44 to 6 and 47 to 2 in a trying situation

[green leaf]

There is someone I feel that I have unfinished business with but who doesn't answer any sort of attempts at contact and I give ample time for reply. I would like to come to some sort of reconciliation but I am not sure how that's possible as the situation stands.

So I asked the I Ching "Why doesn't this person reply to or contact me?" It answered with 44.3 to 6. Then I asked "What is the best course of action to them with this person?" and got 47.2.4.5 to 2.

In thinking about the first reading, as far as I can tell, this person just wants to leave it all behind because they feel talking about it will make it worse or just get us nowhere. Maybe they feel that avoiding me is the wisest option in this situation and they are thinking of what's best for them.

What I get from the second is that I should be patient and things will eventually get better, that I should be receptive and not assertive since further attempts to contact this person would just be mistrusted and ignored anyway.

47 definitely describes the situation between us but I am not sure whether the I Ching is suggesting that it is best for me to work on the situation because it will eventually be resolved somehow and the restrictions released or that it is best to leave it as it is and move on from it without any sort or reconciliation or closure because that is the only way to be freed from the exhaustion..

Thanks.

 

[Trojina]

I think its best to leave this person alone, trying to reconcile and all that really is a waste of time at the moment (47) Just let things be (2)

 

[green leaf]

Thank you trojan. I will do that. Is this a permanent stalemate?

 

[Trojina]

Thank you trojan. I will do that. Is this a permanent stalemate?

Well on reflection I answered that post a little flippantly and too directively. With relationship questions answers seem especially emphemeral, I don't think its possible to say anything is permanent...with anything really. Even without the I Ching life has shown me trying to reconcile with someone who doesn't want to know is an exersize in futility. I guess perhaps in time with patience and 'sacrifice' at the right time (47.2.5) relations may improve but it all grinds exceedingly slow(47.4) 44.3 is really uncomfortable, all kinds of embarrassing hampering factors. Overall its not a picture of happy or easy reconciliation, and what I meant was if I got this answer I think I'd personally lay off and give up a while (which is only a suggestion doesn't mean thats what you must do) Also its stressed in 47 that talking, pleadings ones case just won't be believed so theres no point in wasting effort trying. And afterall why should you ? For equal reconciliation isn't it better he meets you halfway than be dragged unhappily and uncomfortably like in 44.3.