53.5.6 > 15 (Path to relationship)

[akath19]

Hi All

I've in this relationship with a girl, it's great and we're great friends but like every other human in this world, I want more, so I asked the Yi "What do I need to do in order for X to become my girlfriend?" and got 53.5.6 > 15.

53.5 to me seems to talk about a problem that will happen (dunno how this relates to m question) and it also seems to talk about a long stretch of time that I must wait for things to correct themselves, I'm particularly concerned about Wilhelm says:

"The result is that relationships remain sterile, and nothing is accomplished."​

53.6 talks about reaching the sky and being an example for others, it also seems to talk about having nowhere else to go, so to me that talks about finally reaching my objectives, but again I don't understand how this can be applied to an action.


Can anyone please help me understand this reading, since I asked about actions and got something else (from my point of view)

 

[lslater]

53.5 is telling you to take it slowly... don't pour out all of your feelings to her at once. It is also saying that she probably knows that you want more... our true motives always surface in things we say and do and/or our body language. She may be waiting for you to make a move... but this is telling you to make the move not by a dramatic declaration of your feelings, but by continual nurturing of the relationship. 53.6 goes along with this by telling you to trust your gut intuition and to let that guide you.

Hex 15 is about balance. If you make a dramatic declaration you could throw your current relationship out of balance. Be alert to her body language- listen with both your eyes and your ears. Just like she can likely read your body language telling her of your interest- read hers. If you feel that she is not responding to your subtleties don't panic. Let her cues guide you and try not to get your ego involved if she doesn't respond the way you want her to. If you do- you could easily fall into single-minded, black and white thinking that could throw your mental and emotional equilibrium out of balance.

Keys: subtely nuture, watch and listen, then subtely respond to her responses.

 

[akath19]

Thanks lslater, that seems a lot more like what I was asking, I was wondering where did you get all the body language part from, 'cause I really don't see it from the lines

 

[lslater]

I like this website:

www.yijing.nl/i_ching/hex_49-64/hex_e_53.htm

It gives a brief explanation of each line. I build upon these interpretations utliizing othe resources as well. I have books, websites I like, as well as my own experience with the hexagrams pertaining to questions I have asked. For your particular question though, I used the above sites interpretation and built upon it.