50.4 changing to 18

[carolove]

Hello!
So last year, while traveling in European summer i met a guy who Kind of became my “platonic love”. I stayed 1.5 months in the city where I met him; he was my brother’s friend, and for some reason we ended up realizing we were really into each other right as I was about to leave. It’s been like 8 months and I still think and dream about him all the time. We talk sometimes casually but I don’t know if there is some deeper connection or meaning Of our encounter but I am extremely curious as to why I think so much about him. And I don’t know if he feels the same connection as I do. I asked iChing the following question: “How does this look to him? Is he interested?”
also, when I had just gotten back from the trip I asked many questions and everything seemed to tell me that we were going to meet again and to go with the flow & that we were meant to be. But now I am confused & also can’t stop thinking about it.
could anyone help?! Thank you so much in advance!!

 

[carolove]

I mistyped the hexagram, I haven’t figured out how to delete this post. It is meant to be 50.4 -> 18

 

[Trojina]

I'm confused as initially you also wrote you had 33.4>53 didn't you but now you edited out. Moss Elk answered and his answer is now gone.


Anyway both the telling of the story and the reading would make me think this isn't developing anywhere.

Reading what you've said no arrangements were made, it's been left 'up in the air'. It's always best I find in situations such as these to observe realistically what the other person is doing/not doing. He's not trying to contact you and has made no arrangements so ? Hang on though you did say you chat casually so there is that opening although chatting casually isn't what you want. If he wants more he needs to man up to say it but he's not.

The reading 50.4>18 looks most unpromising. This is the danger of being hurt or humiliated, dignity soiled here. Be careful, you've given a lot of your heart to him and sadly he may abuse that. Even if it's not intentional he's being careless with this and perhaps you are also. Don't let your feelings run too far away with you. Let's look at the line from Hilary in wikiwing

'The vessel's legs break off,
The prince's stew is upset,
Dignity soiled.
Pitfall.'


So this is a situation where the stew being cooked is tipped and dignity is soiled. Think of it literally first.

If a beautiful dish were being created for the prince but the cooking pot's legs break and the whole thing tips over the prince, how embarrassing. Think of if you took someone to a restaurant for a special meal when you were getting to know one another both wearing your nice clothes and you tipped your curry all over his lap - Now take that metaphor and apply it emotionally to this relationship. Special feelings cooking but then a most painful embarrassing experience due to someone's lack of care. Who's lack of care is this ? Guessing I'd say you are the prince, you asked the question and he has been careless with your emotions. Perhaps he's not been clear, perhaps careless in his actions/follow through/what he says to you ?

If I had no Yi cast I'd say a similar thing (as I have) but I wouldn't see the painfulness of it without Yi since this not only hurts it hurt your dignity, your self respect so that is injurious to you. So Yi is going a step further with warning than I would. If you come out of this feeling diminished or more unsure of yourself that's quite a serious consequence says Yi so do take care.

I can't say for certain if this is going anywhere of course so you don't have to believe me but by the cast, well if I were you I'd be looking to preserve dignity here because it does matter. It matters for your future confidence in relationships and your self image and all sorts so don't tolerate stew spilling, don't just let it happen (18)

 

[carolove]

thank you so much, “Trojina”. Yes I left it quite confusing, my mistake. The question was “is he interested?” And the hexagrams were 50.4->18, just as you interpreted. And prior to that, I asked if he would come to visit me, and the hexagrams were 33.4->53.
It is true, I let my feelings and myself be very vulnerable when we were talking in the summer, and I was a bit too honest, haha.
i agree with all that you said and it is great advice. It still makes me so curious though because he is so often on my mind. But I’m forgetting about him& working on myself from now on.
thank you very much for your interpretation

 

[rosada]

How does this look to him?

50.4 an unfortunate situation.

I think this line describes what happened or at least how you experienced what happened so maybe getting it in response to your question means your fellow experienced it the same way and likewise was disappointed that you two weren't able to explore this friendship further.