44.5

[libelulle]

Hello, could you please help me with this interpretation?

I have met a person 4 weeks ago, since first moment he felt very attracted to me.
I was very surprised because I'm an average woman, atractive but nothing special.
Every time he sees me, come and follow me all over the pub and he has made everything possible to get me and I tell him why me, there's a lot of beatiful woman everywhere.
I have been rejecting all time and saying him, he's not the kind of man good for me.
Well last saturday, I falled into the temptation and we made love.
I have to say, he's very attractive to me and the fact that I like him, excites me a lot.
I think I'm not the kind of woman he's used to be with.
I'm very deep in my feelings and when you are in a pub people don't look for that. I speak him very sincerely and I HAVE BEEN AVOIDING HIS APPROACHES.
I get dammaged easily cause my insecurities as a woman, and when I feel fear I tend to dissapear.
That's why I asked to the IC what is going to be the evolution of this situation in order to have an idea of what intentions has him and the answer was 44.5>50 as I'm not used to live these situations with men.Which is the gift of the sky, here .Thank you so much.

 

[folledeschiele]

well, hexagram 44 does relate to temptation and often "illicit" affairs, but line 5 can often designate something good that falls into your lap, and 50 speaks of spiritual treasure. Perhaps this man could have more value to you than you suspect, or the connection might grow into something spiritual? It looks like the Yi is encouraging you to explore this, despite your fear-- in any case there doesn't seem to be any danger in doing so. 44 can often mean "stay away, this is improper/a fatal attraction", but in my reading line 5 is more positive, and the changing hexagram is auspicious.

 

[libelulle]

how do you think can grow this connection in something spiritual?
What kind of relationship is an espiritual one?

 

[bradford]

44.5 is about having the patience and restraint to let the melons ripen properly.
Only then are they gifts from heaven. Before that they are just hastily opened green melons.

 

[libelulle]

let the green melons ripen it would be not to rush things between he and me. Wait patiently that he seeks for me, not being me who give the steps.
Do you think this kind of behavior for my part would be the appropiate to not open hastily the melons?

I appreciate a lot your interest, thank you so much

 

[bradford]

Don't be unresponsive or aloof. Just don't be hasty. Let it ripen and enjoy that time. If it doesn't survive that approach the it should not survive.

 

[ginnie]

I have been rejecting all time and saying him, he's not the kind of man good for me.

Why do you think he's not a good man for you?

Do you see yourself as a creative person? For example, do you have a body of work of some kind that you are doing -- or are hoping to do?

This can be a relationship of true devotion. He may become entirely devoted to you. The way he was following you around the pub seems to indicate that is true! And together you may be able to accomplish something very special. It's difficult to know in advance what that might be.

The 44 relationships are intense. With 44.5, there is a good possibility of using all that power to accomplish something rather special in this world. But you have to be aware of the dangers of such intensity.

What would your family and friends have to say about this man, if they were to meet him? I say this because when so strongly drawn to one person, you have to be careful not to lose the rest of your world.

There is a strong possibility this will be a relationship in which you shelter each other. Maybe he can shelter you in some way, and you will be able to take care of him, too.

If you are more intelligent or have had more schooling than this man, it would be best to keep quiet about what you know, so as not to hurt his feelings. We are all intelligent in different ways.

 

[ginnie]

Synastry

If I were you I'd send your birth info and his birth info to a good astrologer and have a synastry chart done. Do you believe in astrology? A synastry chart is a reading in which the astrologer takes one chart and superimposes the other chart over it. Then what's going on can be seen more clearly. By the way, I am not an astrologer.

 

[libelulle]

I'm so scared, I feel just what you say. He's a person who needs a lot of tenderness, like me. He has had a very hard childhood. I see in his eyes the melancholy.
It's only that he's a very attractive man for women, I'm quite average for him. I'm afraid cause I'm not living up his physical. I dawn on he's a very spiritual person despite of his appearance.
I've asked a sinastry chart, and it's says just what the I Ching.

