51.1.3.5 to 31 and

[libelula]

Hello everybody,

I hope -as usual- that you can help me to understand these readings. I am going through a lot lately in matters of relationships. Almost two months ago I started working with someone which who I had a an intimate relationship before. The fact that we starting working together changed our situation completely because this is how it was supposed to be, and now he is my boss. It has been difficult to me to let go of my yearning for more of what we had, and it has been some tension between us as well -we had a fight in disproportionate levels at one point. After that fight, things are getting better, like a new start in our relationship. A very cautious start.

I really don't have a clue of what is going on in his mind about me, neither I know if he knows that I feel something strong about him. I know I am doing my best, I don't flirt, I try to keep it cool, but well, ... in our job there is a lot of physical contact where and, when he touches me, I just melt away. Then I go home and want to cry because I miss our time together.

Today is one of those days. I am trying to find out what is best, what is what I can achieve in my current state to feel better, to know what the best attitude should be, to know how I can best deal with this situation.

So I asked:

Please give me a diagnosis of the relationship him/me: 51.1.3.5 to 31

I feel like in a dead end with my yearning for him. What can I do about it? 39.3.6 to 20.

What is the best way to interact with him when we are together? 3.1.3.6 to 53



Well, I really hope you can help me with this. I am in "neeeeeeeed" of finding a way... Sometimes I feel my heart could explode. I really love my job, I love being with him and everybody at work. I sometimes would like not to see him anymore and then find myself counting the minutes to see his face.

Thanks a lot for your help.

Love,
Libelula

 

[edge]

Hi Libelula,
I'll give this one a go...
Please give me a diagnosis of the relationship him/me: 51.1.3.5 to 31
51 implies to me that things are pretty dramatic right now, maybe reflecting the tension and fighting you describe. My impression is that this is all part of a transition into a new way of relating to each other and (according to Blofeld) 'Afterwards everything will be in order' ...'there will be no important losses.' 31 seems to bear this out (Blofeld again) 'though they are opposite in character, a mutually responsive feeling enables them to be together. The stubborn and the joyous are conjoined'. I'm not sure if this refers to a better mutualy beneficial working relationship or more but it definitely looks like things will calm down and become easier.

I feel like in a dead end with my yearning for him. What can I do about it? 39.3.6 to 20.
Is there someone who can offer you advice or assistance to help you 'bring about a revolution in yourself'? My feeling is this is suggesting you seek support but stay where you are and learn to deal with your feelings. 20 feels like you will ultimately be able to gain some perspective on the situation, rather than feeling so embroiled in it.

What is the best way to interact with him when we are together? 3.1.3.6 to 53
3.1.3.6: The difficulty you are experiencing won't last forever but keep at it, consolidate your position and don't lose hope that things will get better. What you are experiencing is the transition into something new, a difficult birth of a new cycle.53 indicates gradual progress towards a harmonious relationship (once again no idea if this means a working relationship or more, but definitely things getting better).

Hope that helps,
E

 

[libelula]

Thanks a lot, Edge. It seems to me that whatever happens, it will get easier... that I just need to chill out and go through this. In any case, I feel happy for what I am experiencing... I mean... it's clearly a moment of growth, although right now it hurts a little. Thank you.

 

[chacha1]

I believe that you are doing the right thing by internalizing( keeping under restraint) your desire for this person right now. I believe that alot of men want what they cannot have, and although love should not be a game, unfortunately- that may be the nature of the beast. I see that this situation may be frustrating for a time, and that you need to take this extremely slowly however, you may get the opportunity to engage him in the way that you desire. My comment addresses the Hexagram 3 to 53 question, because I feel that you need to know how to interact with this person on a day to day basis, especially to receive the outcome that you want.