51.3 to 55 finding my own peace

[anyah]

I was wondering what this reading might advise me about finding inner peace in a difficult situation. I'm not asking for a prediction for the situation. I can't think of any way out of this situation and I can't think of any means of making it better. I just sort of have to live with it and I want advice on how to do that and feel my old sense of peace again.

So I asked iChing for advice on how to make myself just feel better, no matter what happens, or what the situation really is (I'm still confused). I've 2 weeks of vacation left and I want to be mentally prepared for when I get back so I won't feel so off balance. iChing responded with 51.3 to 55. Ugh. I suppose this reading is really very straight forward, be prepared to take immediate action upon returning. But I didn't want a prediction, I wanted to know what attitude I should meditate on and this line doesn't appear to be telling me that. I'm curious to what your insights are. I want to be stronger than all of this somehow. I mean to grow up.

Best,
-A

 

[equinox]

I don't think that your result is predictive, rather I guess Hex 51 is showing your state of "shock" and asks you to go on. You are able to walk through these times of "shock" if you act on it and not let yourself be like a rabbit caught in the headlights. At the same time you have to accept that the sun can't always be at its height (relating hex 55). That's not your fault, thats the course of things. So, your result makes me think that what happened/ happened is not all your fault anyways, also some sort of fate seems to be involved.
In general I find it is an encouraging result.

 

[equinox]

Another thought: Maybe your result is also saying that inmidst all those troubles you have the greatest power to act now, even if you didn't even realise it so far because of that state of being troubled. Relating hexagram 55 is imo showing that the sun can't always be at its height -- but stresses that it is at its height NOW.

 

[moss elk]

Whatever this 'difficult situation' is that you mentioned, Yi is saying:
Do not be distressed by it and take immediate action. There is something you can do.

 

[anyah]

Thank you for the insights!! I am feeling sad over the apparent loss of a friend who I'd grown veey fond of. If I could I would avoid him, but I can't because his desk is next to mine at work, so its kind of in my face. If a person wants to be let go of, then that is what I'll do. I just don't want to be sad about it. I can't think of anything I can do, except maybe ask why, but I feel like it's his job to do that since he's the one pulling away. And he doesn't seem to want to talk about it. So, how do I find peace while letting go. I'm not sure what kind of action this requires.

I did think of him as fate because he was able to teach me things that were new to me and push me past my comfort zone. But there's no point in asking for more than I was meant to have.

I wish I knew what I'm supposed to do???

 

[moss elk]

I wish I knew what I'm supposed to do???

Try asking something like this:
In light of the events with x,
what is the best thing I can do now, going forward? or What is the best attitude for me to have about this?
Something along those lines.

 

[anyah]

Thank you for the insights!! I am feeling sad over the apparent loss of a friend who I'd grown veey fond of. If I could I would avoid him, but I can't because his desk is next to mine at work, so its kind of in my face. If a person wants to be let go of, then that is what I'll do. I just don't want to be sad about it. I can't think of anything I can do, except maybe ask why, but I feel like it's his job to do that since he's the one pulling away. And he doesn't seem to want to talk about it. So, how do I find peace while letting go. I'm not sure what kind of action this requires.

When I asked what I need to do i got 3 unchanging. Which scares me because I'm horrible at fixing relationships. It scares me to ask what's wrong

 

[anyah]

Hi Moss Elk, and thank you. I did ask the follow up question of what I should do, and I think iChing called me out on a bad habit, The iChing told me 64.6 ->40 which is about having too much unfounded confidence. At first I thought that this can't be right because I have no confidence in this relationship right now. But then I asked myself if I had confidence in anything at all, which made me realize that I had confidence that our relationship (whatever it is) is surely over. I know that my doubts have killed relationships before. A former boyfriend told me that it was one of the reasons he broke up with me (we're still good friends though). I tried asking how things would go if I do my best to stop doubting and got 50.2.5.6 -> 31.I still have almost 2 weeks before I return. So I guess I should use that time to encourage a more positive belief that we'll still be good friends (or whatever we are) when I return. Wish I hadn't left when things were on a bad note.

 

[moss elk]

The iChing told me 64.6 ->40 which is about having too much unfounded confidence.

It is also about drinking too much alcohol. Just thought I'd add. (as someone who used to work in a tavern. I can assure you of this.)

 

[anyah]

Could it mean someone who daydreams too much? I'm not a drinker! But I day dream way too much.

 

[moss elk]

Could be too much of anything on the brain, I suppose.