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"Booked" our wedding 2+ months ago, we still don't have a contract or final number. The venue is a very budget one and cool setup, mostly operating as a camp. They don't do tons of wedding, but they do some for sure. They talked about bartering as part of a discount on the package- I still don't know exactly what/when that it would be, some sort of teaching workshop- I need to plan since I work two jobs and have side gigs, my schedule is filling up for the summer. Also we didn't want another part of the package (apartment to stay in overnight) and they said they would factor that in. It's not a CRAZY amount of money (I think the difference could be as much as $1k) but we really have no idea what is going on, I contact them, they say there has been a change in staff, they are still figuring it out, and will get back to us by X date, don't worry since they blocked the date off for them, and then never a reply. This has been every 2 weeks or so at this point.

We don't really want to move things and according to a friend who has taught at the camp that's just kinda their deal, SUUUPER laid back, but I'm having a hard time to feel secure in this. I want to make sure it's FOR SURE and start hiring things that are needed/tell our guests to save the day. There aren't really any other venues available and in our price range anytime for about 2 months around that date so it's not easy to switch.

I asked Yi "What should I do about confirming the wedding at X place?"
Got 41.4 to 38.

I feel like this is saying as hard as it is, just chill for a bit and don't do anything? The only one getting upset here is me and they HAVE said the day is reserved. Also I guess I'm the one causing the ruckus since I'm the one who is upset about it. 4th line maybe shows if I can actually chill and not reach out, maybe they will come help me? Or I will get help figuring this out in another unexpected way? OR does it mean I need to get someone on it to help me (my fiance has volunteered to call and lay the smackdown lol)?
 

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They said they would get back to you by a certain date but that date has already past? I think 41.4 is saying not to worry and furthermore not to worry about calling them.. “I was told someone would call me by X date but I haven’t heard anything so I thought I’d better call and make sure I haven’t slipped off the radar screen.”
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Decrease Obstruction.
 
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"What should I do about confirming the wedding at X place?"
Got 41.4 to 38.
I think what Rosada offered above is a good interpretation. I will offer another: When I read what you are saying about the unclear booking, the venue, your uncertainty about the cost, etc. I get a very uneasy feeling, and I'm not the one getting married!

Looking at the trigrams (three line figures) for Hex. 41, you have Lake below, Mountain above. This could mean that by having a positive attitude (Lake) you will feel more sure and steady (Mountain) about your wedding.

But here you also have the fourth moving line, 41.4, which indicates to me that you need more than just a positive attitude to make things be okay for you. You are also seeking clarity and some sense of security - both meanings associated with Hex. 38's upper trigram, Light (or Flame).

Looking at what Line 41.4 says: Diminishing sickness. The assignment being performed quickly, the outcome will be happy. (Richard Rutt, trans.)​

Here again you have the option to either not deal with the 'sickness' (uncertainty, lack of clarity about the venue, etc.) and trust that you'll have a happy outcome .... OR

... you might consider dealing with (healing, curing, diminishing) this 'sickness' so you don't have to think about or suffer from it up until (and maybe even on) your wedding day. So, another approach is that you find a way to deal with all these uncertainties so you can then enjoy your wedding!

As to how you do this - here I'm giving you non-Yi advice: If it were me I'd not just pawn off this task and potential pain-in-the-butt on my future spouse! Maybe a better approach is that find a friend or relative who will deal with this for you - perhaps someone who is a good communicator and also someone whom will be firm in dealing with this - with both of these being qualities of Lake and Mountain, respectively. (Maybe you can tell them that this is what you want as your wedding gift from them!)

I hope that's of use to you. D
 
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Um first off, pawning it off on my future HUSBAND. Lol, I'm a woman.
Actually though I think he would be good about this. He really has been struggling with a lot of personal stuff and I've done 99% of the arrangements so far, he just was like, go ahead. He is wanting to help more now but there hasn't been as much that he could do right now since most things are taken care of for the time being. If I asked one of our moms I think that would be kind of a disaster. He would be much better about this, and he had already offered to do this very thing before I called the last time (over a week ago, and we were supposed to hear "definitely"...AGAIN, 6 days ago). Maybe it's time to take him up on it.

Well, I'll post back with what happens!
 

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They said they would get back to you by a certain date but that date has already past? I think 41.4 is saying not to worry and furthermore not to worry about calling them.. “I was told someone would call me by X date but I haven’t heard anything so I thought I’d better call and make sure I haven’t slipped off the radar screen.”
Take action.
Decrease Obstruction.
yep, sums it up. I did that probably 5 or 6 times so far- called back and then keep being told the same thing, new date each time I will "definitely" receive contract by, then hear nothing, rinse and repeat, etc
 
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Kinda funny...I asked a followup question "What do we need to do to feel good/secure about our wedding venue"...purposely leaving it open and not specifying that this is even THE one.

Got 21.4 to 27.

Right.
So this is saying (I think?) time to get on it...do NOT give up. My fiance said he is gonna call tomorrow.

I *feel* (but not confident!) like this is saying that the outcome in the end will be good though if we persist, kinda echoing the first reading. But annoying AF in the meantime. I'm not 100% sure what the lesson that we should have learned here was- maybe we shouldn't have negotiated, is that what's making a difference? (but they mentioned a discount in exchange to teach, and we also said there was stuff in their standard wedding packages that we didn't want, and it was no problem to negotiate). Or again to, it's my perspective (but come on. In talking with my fiance, we are learning people are getting upset- he didn't tell a bunch of people in his family the date yet since he doesn't feel secure about the venue either. It's not just me.
 

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