41.5

[kdedeaux4]

I'm living in a new city and other than my bf, I don't know anyone here. Last week, I made the acquaintance of a childhood friend of my bf's whom he hadn't seen in over 20 years. We really seemed to share a great deal in common. I felt a nice surge of positive energy all around K. Unfortunately, a situation with my bf came up and after only a few hours, we left suddenly and unexpectedly.
In the midst of the chaos in my world these days, I've had the random notion on several ocassions to seek this gentleman out in the hopes to perhaps create a friendship. This in itself is very odd, as I don't typically think to "seek out" friendships in this manner. I've only made his acquaintance and my while my bf has known him a long time, they haven't stayed close or even connected at all. It feels odd that I would feel such a pull to reach out and befriend him so I've dismissed the thought itself as just a silly notion arising due to my circumstances of being eager to make friends locally...and tell myself that this guy would think I'm a bit flaky were I to actually do such a thing.
Last night, my bf tells me that his friend, K, asked him for my number. I find that very odd as well. And it causes me to wonder if perhaps the friendly natural connection I felt with K wasn't just due to my own circumstances, but truly a connection. Unfortunately, my bf is exceedingly jealous and suspicious, so I wouldn't feel comfortable discussing any of this with him and would almost feel were I to have a friendship with K, I would need to keep it somewhat secret from my bf; I'm not typically in agreement with things which need to be kept secret from our relationships. Yet, that issue in itself is part of the very reason I'm feeling so isolated and would more than ever value a friendship with this positive and respectful fellow!
I asked the I Ching what would the outcome be if I reached out in friendship to K?
Response: 41.5 -->61
41.5 seems a very positive line in regards to my question and 61 Inner Truth seems to point to this notion not being so flaky or odd at all, but reaffirming it might indeed be a natural friendship between us...
I am conflicted for personal reasons about this whole thing. I would very, very much appreciate outside/objective input on this response pertaining to my question/situation. I don't want to do anything "sneaky"...it goes so against my nature, yet I am truly in need of a trusting friend.
Please contribute your thoughts on this?
Namaste':bows:
~kd

I've just found this for 61 which seems to connect directly:
"Truth involves establishing an aware
relationship between your inner core
and significant others in your life.
Centering in truth involves the ability
to perceive a fundamental wisdom,
reflected within yourself
-- and also in your relationships.
Truth is transformed into power
when you disperse all prejudice
and make yourself receptive to the world
as it really is.
Truth's power can be a remarkable force indeed
- yet is rarer than generally imagined.
It can be maintained only by cultivating
a genuine openness to things as they are
-- a willingness to see,
rather than merely look."
- Hexagram 61 'Centering the Truth'

What strikes me as a conflict, though, is the "Truth" that this hex encourages, while obviously my situation would necessitate a bit of "less than truth" if I followed through (that being why this is such a big dilemma for me in thet first place!!

 

[gene]

kded

I get the feeling that you are not all THAT crazy about your present boyfriend. Perhaps you stay with him out of loneliness? If so, there is the answer to your question.

The fifth line of 41 indicates good fortune. I feel you don't have to worry about this. Everything will work out the way it should. The commentary says, "He need fear nothing, for his luck is ordained from on high.

Hexagram 61 is very positive in this light. Hexagram 61 speaks of finding those who have a spiritual affinity with us. It does not necessarily relate to relationships, but it can. Regardless, this person has something in common with you, and things will work out the way they should for everyone concerned. I think there is something destined here. Just allow it to happen.

Gene

 

[kdedeaux4]

Thank you!

Hi Gene,

Thank you so much for your response and insight! I very much value your thoughts, as they usually really make sense to me and my situation(s) in particular. You just have a way of making it all fit for me and in context I do care very much for my bf. I'm just getting exhausted at his jealousy and random tirades. It's really wearing me down, doing a number on my self esteem, and keeping me quite isolated, which adds to my frustration because I enjoy being social and making new friends. The irony is that were it not this way currently, I'd not even consider reaching out to a new friend, especially not a male...now knowing the kind of chaos that would result!

That's also why i'm contemplating this choice very carefully. it's bound to create the very suspicion I've been desperately trying to avoid and repeatedly prove is unfounded

and things will work out the way they should for everyone concerned

Thank you! Reading these words was a wonderful, much needed reminder that whatever comes of it, is exactly what's intended to come of it. Not to mention, it doesn't seem I'm avoiding any of the accusations by being straight and open anyway.
Many, many thanks for your time and your thoughts Gene
namaste:bows: