50.1.4.5 to 9 and 32.6 to 50 - false expectations?

[urbansparrow]

Hi all

I have a friend with whom the situation is turning steamy hot, but he lives with his gfriend and I do not want to enter an affair with him (or with anyone in general). I tried to make this clear to him but of course my mouth says one thing and my body another.

I really do not know what to do.
I asked the Iching if I should tell him we should stop seeing each other again and got 50.1.4.5 to 9. Is the Iching pretty much saying it is a bad idea to stop the vessel and would not get much in return? I am a bit baffled by line 5.

Then I asked in general what should I do.
I got 32.6 to 50 (again, comes up often in questions regarding him). I don't want to be misinterpreting (because I have very strong and contrasting feelings on this one) but it seems to be that the Iching is telling me relax everything will turn out fine???

Your insight is very much appreciated!

 

[blue_angel]

50 line 1- what kind of a position are you willing to accept? A second position? One that assists the other but is completely selfless? That is the only way this position will be of any benefit to you and the benefit could be very small.

50 line 4- are you being realistic about your position?

50 line 5- once you are able to benefit all involved. You, him, and the girlfriend. When you are thinking for the best of everyone then you will have good fortune. So how can you do this? What's the best move for everyone involved?

32 line 6- you are too anxious. Come back to a state of balance so you can think clearly and make the decision right for yourself.

 

[urbansparrow]

thanks blue angel,
Yes true I am actually panicking on this one. I was in love with a guy for three years who was also taken. I avoided him in any possible way but I was paralysed every time I saw him. I even considered relocating because I was heartbroken. I do not want to ever allow these situations to happen again.

I asked your suggested question

What's the best move for everyone involved?

I received 9 unchanging.
I should let the situation follow its natural course (which is slow and steady, maybe?) I seem to understand.

 

[urbansparrow]

Ah, and cultivate my friendship, I suppose. It's a good one.

 

[blue_angel]

Sometimes I feel the Iching gives you questions for you to think for yourself. So those questions were not intended for you to further ask Iching more questions. But questions I felt were in the readings. Questions for you to ask yourself, to reflect on. And I further feel that now that you received 9 unchanging.

To me it says a couple of things... 1, you will find this as something minor and will eventually overcome it. 2, for now you need to passively restrain yourself, until you have your own set of beliefs that you are confident in following. When you know your path, you will follow it. So the questions still remain for you to ask yourself and reflect on. What do you believe is right? What position are you willing to accept? It is your choice. Your path. Your life. Passively restrain yourself until you are confident enough to continue on whichever path you choose. The answers are inside of you and do not require a response here. Unless of course you would like to come back much later and update.

Best wishes on your journey

 

[urbansparrow]

many thanks Blue Angel. It's very beautiful what you have said and really touched my heart.
Excellent weekend!

 

[urbansparrow]

Dear Blue Angel

Just a quick note to tell you that you were quite right, the situation is cooling down. I didn't want to spoil the friendship under any circumstances so this is a fortunate development.
I met a guy I am really into and have received good vibes from the IC: 15 unchanging (things are really simple, somehow: he likes me I like him, nothing else) and 55.1.2.6 to 50 ( I actually misinterpreted one quote he sent as a love declaration and I panicked and sent him a dry email, so I invited him for dinner to apologise! very appropriate from the IC). I hope the vessel starts its journey, somehow.

Thanks again!

 

[urbansparrow]

HI Blue Angel,

turned out that the vessel meant "yes have fun while it lasts". it's just that once he got me in his circle, he showed his real face of narcissist and pervert.

I am leaving these people to their problems! So sorry for the girlfriend.
It's a pity that I believed in this friendship, too- but you know, friends are rare.
Thank you

Elisabeth