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I'm a woman who's committed to a man per his request for an exclusive relationship. The past 3 weeks have been wonderful. We have not been intimate, but last night he shared that he has a small penis. Teeny tiny. I haven't seen it but his description leaves much to be desired. This is my first monogamous relationship in many years. He seems amazing but sex is very important to me. Most of my partners have been well-endowed. I know I seem shallow. But I was concerned and anxious, so I asked the Yi. "It's tiny. How to be with this?" I felt silly asking. It gave me 42>34.

This post is not meant to offend anyone. The little matter seems like it could become a big deal. Any thoughts about the reading?
 

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Hi

I just wonder how can you call yourself committed to someone you haven't been intimate to? Unless you're from Yemen and your parents have chosen for you this man of course. But I doubt you would be throwing coins. I mean if you haven't been intimate with him then he's just the equivalent of any man passing in the street and it sounds so weird to me that someone would require an exclusive relationship when there's actually no relationship at all if there's no sex. And how can people talk about their penis before actually getting intimate with someone?

It's all so weird I'm starting to think it's a joke!
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I wish it were a joke Olga. He asked for a monogamous relationship around the third date. I said yes based on what I knew in that moment and how I felt. We haven't had the occasion to have sex yet. Both of us seemed to be in no rush. Lately the topic has turned to sex. He mentioned it last night kind of in a disclaimer type of way. I was stunned so I didn't say much. We have not been intimate. We are Americans born in the U.S. not Yemen LOL
 
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I don't know.. some move a little slower than others and do commit before sex. Which is nice. I mean theres other ways of being intimate, kissing is one. Its nice to build an intimate friendship first. Emotional intimacy... either way, I feel you might be better off asking something more concrete like "how compatible are we?" "Are we a good fit?" The thing to me is... there are so many other important aspects to a good relationship. Sex may be important to you but would sex and sex alone be satisfying and nurturing to you? However, if all other aspects are fulfilled sex is not quite as important. I would think anyway...

With that said, I think your reading may suggest for you to be cautious and evaluate this relationship, not forge ahead with full strength or power.

I have not ever considered size to be a factor though. So I am different than you I suppose, which does not make either of us wrong nor right. He may be a very passionate, fulfilling, and satisfying man. Then his size will not matter I should think. He may be caring, loving, understanding, and whatever else you are looking for in a partner. One can be satisfied with a small partner. Hope that helps a bit...
 

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:eek:

this is so different from where I live!

But anyway: do you like him? I think you asked the question too early. First try it, and see. It might not be a problem to you or it may be. You seem to have a prejudice towards smallness down there, but who knows. Might turn out differently.

And if it indeed turns out to be a problem you can ask what to do with it.

Could the reading say that it may not be a problem now but it might become later on?
that's the first thing that comes on my mind but being here 5 in the morning I really need to go to bed!

PS do you ask for monogamous relationship in the states? And if you don't ask will that mean that people feel entitled to go with several partners at the same time in the daylight? :footinmouth:
 
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Lol yes it is different... where do you live Olga, I often feel I am in the wrong place and time. But in the US these days if you don't talk it first and ask, then people tend to see and be with many people. These days it seems people are running from relationships and commitments. So it seems a bit unusual the man asked for a relationship on the third date, yet a bit refreshing in a sense. Its like he stated "hey I just want to be with you and get to know you. And I am hoping you want the same." He may just be a diamond in the rock. And yes in day light hours people will have many girlfriends or boyfriends ect. Then again one would have to be cautious with anyone that wants to rush. Not saying that's what's happening. I really don't know the full situation here. Whether or not you've known each other a while ect.
 

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Thank you Blue Angel. I do enjoy him. I find him exceptional and refreshing. Maybe I'm the one that's premature. Things will be ok in the end. I am nervous; obviously he is too. Per your suggestion, I asked if we were a good fit. I got 9.4>1. I appreciate your insights and taking time to respond.
 

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So I guess if a woman gets pregnant it may be quite difficult to know whose baby it is..

I live in Europe!
and it's half past five in the morning here

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We tend to do the opposite: it's generally intended that you stay with ONE person at a time (then of course affairs do exist but generally after a few years the couple have been together - when they get into boredom/routine and have the chance to meet other people).

If you have no intention to be "serious" and are just looking for some pleasant sexual time then tradition wants that you inform the other person right on the first night together so as not to play with their heart and avoid any misunderstanding or expectation of a full serious relationship from you.

not everyone does that though (especially men as they fear that if they just say they want sex then the girl would stop seeing them. So they generally act as if they're confused at this point and don't actually know what they want :)
 

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9.4>1
9 the small


(I find Yi really funny when he does that)

from the blog: I see 9.4 as reassurance that the anxieties you now have will vanish. Most often this line has meant for me simply - stop worrying, if you are sincere things will work out

good news so!
 
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Hi unique cookie, I will tell you of my experience. My exhusband was very well endowed and it was great, when we split the next guy I experienced sex with as part of a relationship - oh my Lord you couldn't have got a penis any smaller and it was not fun or satisfying at all. The chemistry was still there but nope nothing else. I remet him 5 years later and funnily enough the chemistry was still there but I didn't even consider revisiting a sexual encounter with him. Probably doesn't help but I think the only way you're gonna find out is to have sex with him or just enjoy the sexual tension. - Liss
 
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Oddly enough I do not feel your reading reflects nor answers your question. I feel your reading reflects your thread. Posting the question, being apprehensive about it, and then showing sincerity, and people coming forward to help you. But... I could be wrong. Funny thing with these readings, they seem to work off of whatever we are most focused on in the moment. I've learned to meditate and completely clear my mind before going into a reading. And... I have experienced the exact opposite of Liss. So I guess it is a very personal, individual thing. You will have to experience for yourself. I have had the tiny yet completely satisfying man...

