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I recently have been thinking about a guy I deeply fell in love with 2 yrs. ago, as his little brother kept apearing in my dreams lately...the guy lives in another country. We chatted quickly 9 mos. ago, feelings are still there...wanted to see if it's worth hanging on to my silent prayer that we were meant to be.

I asked the Yi: Is he my truemate (life partner)?
4.2
"It is wise to be gentle with the young and inexperienced. In this way they can respond and grow to become capable of responsibility. Relationship with the opposite sex can now flower. Responsibility can be handled."

...Also a week ago when I had a dream, I asked the Yi: The romantic attitude I should have with him?
8.2
"The origin of standing by is inside. Determination auspicious.
If you want to function well in your group, then be a real member, in your heart. Just doing all the right things is not enough, if you are not really committed the others will know. Accept them the way they are, even if they are weird, be proud of your group, even if it is a motley crew. All your actions will testify what you feel, so make your feelings great."


So does this mean hope? A relationship can potentially flower? Shall I stand by patiently? Or stop being immature so that I can give myself a chance for a new relationship? And for me to stay strong within myself?
 

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I recently have been thinking about a guy I deeply fell in love with 2 yrs. ago, as his little brother kept apearing in my dreams lately...the guy lives in another country. We chatted quickly 9 mos. ago, feelings are still there...wanted to see if it's worth hanging on to my silent prayer that we were meant to be.

I asked the Yi: Is he my truemate (life partner)?
4.2
"It is wise to be gentle with the young and inexperienced. In this way they can respond and grow to become capable of responsibility. Relationship with the opposite sex can now flower. Responsibility can be handled."

...Also a week ago when I had a dream, I asked the Yi: The romantic attitude I should have with him?
8.2
"The origin of standing by is inside. Determination auspicious.
If you want to function well in your group, then be a real member, in your heart. Just doing all the right things is not enough, if you are not really committed the others will know. Accept them the way they are, even if they are weird, be proud of your group, even if it is a motley crew. All your actions will testify what you feel, so make your feelings great."


So does this mean hope? A relationship can potentially flower? Shall I stand by patiently? Or stop being immature so that I can give myself a chance for a new relationship? And for me to stay strong within myself?

I really like 4.2, so many possible applications. One is self-dependency. This may indicate that each one of you has some individual skills/education and experience, aside from whatever you decide to do together. That means the likeliness of some big changes in your relationship(s).

8.2, holding to him inwardly, perseverance brings good fortune. Yes, think this could be a potential budding flower. But I share the position that, one to whom we attach ourselves with such optimism is really our search (and lust) for unity within ourselves. This guy you fell deeply for is to you a projection of your own inner animus.

I love how Campbell animates this with his story of falling in love, and one day realizing after being together awhile, this is not his anima. So he has two choices really. One is to accept that deep romance, as wonderfully intoxicating as it may be, is largely ones own projection of their inner opposite. The second was to go to his wife and say, I'm sorry dear, but you no longer fit my anima projection, so I must find someone else who does, and leave.

Everyone who has been through the heady romance to the reality of two lives shared together, knows something changes. That's why one who is hooked on that rush of romantic or erotic feelings is likely to look elsewhere for it eventually, unless the couple can be creative and find ways to reignite that fire. It's so sad when it goes out and a couple gives up. But inside them, at any age, is that lust for a real romantic experience. Campbell called it ones own organs' lust for one another.
 

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Meng,
Thank you for that interpretation! That was an awesome breakdown :) Bless
 

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4.2 becomes 23; No hope at all. 23 means two persons walk away back to back as friends.
8.2 becomes 29; 29 is a three pairs of lines conflict hexagram. For romance and love, there is no flower and fruit at all.

I am sorry to tell you the above.
 

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Just went out for looking what Long Yi has written and *SHOCK* he is right. I also wrote it down, hoped he has done (unlikely) a mistake. Actually not a good sign for relationship, but I neverthless liked much what meng told you, in general.

But in this case the predestinated developement seems not to be well. Neither 23. nor 29. is something you should try to get in. I unfortunatly have had a lot of experiances with both hexagrams and I can`t recommend to go onward in this case. Sorry, dear.

Best wishes Yvonne
 

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Pruning the rosebush isn't the same as cutting it away from its roots; though not enough water in summer or not being protected during winter's frost will kill it completely. Relationships are likewise. Pruning is healthy and creates a greater yield of roses. It's when folks don't bother to look beneath the surface of their love projections that they get into trouble, usually repeatedly, or even habitually (29).

23 is often portrayed as a total loss, but getting to really know someone is also 23: peeling back the outer layers to see what's beneath the 22.
 

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Infinite thanks to the all of you Long Yi, Forty Two & Meng, you guys have really put it into perspective for me. I am in so much gratitude that my lingering feelings can finally be put to rest.
It was the medicine I truly needed! I am free.
May the sun shine bright on your paths :)
 

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