51 Unchanging - How will our meeting go?

[ddream]

Hi,

Someone wants to meet me next weekend (not the one that's coming, but the one after). I'm not really in the mood to meet anyone else right now because of my recent break up, but I just figure I have nothing to lose. So, I accepted the invitation. Physically, he is my type, but I don't know him at all. So, I asked the IChing how our meeting would go and I got 51 unchanging. Ok, I'll probably be surprised... but in a good way or a bad way? Perhaps it's not a good idea that I mean someone else this soon? Well... I'll still have another week to feel better about things though... I never know how to read unchanging hexagrams.

Thanks for your help,
DDream

 

[arabella]

Hi,

Someone wants to meet me next weekend (not the one that's coming, but the one after). I'm not really in the mood to meet anyone else right now because of my recent break up, but I just figure I have nothing to lose. So, I accepted the invitation. Physically, he is my type, but I don't know him at all. So, I asked the IChing how our meeting would go and I got 51 unchanging. Ok, I'll probably be surprised... but in a good way or a bad way? Perhaps it's not a good idea that I mean someone else this soon? Well... I'll still have another week to feel better about things though... I never know how to read unchanging hexagrams.

Thanks for your help,
DDream

Assuming that this is a normal, more or less public social occasion - i.e. not some scenario that might prove shocking, like a guy meeting you in an abandoned garage or something - then I could imagine a couple things here. One is that you are already just a bit shattered from your recent experiences and may be somewhat off balance trying to begin something new. So there is the precaution to hang onto your balance and don't go overbaord in your interest -- try not to act skeptical either, because you've recently had a romantic letdown.

I'd guess this occasion could also be dramatic and a lot of fun for you since it came up so suddenly after your recent break-up. Perhaps this is the beginning of a new friendship or connection that is outstanding. Hexagram 51 in my experience is often a wake-up call to come alive, with the potential for a new beginning.

In a situation like this one [unless as said above you are being asked to do something inherently dangerous] I would look on the prospects as perhaps something of an emotional rollercoaster -- so hang on tight and remain calm. Could be because you are still a bit scorched from the last guy; could be because this association just has an immediate tremendous vibe and you can't quite believe it. But there's a noticeable sense of emotion in this occasion for you, and if I were going into this circumstance I'd purposely focus on just relaxing and having a good time, don't get serious right away or invest in any of it until you see what the guy is about and where this might be headed. Otherwise, as you say, nothing to lose.

 

[ginnie]

If you feel you might be asking too much of yourself, you can always cancel. Try always to be your own best friend.

 

[anon]

You could be shocked! Either pleasantly surprised or shocked by the persons behavior or proposition. I'm not sure unchanging hexes specially 51 in my opinion doesn't say much. It could always go either way.

Good luck. And pls keep us updated!

 

[ginnie]

Yes, good luck.

Personally, I think there's a big difference between getting hex 51 with first line moving and getting hex 51 unchanging.

51.1 says there's a shock, then there's laughing, then there's good fortune. Hex 51 says there's a shock, then there's laughing, then someone does not let drop the sacred cup and spoon.

Hex 51 unchanging seems so heavy that I have personally steered myself clear of those situations I could easily avoid. I guess I'm more cautious than most people.

 

[ddream]

Thanks, everyone! I'm not sure this is very reassuring. It's true that it could go either way. It's hard to tell with no changing lines. I don't like the fact that we probably won't have the chance to chat a little bit before we meet. I usually like to get to know the other person at least a minimum before I meet them. Every time I met someone I didn't chat with, I always ended being disappointed. So, yes, I'm worried. He does seem like a nice guy, but physical appearance seems very important to him. He mentioned that I never smile with my teeth and I didn't tell him, but it's because my teeth aren't perfect. They are okay, they never were an issue, but they are not perfect. So, I'm also concern he might end up judging me on that. Perhaps that's how I'll be shock. Perhaps he'll judge me a lot and I will be shocked. But it could be the opposite as well. Perhaps I'm so not expecting anything that I will end up being surprised because of how good it will go. Perhaps I should have more precisions to the IChing?

 

[ginnie]

He mentioned that I never smile with my teeth ...

That's one of the oddest things I've ever heard. He's never met you and he mentioned your teeth? Not good. He sounds like a very shallow, critical person. Do you need someone like this in your life?

 

[dancing white ferret]

I agree, Ginnie... Don't go Ddream. It's fine to be alone. If I may, the Yi jing says so. In 41, line 3

When three people journey together, jealousy arises. One of them will have to go. A very close bond is possible only between two people. but when one man is lonely, he is certain to find a companion who complements him.
Wilhelm

You will be given suitable company. That is how it works. But, you have to be a singleton first. I just went through this same situation, and I decided not to go out with the guy. What for? I'd rather spend time to myself, or with a friend, or on Clarity, or anything else that interests me, than spend time with someone who doesn't vibe with my positive energy. Relationships are quid pro quo energy arrangements, and this guy sounds like he has nothing to offer, except comments about your teeth. No parasites, please.

 

[ddream]

Yes. The more I think about it, the less I want to meet him. I haven't heard from him in a while anyway and I don't want to run after him. Perhaps I should just forget about that. Perhaps I should learn to be more patient. I don't want to be with someone just to be with someone. I think I'll wait.

 

[anon]

Hi ddream. Did you go on the date? How did it turn out?