I write it down literally: Sun in 8th house
The Sun placed in the 8th house may give you the feeling that you have a fated relationship that was destined to be. Even if yours does not turn out to be a long-term relationship, at least while you are a couple, you will feel that someone or something had a hand in your being together. One thing is for sure, in the time you spend together your lives will be transformed in ways you cannot imagine. Your old selves may be destroyed and new people will be born from your being together. In a purely physical relationship, sex will become very important, not for the sake of sex alone, but for the transforming properties associated with the whole experience. This will not be casual sex, but very deep and meaningful sex.

The same that I Ching. I think I'll take the risk.
Thank you so much. For once in my life this could be a good blessing for me and he's so handsome.

 

[ginnie]

You must have yearned for such a handsome man! Your post is very interesting and ... best wishes to you. You may have to study the I Ching very closely to stay steady, with a relationship like that, you know!

 

[jend]

I think 44.5 is a perfect image of falling in love. It takes time... one day, it hits you just how deeply you feel for the other. However, in your situation, it's not clear if this speaks to your feelings, to his, or to the situation between you, since your question was not well defined/specific.

 

[Thatyama]

Hello, could you please help me with this interpretation?

I have met a person 4 weeks ago, since first moment he felt very attracted to me.
I was very surprised because I'm an average woman, atractive but nothing special.
Every time he sees me, come and follow me all over the pub and he has made everything possible to get me and I tell him why me, there's a lot of beatiful woman everywhere.
I have been rejecting all time and saying him, he's not the kind of man good for me.
Well last saturday, I falled into the temptation and we made love.
I have to say, he's very attractive to me and the fact that I like him, excites me a lot.
I think I'm not the kind of woman he's used to be with.
Soy muy profundo en mis sentimientos y cuando estás en un pub la gente no busca eso. Le hablo muy sinceramente y HE EVITADO SUS APROXIMACIONES.
Me estropeo fácilmente por mis inseguridades como mujer, y cuando siento miedo tiendo a desaparecer.
Por eso le pregunte al IC cual va a ser la evolucion de esta situacion para tener una idea de que intenciones tiene el y la respuesta fue 44.5>50 ya que no estoy acostumbrada a vivir estas situaciones con hombres. Cuál es el regalo del cielo, aquí. Muchas gracias.

Hola, se que paso un tiempo de esa publicacion, pero a alguien mas le puede servir, tengo sol en casa 8 y he estado del otro lado de la situacion, hace un tiempo me mude a la casa de un asunto que Yo tengo y vivo en otro país, me mandó un poema muy parecido a tu pregunta, lleno de inseguridad con respecto a nuestra privacidad y le hice una carta de diseño humano de la fecha y hora del poema, y el sol estaba a las 44.5.
Fue extraño porque para mí nuestra atracción era obvia pero él tenía muchas dudas y creo que es porque tenía el objeto de su deseo justo frente a él (ha estado diciendo que me ama unos durante 10 años) pero no estaba completamente seguro. Pongo el poema, está en español pero transmite exactamente lo que dices.
una mujer esta en mi casa
no me reconozco
Ella insiste en quedarse.
Siempre había follado afuera, y cuando pasaba adentro
se iba con putas por la noche
que se fue de juerga, no siempre
Yo pago, tantas veces
más allá del corazón
Hoy me sorprende la dulce luz del Adviento
Esta mujer enquistada.

 

[HansKr]

Could you please translate your latest post in English. Hardly anybody on this forum speaks Spanish

 

[Trojina]

Also please look at the date of the thread.

It is from 2011 !

That is 12 years ago.

And Libelulle was last on this forum 12 years ago.

It makes no sense at all to be replying to someone who left 12 years ago surely? The situation will have moved on

People often seem to think time doesn't exist here

 

[catchyouri]

Also please look at the date of the thread.

It is from 2011 !

That is 12 years ago.

And Libelulle was last on this forum 12 years ago.

It makes no sense at all to be replying to someone who left 12 years ago surely? The situation will have moved on

People often seem to think time doesn't exist here

Well does Time exist me thinks not!

 

[Liselle]

In the existential depths (heights?), maybe not, but a humble internet forum is a different matter.

(Er. Hilary's forum is magnificent, of course, but you know what I mean. Also, your banner picture is beautiful, Catchyouri.)