53>37, some help please

[waterlily]

Wondering if some of you can give me some thoughts on getting 53, changing line 3...So I've been fustrated with someone close to me on how slow this person is changing and may have come off a little forceful in my attitude, interactions with them...I am pretty sure the IChing has told me to lay off a little and to be more concerned with changes in my self, rather than in them...the reading then changes into 'the family,' which I have not really explored...any further thoughts would be appreciated. Thank you.

 

[foxx777]

This line may apply to how the other person feels, but perhaps aspects apply to you as well?

53. Gradual Development

Line 3:

The geese gradually advance to the plateau.
A husband goes on a journey but does not return.
A wife gets pregnant but does not give birth.
Misfortune.
Better guard against robbers.

The development that there was is being ruined. Things don't go well. This makes one vulnerable, one needs to protect oneself against being taken advantage of.

Not clear enough about what the situation is, but 37 would seem to speak of caring, dedication to people around you:

37. Family Members

Family members.
Beneficial is the women's dedication.

People are there for each other.

 

[waterlily]

Thank you, foxx777, for your reply. This person is the father of my young son, 2 1/2. I guess it's been in the back of my mind whether I should continue to have this person around me and my son and a part of our lives...if I should try to make it work, or leave it and just raise my son on my own...For some reason, I can't seem to leave well enough alone and continually have him back in my life.

 

[foxx777]

Thank you, foxx777, for your reply. This person is the father of my young son, 2 1/2. I guess it's been in the back of my mind whether I should continue to have this person around me and my son and a part of our lives...if I should try to make it work, or leave it and just raise my son on my own...For some reason, I can't seem to leave well enough alone and continually have him back in my life.

Well, in that context, H37 , people being there for eachother, might imply you SHOULD keep him in your life. As far as 53.3 goes, you should use your intuition as to who is being "robbed", who should be warding off attacks. Confusing Come to think of it:

The geese gradually advance to the plateau.
A husband goes on a journey but does not return.
A wife gets pregnant but does not give birth.
Misfortune.
Better guard against robbers.

The development that there was is being ruined. Things don't go well. This makes one vulnerable, one needs to protect oneself against being taken advantage of.

Are you the wife who "got pregnant" but did not give birth? (ie, your child was left with you alone, both of you were left by this man.) Could he (the father) be a robber, someone you should protect yourself against? Obviously, you know all the particulars about the man, your past relationship, his feeling toward your child, so you are in a far better position to judge your own interests and those of your son.

 

[mirian]

Hello Waterlily,

You did not say exactly the question your asked the Ching, so I will add some ideas around the Hex & line that might help you.

Hex 53 is very much about things that take time to develop and come to completion and sometimes comes up when we are anxious for quick progress. So, it has its own "time frame" regardless of our efforts to get results!
In terms of relationships, it could mean someone who is not ready yet for commitment, or two people who still need to know each other better before taking the relationship to the next level, or someone who is not mature enough to function well in a relationship. Any of those aspects could apply to the father of your son or to your relationship with him. So, the more you force the issue, the more disappointed you get.

In my experience, line 3 is a lot about disappointment and frustration, because things "fail to deliver" and you are left behind wondering. I do see an element of warning, though, perhaps because the whole situation leaves you more vulnerable, so you should take good care of yourself.
Maybe you could ask the Ching for advice in terms of what to expect from this relationship or if anything can be done to improve your life with him.

All the best for you.

 

[waterlily]

Thank you Mirian for your advice and foxx777 also. Mirian, I will do what you suggest. Thank you both for your thoughts. I think both of you are right about it.

 

[Olga Super Star]

I know it’s an old cast but the correct one would be 53.1>37