49>23 about what to change

[mythili]

For the last several months, a friend of mine has been complaining about how unsociable I am etc etc, in effect, tearing my character to shreds. I keep trying to explain that I'm not being unsociable, I'm just a quiet person, and tend to keep to myself, but feel perfectly friendly towards people. But I guess the explanations didnt help, so I asked the Yi if theres anything I should change about myself to make me appear more sociable or friendly. 49>23. So it looks as though I really do need to change! http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/images/smilies/eek.gif
But in what way, I dont understand.
Any insights?
Thanks!

 

[mariah kaze]

For the last several months, a friend of mine has been complaining about how unsociable I am etc etc, in effect, tearing my character to shreds. I keep trying to explain that I'm not being unsociable, I'm just a quiet person, and tend to keep to myself, but feel perfectly friendly towards people. But I guess the explanations didnt help, so I asked the Yi if theres anything I should change about myself to make me appear more sociable or friendly. 49>23. So it looks as though I really do need to change! http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/images/smilies/eek.gif
But in what way, I dont understand.
Any insights?
Thanks!

Change should only be undertaken when absolutely necessary and radical change involves giving up old ways of thinking , finding new ways of doing things and acting in different ways. Since you didn't post the changing lines for us, I had to look it up so if I have it right, the fifth line is the only one that hasn't changed? Some people recommend that you read only the top line and others say to read the line that doesn't move with so many lines moving. Change is sometimes a process that requires orderly steps. The Hex changing rapidly indicates that the change you want to make will be quick and easy once you figure out what to let go of that is causing you to be unhappy with yourself the way you are. I'm thinking maybe you'll discover that you like yourself just the way you are and the idea of radical change doesn't really make sense and is then stripped away. You didn't say what the meaning was for you. If you can visualize the result you want, you'll be half way there.

 

[my_key]

Hi mythili
It can help people to give you feedback if you define your reading along the lines of 49: 1.3.4.5.6.>23 which in this case shows that line 2 is the only non changing line.
With all these changing lines it can get confusing. Line 2 is related to how you walk through your life and that's not showing a change. Mariah may have got a bit confused with the line numbers but the rest of what she wrote makes very good sense.

This reading may be saying change if you want to not because someone else is telling you to, or because you want to please someone else - change because you feel it is right for you. And showing you how to make that change if that is what you want. Start at where the root of this situation has come from (line 1) and it might be that if you look carefully into the situation, perhaps explore a bit more you might be able to discover the reasons for your friend's comments and why you feel like you do and then you may find some seeds that you want to grow.

Be comfortable with what is right for you, not what is right for someone else and remain open to change when the time is right.

Be Well
Mike

 

[patro]

To me it seams that you don't need to undertake any changes in you character!

at first you got 5 line from six changing...
this mean that the primary hexagram to Analise is 23!
all changing lines in 49 are optional.... and trying to understand their meaning could be confusing!
the 49 have a very marginal meaning in this combination!

the image that I have about this hex combination is if I translat it in words:
49 -> 23
changing? -> nooooooooo

try to ask why your friend is saying you this!

now... if I try to consider the answer in a more traditional way.. it seams that any change that you will do... will finally create great problem to you!

hope to help

 

[rosada]

49. Revolution would seem to be referring to the question, do you need to revolutionize yourself and how?
23. Splitting Apart is a mountain shooting up out of the earth without a broad base and about to fall over. The image suggests someone who is dangerously isolated and without support.

Together these two hexagrams suggest to me that you are okay just as you are - "On your own day you are believed," Revolution - but your self-contained behavior does limit you and may even cause problems when times inevitably change, Split Apart, and you find you need help from friends and neighbors, 23.
To insure that you are not without friends in times of need you probably should make more of an effort to consciously cultivate connections. 23 advises, "Those above can ensure their position only by giving generously go those below."

Thus, though there is nothing wrong with you and even as you are content with your private world, it probably would be wise to make an effort be more out going, if only as a kindness to those who don't understand you and worry about you.
Rosada

 

[mythili]

Dear Mariah, Mike, Patro and Rosada, Thank you for your very thoughtful replies. I am going to have to digest them. You have made me aware that I am probably being too insulated, I didnt really realize that. Also, with H23, your remark, Rosada, about my making an effort to be more outgoing would be a kindness to people who worry about me - I have been thinking about that comment - I think in general that I dont think I am very important to people, so never quite realized that they might want any kindness from me at all. Maybe this is the feeling that I will have to let go of? As Mariah suggested? And I think, Patro, that my friend cares enough to keep trying to get me to become more open, whether he is correct or not.
Well, theres a lot for me to think about, and thank you again, at least it looks like I can start making some positive changes.

 

[mythili]

One of my thoughts with the 49>23 reading, was that perhaps I needed to shed my layers and allow the essence to come out. I think your readings have helped me see what those layers might be.

 

[mythili]

Mike - when you say "Line 2 is related to how you walk through your life and that's not showing a change", what do you think it might mean in this context?

 

[my_key]

Mike - when you say "Line 2 is related to how you walk through your life and that's not showing a change", what do you think it might mean in this context?

When I get 5 changing lines I sometimes look at the unchanging line as "Well that bit I seem to be doing OK with", evertyhing else could do with a bit of a polish up but thats something that is working fine for me for now.So I would see line 2 as being that there is an air of stability and comfort about how you are walking and connecting with your environment. It may be that this is the stability around which you can build the other changing elements of the reading.
I want to say that because of this stability you can trust yourself to find the right solutions for you.

The question needs tobe turned back to you now - "what do you think it might mean in this context?"

Be well
Mike

 

[mythili]

I want to say that because of this stability you can trust yourself to find the right solutions for you. "

That makes me feel much better! I think then perhaps this is somewhere in between Patro's concept of no change at all and yours, Mariah's and Rosada's of change. It resonates with me. If I read H23 to be the situation arising if H22 is taken too far, i.e. there could be a splitting apart if I try too hard to make an impression and lose touch with myself in the process, then in combination with the unchanging line 2 in H49, it would seem to suggest that I can make the changes but they shouldnt be too drastic.

Thanks to all!

 

[patro]

the matter of your question... is related to something abstract!
there's no way to say or to think who from all could be right! only in 2 years!

the only advice that I can share with you is to study the literature about 4-5-6 changing lines and it's impact in divination!

this is just another possibility to me but a second choice!
a possible advice of 49-> 23
is that a reversal is primarily a fast forward action done with determination!
probably you had think to do it so! but this will bring you in a more dangerous situation like 23 and 23 could refer to the fragmentation of your life principles! so.... act slow!

line 1 & 3 are saying to take time for the change to pause with your intention!
there is also the 4th line changing... it's talking about something that will happen in the near future... a relevant change... this change will you in/directly bring fortune!
Well ...in any case.... reflect and reflect about any changes to undertake and than act slow!

as always this is just my tough! hope to help!

PS: was this the first question you ask to IC about this matter? I mean directly or indirectly!

 

[mythili]

Thank you Patro. I will indeed take it slow.

 

[Olga Super Star]

But this person didn t get five lines moving, he got 49.1.6>23