.. and Olga, unfortunately yes, there are some women that don't know who the father is. But I wouldn't say that's usual nor typical yet... and the men seem somewhat similar.
 
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Being a guy, I'll skip the foreplay.

But seriously...

First, the reading shows various aspects of increase, such as favorable destiny, enriched through misfortune, unselfishness or generosity, a kind heart, and lastly the misfortune of not making use of what he's got to give.

No one can tell you what's important to you in a relationship, including what you need to satisfy your sexual appetite. But, if size isn't a major priority to you, and if he's generous and giving, there are many ways of stimulating a woman to orgasm, and generally speaking, penetration isn't always one of them to every woman, though to some women it is essential. It's what's important to you that makes a difference, and you must be honest with yourself about it. But as you consider that, consider also what his sexual assets may be, such as stamina, repeated erections and enthusiasm, his more subtle ways of turning you on, foreplay, creativity, whispers, kisses, oral skills, knowledge of a woman's mind and body, being considerate and patient, being appreciative; all these aspects of increasing sexual intensity and power.

I suggest not discussing it, but rather letting things happen naturally. Then you'll have first hand knowledge, and he won't become too self conscious to function as he's capable of functioning. If you determine it's not happening, at least you've given the sexual relationship a chance. If neither of you increase one another, you'll never know, and his self confidence, and possibly yours too, will suffer.

One aspect of 34 is putting the cart before the horse, getting ahead of yourself. Anxiety is no friend of sexual enjoyment. Actually it is relaxation that allows blood to flow. He may be larger than even he realizes. Wouldn't it be nice if you were the one that made it so?
 
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Here, here! Well said! Completely agree with Sooo. Best wishes on this journey!
 

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Overall I think the Yi is saying that you don't have much to worry about here. 42 = increase 34 = great power. Whoo-hoo! But of course the real question is how much potential there is for increasing love rather than how much potential there is for an increasing length of his todger. You could have received 39, 38 or 44 but 42 indicates you are blessed even though you don't know it.

And yes, in this culture of ours obsessing about the body encourages all kinds of neuroses which may or may not have a basis in fact. Not that size doesn't matter, I think it does play a part for sure, but like everything else it must be put in proportion - so to speak.

But well done you for popping the question on such a matter. Get it all out in the open I say and communicate about everything so that you can have the chance for REAL intimacy where it counts.

(Sooo eloquently summarises the matter here very well).

All the best
 

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I agree with Liss that the only way you're going to find out is when you have sex with him.
 

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..and of course you know we're all going to want an update…
Strictly in the interests of furthering our philosophical understanding of the I Ching...
 

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Hi goddessliss,

your question is "How to be with this?"
42.2.3.4.5.6 >34

What I gather from the Hexes the answer is "go for it, with determination all will be well."

I had for a while a lover with a very (very) small one, and things were fine. The sexual organs are just a plug and a socket, what is important is the energy that streams through them in the bodies.

All the best.
Emiliana
 
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Hi goddessliss,

your question is "How to be with this?"
42.2.3.4.5.6 >34

What I gather from the Hexes the answer is "go for it, with determination all will be well."

I had for a while a lover with a very (very) small one, and things were fine. The sexual organs are just a plug and a socket, what is important is the energy that streams through them in the bodies.

All the best.
Emiliana

What's goin' on with that - how come I'm suddenly in this story? - Liss
 
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Ok, I'm a guy with an average sized penis, and while I use it well, in terms of sexual pleasure with my partner, that is only part of it. Give it a go with the guy, and if he doesn't know how to properly orally and digitally please, do some google searches with him on it, I have given partners some intense orgasms via g-spot stimulation with the 'come hither' motion. There are also actual penis enlargement exercises that men can do, as well as penis pumping regiments etc. If he has an already very tiny penis, those probably won't give him an average sized one, but with a lot of time spent intelligently doing them, he might at least be able to have a below average sized penis instead of a micro-sized one. What he has is not an easy cross to bear in this life, and even if you can't make it work with him, I would argue that you owe it to him and yourself to at least do your part to see that if this this relationship doesn't work out, he leaves with some sexual skills and possibilities that may give him greater advantage in his next relationship attempt. Consider it n interpersonal and sexual mitzvah of sorts.

EDIT: ok, I posted prematurely ( lol), and now see that you guys went for it and it worked out, which is great.
 
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I'm no iching expert - but after looking at your reading and question… this is my view.

There are a lot of changing lines - which in my experience happens when there's a lot of emotional energy etc. involved when asking the question… and 34 is a hexagram about energy, enthusiasm etc.

It seems you've invested a lot of hopes into this relationship and maybe didn't expect him to have such a small penis… I've been in this situation, sometimes a person doesn't seem like a dude with a small one… so you fantasise about him with a big one and it's all so disappointing when the truth appears.

I think you need to calm down and see what happens. Actually, in my circumstances - I was pretty disappointed at first but then I came to terms with it and the sex ended up being great. I didn't think it would be possible since I love sex and most of my partners have been well endowed. So I learned a lot from this experience. :)
 

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What he has is not an easy cross to bear in this life, and even if you can't make it work with him, I would argue that you owe it to him and yourself to at least do your part to see that if this this relationship doesn't work out, he leaves with some sexual skills and possibilities that may give him greater advantage in his next relationship attempt. Consider it n interpersonal and sexual mitzvah of sorts.
In other words, be a prostitute for him for a while so as to improve his sexual skills in a good Samaritan way..!
 

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