to 23 is emphasizing how such a move would create a total change in how you connect with your family. Not to say you couldn't make it on your own but 4.2 is such a young innocent soul, really unprepared for the harsher realities of life, that getting this line might be urging you to plan more specifically how you would manage before you burn any bridges.
Perhaps there are questions you could put to the I Ching to help making your move less stressful. Like, "What should be my attitude about moving at this time?" If you get 5.4 you'll know it's time to go!!
 

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Re-reading this I realized my first interpretation wasn't really answering the question you asked.
You asked:
What would the outcome be if I relocated to live with my partner?
I saw your answer, 4.2 - 23, as describing your current situation as livable and worried that changing to 23 meant relocating would lead to a Collapse of some sort. After giving this a second look I think 4.2 is describing what your situation would be if you relocate - that is, I think it's saying that if you relocate you have what it takes to set up housekeeping, rather than it being any comment about your current housing. If that's the case then I think changing to 23 is emphasizing how such a move would create a total change in how you connect with your family. Not to say you couldn't make it on your own but 4.2 is such a young innocent soul, really unprepared for the harsher realities of life, that getting this line might be urging you to plan more specifically how you would manage before you burn any bridges.
Perhaps there are questions you could put to the I Ching to help making your move less stressful. Like, "What should be my attitude about moving at this time?" If you get 5.4 you'll know it's time to go!!
This actually makes a lot of sense to me, if I move it wouldn’t just be more difficult to see my family but I might be cut out of the family entirely. I mean, I’m only going to be an hour and a half away by train but one family member in particular is likely to shut me out entirely because they won’t want me to go and because they see me everyday and rely on me everyday. It’s funny I actually didn’t realise at the time of reading that this line was telling me to plan for how I can make this work before doing it, but that’s exactly what my partner and I have started doing. We anticipate the move will happen around a year from now, we don’t know exactly when I’ll get pregnant but this gives me the time I need to try and rename things back home such as care etc. I will definitely ask the I Ching again and see if anything has changed.
 

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