51.4>24 why is he angry with me

[goddessliss]

Good morning,

Recently a friend of mine made a decision that indirectly affected me and I didn't much like it - it wasn't a biggie but I wasn't really impressed so I just sent an email and said no worries you do things how you want to and I'll do things how I want to and we can get together another time. No angst just acceptance that's how it is.
Now it appears he is quite angry with me - what tha?

so I asked why is he angry with me and got Hex 51.4>24

I asked what contact I can expect from him in the next 3 weeks 14.3>38

Hmm...looks to me like he was quite shocked and surprised at me not wanting to do it his way perhaps.

14.3 sorta looks like he mite tentavily(how do you spell tentavily) offer something

thks
have a fun and laughing day
Liss xx

 

[unsubscribed_cm]

51.4 is a shock that hasn't quite moved a person... I used to think it's a shock that electrocutes, but now I think it's a shock that just passes and is blocked somewhat absorbed but not really integrated.

14.3 . Lol dunno, yes maybe he will become generous.

In fact that makes sense. If you are angry you can transform that into generosity. TCM theory.

 

[jfas]

tentatively.

And 51.4: "After the thunderstorm, the paths are muddy."

There is misunderstanding or miscommunication, or an argument has taken place that leaves "muddiness" for both of you. Hex. 24 suggests things will return to normal of their own accord.

And 14.3 to 38 suggests you can't expect much from him right now, that the situation is at its highest state of polarity?

 

[jfas]

Forgive me for commenting further, Melissa, but did you communicate to him how his decision indirectly affected you and why that bothered you? If you didn't, and instead just said "no worries (but I'll do my own thing from now on thank you very much)", it might be taken as subtly hostile or passive aggressive.

Or he might be being passive aggressive in making that decision that affected you, in the hope that he could get a more dramatic response from you? But of course I really don't know and can't tell just from the description you have necessarily summarized.

 

[jfas]

A second thought I had on 14.3 to 38: It would take someone exceptional to create unity in the situation as it stands right now (hex. 38 does, though, talk about striving for unity amidst opposition), and if you don't feel up to it, you maybe shouldn't attempt right now, but that he may not be up to it either.

 

[goddessliss]

Thks my Ichingy friend, jfas!

I sent him an email and said 'I am sad about your decision but I accept and understand that it was the right one for you and that it would be great if you could contact me when you have more time on your hands because I am finding the minimal contact we have to discuss things quite frustrating, and I will speak to you then'.

Ican't understand how you could misunderstand what I said and I can only think he may have been hurt but I had to do what was right for me.
I didn't want to get angry and frustrated because things weren't going how I wanted them to go at that point in time so I felt it was better for me to step back and wait until he had more available time.
He did not respond at all and I have sent him a couple of txt msges just saying hope you are having a fun day or similar and have got no response.

So.....what you said about the polarity going as far as it can go, not sure I understand what you mean there? xx

 

[goddessliss]

Oh, just saw your next msge....this is not good, damn! But then it looks like conflicting answers - the first one saying things will return to normal and the second one saying - it's a bit tricky to attempt to sort things at the moment.

I am assuming the passive/aggressive thing must be in the hexes somewhere for you to be talking about it - I felt, when he rang me initially to tell me of his decision, that he was expecting me to respond with anger but I didn't I just said I was disappointed more than anything and we chatted about other things for a bit and then he said he had a few things to organise and he would ring me later that day.
But then when I had a think about it I just thought let's worry about it when he has more time hence the email and personally I don't understand the anger and intuition tells me he might even be actually having a 'sook'. xx

 

[jfas]

Oh, just saw your next msge....this is not good, damn! But then it looks like conflicting answers - the first one saying things will return to normal and the second one saying - it's a bit tricky to attempt to sort things at the moment.

Just my interpretation, remember! And I don't see these as conflicting. Maybe just, don't try to fix it right now, the time will come around again of its own accord. Sometimes circumstances, the atmosphere of the problem in question (Hex. 38) doesn't allow for unity right away. Maybe what you're doing right now is all you can do.

My reference to polarity meaning polarization, the height of disunity where the two elements are at their furthest away and most opposite from each other.

I am assuming the passive/aggressive thing must be in the hexes somewhere for you to be talking about it -

No, I just think passive aggression is very common in human relationships. But it sounds like you were being honest; maybe you both were. I don't know what a 'sook' is.

 

[goddessliss]

Thks jfas for clarifying further - I showed the email to my girlfriend last night who has known this guy a lot longer than I have and she can't believe he didn't respond and agrees he's probably just 'sooking' which means mainly just being immature and throwing a silent tantrum I guess - you know like sulking oh wah wah poor me. Blah can't really explain it - have a fun day or night whatever your up to - Liss x

PS His circumstances may just change by the middle of the week in which I am hoping we can sort things out then.