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oceangirl

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I know I've been posting a lot of threads lately and I really appreciate everyone that is lovely enough to keep helping me out. It's just that I feel I've really lost my 'footing' in life and I want to stay home and cry.
Right now I'm starting to suffer from social anxiety in my new job. The job requires us to work with each other a lot. At any given time there's about 9 or more of us working in a team and although I realise I'm new and everyone is very welcoming and friendly sometimes I feel anxious about how much I should interact with others - we do have time to chat about our life outside of work. There's one woman who has told me personal bits and pieces about her life and showed me photos of this and that but I've noticed when it's time to leave she holds back and waits until I leave so as seemingly not to walk with me. I don't understand that at all.
Anyway I've asked the Yi - Please show me the way to overcome my social anxiety

49.1.3.6>12

A radical change in myself will stop feeling so confined. Not sure what the lines mean in this instance.
 

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Hi Oceangirl, I'm sorry you're having so much trouble. :hug:

Actually, I think the reading is reasonably comforting and optimistic. 12 as the relating hexagram might reflect your feeling that nothing is working as it should - everything feels blocked. 49 as your answer - 49 often means a change that will happen when the time is right. I think it can signify milestones and natural stages in life, times when what "governs" your life is different than it was before. ("Governs" because 49 can also mean regime changes as when the governments of nations change, but there can be such changes in one's personal life, as well.)

"Bound with yellow cow-hide."

"Setting out to bring order means a pitfall,
Constancy means danger.
As words of radical change draw near three times,
There is truth and confidence.


"Noble one transforms as a leopard,
Small people radically change their faces.
Setting out to bring order: pitfall.
Settling with constancy: good fortune."


I don't really know what the lines mean, either, but notice that both lines 3 and 6 say "setting out to bring order" is "pitfall." I think this means you can't forcibly "fix" these problems at work, it's just going to take some time - you're sort of going through some growing pains. Don't try to force friendships, don't worry so much about how it's going, just be friendly in a normal way while you all get to know each other, maybe? In line 6 where it says, "small people radically change their faces," I think that's telling you to be yourself, don't try to change yourself into what you think they want you to be, or something like that.

Oh, and I think it's promising that the last line of your reading is "settling with constancy: good fortune." Just try to settle in and settle down, go through each day steadily, and things will work out.
 

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Here's a try at it - to move away from feeling disconnected (12), just be polite; most work relationships are simply acquaintances anyway which may or may not lead to friendships (49.1). Find a comfortable balance between talking and listening (49.3). Quietly make changes for yourself without taking it out on others if you find yourself in a relationship or situation which is not working for you and not likely to change (49.6).

And, of course, that woman may have things going on that have nothing to do with you at all, but her seemingly holding back also reminds me of a passage from Antoine de Saint-Exupery’s “The Little Prince” between the fox and the little prince:
“If you want a friend, tame me . . .”
“What must I do, to tame you?” asked the little prince.
“You must be very patient,” replied the fox. “First you will sit down at a little distance from me––like that––in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. But you will sit a little closer to me, every day . . .”
The next day the little prince came back.
“It would have been better to come back at the same hour,” said the fox. “If for example, you come at four o’clock in the afternoon, then at three o’clock I shall begin to be happy. I shall feel happier and happier as the hour advances. At four o’clock, I shall be worrying and jumping about. I shall show you how happy I am! But if you come at just any time, I shall never know at what hour my heart is to be ready to greet you . . .
 

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Fyi, in case you're wondering how I came up with the line interpretations, I do additionally use the W/B commentary as a general guide and try to picture it relating to the specific circumstances.
 
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Thankyou Lisa yes that makes sense - just settle and things will steady in their own time.

Thanks iamsgirl - yes she may be a little unsure of me....I've been looking mostly to her on how to do things at work and for some reason I've had a few psychic messages for her, one of which came true within 24 hours. I'm learning not to take things personally and I'm also trying to make Radical Changes within and how I relate to others as you know.
 

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for some reason I've had a few psychic messages for her, one of which came true within 24 hours.
That sounds like quite a gift and might freak me out a little too! :eek: :D
 

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I think it's easy to consider "ordinary" what appears unique and surprising to others because we live with ourselves day in and day out! It seems like a nice group though, so think it won't be long before you find your niche :).
 

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