41.1.2.3 > 52 Will I clearly know who to choose?

[sofia]

Hello, I have been accessing this site for the past few months and have learnt a lot about the IC through the shared readings and exploring divination sections and it has been a beautiful and enlightening journey - thank you

I asked for clarity a couple of times at the start before continuing on my merry way to translate my own IC readings of which there have been many....this I have loved exploring......but I'm back again because this question is kind of the culmination, the end I feel, of this particular journey in my heart and life and I would love your assistance clarifying it.

I asked the IC "Am I going to clearly know who to choose out of L and M?" and I received 41.1.2.3 > 52

L is someone from my past who I met over three years ago and experienced an inexplicable connection with in the short time we were together, which subsequently ended disastrously! He shut me out for all these years refusing to communicate but I believe he has now finally seen the truth of our situation (and has evolved to a beautiful clear place for himself) and is ready to approach me with some explanation and a way forward. I have followed where he's at with things via the IC and through other tangible signs and I've received some pretty clear answers. I wear my part in the fallout but am still very hurt and sad at times that it has taken him so long to do the same even though I've also accepted that his journey was different to mine. So there's still a bit more I have to swallow...

M is someone new who I met about 4 months ago and is the first guy I've felt such a connection with since L. I didn't consciously hang on to L all these years even though my heart did i.e. I've done my fair bit of dating and enjoyed a couple of brief relationships that fizzled out quickly, but no one has really grabbed me until M. I believe he feels the same and the gradual build up between us has been so sweet and spiritual. I can't stop thinking about him. But I also can't stop thinking about L. It has been an overwhelming and emotional 3 1/2 years and I still miss him!

I'm now torn (in my heart mainly since both situations haven't really fully evolved) between the two...

So 41.1.2.3 > 52

Line 3 is particularly uncanny! Talking about 3 becoming 2 and some interpretations suggesting there's jealousy with 3 so it's not an appropriate situation.

Karcher says about line 3:

"This means the three are doubtful: If you are involved in a triangle, it will soon become a couple. If you are alone, you will soon have a friend. You acquire the Inner Companion. A time for great direction. Let yourself be led. The situation is already changing"​

Any clarity would be appreciated.

thanks

 

[willowfox]

The answer suggests that it is you who will find another lover sometime in the future, you will leave these two in the past where they belong because there is no action here so there is no need to chose.

Move on.

 

[sophie]

Hi Sofia :bows:

this hexagram seems to suggest that you need to get back to the very basics of the situation - which lie within yourself. At this stage, you are not in a position to choose.

Master Huang's translation for the first changing line (initial nine) is:

"suspend one's own affairs
hurry forward, no fault
weigh how much one can decrease"

I would take "affairs" literally in this case! Suspend them both and then see how far you can go back to your own basics.

The second changing line (second nine) suggests that the situation is not ready for you to make a choice and advance in the direction of either of these men.

The third changing line (third six) suggests that you will, eventually, make the right choice - either between these two men, or by leaving both as Willowfox suggests, and finding a new man after a period of singledom.

The future hexagram 52 suggests that you need to sit still, find quiet in yourself and not make any kind of decision at this stage, except that of reducing the situation to its bare essentials (41). That alone will give you the focus you need.


Good luck!
Sophie

 

[sofia]

Thank you both of you That does make sense and I am definitely in that 'still' place already even though my past comments may have suggested otherwise. And yes there is no real movement in both affairs - one being more on my part i.e. hesitating and putting him off really.

Interesting Willowfox that you see it as someone new and me moving on from both these fellas. I'll let you know if that eventuates down the track.....

As for your comments Sophie

The second changing line (second nine) suggests that the situation is not ready for you to make a choice and advance in the direction of either of these men.​

Very True!

The third changing line (third six) suggests that you will, eventually, make the right choice - either between these two men, or by leaving both as Willowfox suggests, and finding a new man after a period of singledom.​

That is encouraging and heartening! I'm sure I will make the right choice as I don't make such decisions lightly.

The future hexagram 52 suggests that you need to sit still, find quiet in yourself and not make any kind of decision at this stage, except that of reducing the situation to its bare essentials (41). That alone will give you the focus you need.​

I feel this is what I'm very much doing now. Does the fact that it's lines 1, 2 & 3 suggest the IC is reflecting the "now" time rather than the future? Because I do feel that it is simply describing the situation exactly how it is

Thank again for your responses. Very much appreciated.

Namaste

 

[sophie]

:bows:

I feel this is what I'm very much doing now. Does the fact that it's lines 1, 2 & 3 suggest the IC is reflecting the "now" time rather than the future? Because I do feel that it is simply describing the situation exactly how it is

Quite often the I Ching just tells us - you're doing good, quit worrying and keep doing what you are - that's the way through this situation. It seems like it is the case here, and by giving you the explanation, the IC is putting it all in context, and acting as a mirror for you.

Blessings

 

[sofia]

thanks again Sophie

 

[seethis]

This is an intersting interpretation by Sophie. I got the same result, 41.1,2,3 changing to 52 feeling disappointed because this is what I am doing already. Being in a loving but sexless marriage for years and pondering whether this can change in the future, meaning whether sexual love can come back or not. The Yi is not giving a clear answer. Considering that I have tried to have affairs (emotional or sexual) to see whether this would solve things, channel my unhappiness through the avenue of distraction, only to find out that it doesn't work for me. I am glad I found this out and I didn't have to become clean over this either because I found this out by myself. I certainly cannot be with more than one woman. There are also economics. One cannot just disolve a long-term marriage if there is shared property involved. There would mean reduction too, not only for me but also for my partner from whom I am thinking to separate. There is also social reduction, like friends and family, who would be impacted and loss of some kind would inevitably occur. So, I guess I have to carry on walking alone for the time being, keeping still (not looking actively for disctration), but not in a passive but in a reflecting way until sufficient clarity kicks in of what the right next development is most likely going to be. I guess a reasonable recommendation by the Yi, though not easy, hey?