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If you have Hilary's book I recommend reading her section on it, because there's a warning about overloading something with emotional energy, and the need to be watchful about the dangers of overinvestment.
The hexagram may also be a good metaphor for how he sees you. But in that case you'd still need to include the potential negatives and caveats that the hexagram points to.
Thank you again nebu. I have Hilary's book. Looking at the negative potential of the Hexagram, would you say he is thinking about making sure he doesn't over-invest emotionally?
Hmm Trojan... I feel very misunderstood about my intentions.. not only about why I asked the question, but also with some of the posts I have continued with, I feel my thoughts are not getting thru. You all have wonderful ideas so I suppose I wish you could understand what I am saying. So I will keep on trucking and trying to explain...
When I said "would you say he is thinking about making sure he doesn't over-invest emotionally?" - first off, the HE was italics..
...And I ment the angle .... I wasn't asking nebu to tell me IF he was thinking about making sure he doesn't over invest.. I was asking if nebu thought I should see 45 as from his perspective... or if nebu was again trying to say IIIII should not over invest in HIM.
Capish?
This is SO HARD to explain, yet so simple... I am going to try and peice things together.
Random Thoughts:
1.You see, nebu's responses, and your's as well, were more based on not answering the initial question and more so, a sort of, pyschological, "you should be focusing on yourself" and Yi cannot make someone understand how someone ELSE sees them, kind of response. Which is undestandable. I can see that perspective but don't agree. I really like what patro said:
Originally Posted by patro
imo the yi is always be able to answer to any questions.... we need to learn and to understand more deeply how the yi interact with us. the yi interact in a special way with each one of us.
2.I am sure it is partially that nebu (and possibly everyone else)did not understand the depth and angle of my question because it was terribly worded. He also seems to feel positively strong about self progression and betterment. I like that. Maybe that comes into play.
3.Also, there are a lot of threads on this site that go a little something like this... "Will he call?" "Is he the one?" etc. And they all seem to be based in uncertainty regarding their union/or wish for union. I on the other hand was not coming from a place of uncertainly, moreso a place of curiousity of perception. I could see how it would be easily misunderstood as a question of uncertainty but I never said that, so that was an assumption.
4. Yes, we have sex.
5.I am very into Carl Jung. I am very into finding archetypes within all things. I think they are everywhere. I am not the average girl. I have a lot of unspoken intent. I know I see X as a "protector" type. I was hoping to get something like that out of the Yi from X's angle.
6.I know X and I think very differently. To me it is like, if I had a friend in China and I know I would never be traveling there, and I live in the US. I would say on the phone, "How is the weather?" or "what does the landscape look like". I wouldn't be able to experience the weather/landscape.
It's a curiousity thing for me to think about what someone else is viewing or how they perceive something. Also their point of views. I know I can never see through X's eyes. I just wanted a word or idea to pop out at me from the pages. And finally it did after many responses from various people.
I'd like to think you understand my intent better. Please let me know.
nebu said:I don't think the 'how does so-and-so perceive me?' is where the emphasis needs to lie and if it was I wouldn't have responded in the other thread, and in that thread you're referring to if you look at the history of that question from the author's previous threads you'll see that the intention was to ask 'how am I coming across?', which has - or at least can have - a very different emphasis to 'let me get behind this other person's eyes'.
IMO the emphasis needs to be on self-awareness, about how you're contributing to the interaction, what you're bringing to it that you might not currently be aware of, that you might have a blind spot about but which the Yi can cast light on and help you integrate, thus growing as a person.
trojan said:oh BTW incase you feel nagged I only repeat this rant if I feel some care for the person asking so I feel I should give them the benefit of my infinite wisdom
I guess I felt the need to respond here ... to say "I get it". I understood what you said, and I appreciated it on many levels. Thank-you again for sharing your question, your answer, and your insight regarding the 3S's.
RIGHT BACK AT YOU. You also gave me lots of support. I appreciate this so much.ace said:You gave me a gift of understanding.
patro said:imo the yi is always be able to answer to any questions.... we need to learn and to understand more deeply how the yi interact with us. the yi interact in a special way with each one of us.
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