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41.1.3.6 to 46 improving relationship

2and4 the1der

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Hi everyone, my first post. I love Hilary's interpretations for the automated readings here and usually understand how they relate to my questions but I'm completely stumped on this one.

My question to the Yi was "How can I improve my relationship with my significant other?" That was the best I could do formulating a legitimate question. This is a new relationship within an old one...we've been connected for 16 years, have children together, have been through separations, intense fights, and standoffs where we were just roommates that stayed out of each other's way for a couple of years most recently. I kept thinking I wanted to end it once and for all so I moved out. This, coupled with genuine self inquiry on my part that led to forgiveness and acceptance of him finally and realizing my own responsibility in what was causing us to not work out, culminated in a rekindling and falling in love again. We've had the best summer of meeting up every night and dying to see one another. It's been so good but exhausting so we live together again...we couldn't wait to! Now that we live together, I miss him calling every night not being able to wait to see me, getting "I love you" texts and I feel insecure again, worrying that maybe he doesn't want to come home to me because it's not as exciting. I know this is the natural way of things and we'll have to work at it to not fall into a rut...and I want to (wu wei) work at it without working at it, or forcing anything and letting love deepen naturally if it will continue to do so. So my question was more a feeling, an insecure one, where I feel like I need to do something, because I feel disconnected and alone now that I'm living with him. Normally I can get the gist of what the yi is saying to me but I'm lost on this one...and there's not many related posts to glean insight from with this particular hex and moving lines.

I see decreasing as backing off a little and allowing him space to come to me like before when err weren't living together....and pushing upward and seeing great people...not to mean getting counseling because I don't think we need that but in my own inner vision seeing great people as my inner source of inspiration...seeing ourselves or myself as not just little ol us (J and D) but seeing us more spiritually, archetypally and working toward that? Maybe? Would love some insight.
 

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Hello,

Hexagram 41
Line 1 - You must reflect carefully how your actions might take away from others. Are you needy and demanding?
Line 3 - You moved forward with someone and someone needs to drop out or move out. Three's company. You need to go at it alone for awhile and you will find a true companion.
Line 6 - There is no harm in wanting to improve your relationship if it's to your benefit, as long as you don't deprive others. Do it and persevere and you will achieve good fortune. You will find help in how to go about it although your privacy is going to suffer.

Is there someone else living with you? Someone needs to drop out if there is a love triangle.

This is essentially a situation of growth. The best way to go about it is to combine many small achievements and build on those. See someone of authority who can guide and help you and stop worrying.
 

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Thank you =) line 3 was interesting to me too. We just moved back in together..in a new place and timing couldn't be worse with my brother showing up with from hundreds of miles away with nowhere to go. It's definitely not the way to have a new beginning. My brother and husband are friends but have very many opposing views and argue politics a lot. I feel I have to compete with my brother for J's attention and feel pretty invisible most of the time...it makes me feel needy and demanding but I'm not. Hoping my brother can find his way soon. Seems like with my husband there is always a third somewhere....whether it's a friend, or stopping for a drink instead of coming home in time to see me or his diabetic blood sugar crashes and I end up sleeping alone. Happens too much. =( thanks for answering me.
 

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2and4 I agree with your thoughts about taking a step back and giving him space.
This 'limiting factor' gives excitement, and this was demonstrated by the summer you had.

41.1 and .3 and .6 speak about giving space, less effort.
.3 depicts this cycle of emotions - when alone the desire grows, when too close the desire goes.

41.1 → 4, then
4.3 → 18 (Managing Decay), Wilhelm:
Take not a maiden who. When she sees a man of bronze, loses possession of herself. Nothing furthers.

Again take a step back, give him something 'to conquer', to work for the attention :)

18.6 → 46 (Ascending), Richmond:
He does not serve kings or princes. A loftier spirit has his own affairs.

Same message.


Interesting about your brother and the third line, so literal! :)
 

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Then it's telling you that your brother needs to move out. You have no privacy. You two need to go at it alone for awhile to build on the relationship. If you do that you'll be good. No worries if you speak to your husband and brother they'll both help you.
 

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