53.5 to 52 decision

[pammy]

Hi
I need some insight to a decision that I need to make.
I have going out with a guy for about 6 months, a new relationship yes, but we quickly became close and had a committment.
We broke up last week, becuause he was flirting with old friends . I feel that the kind of flirting had over stepped the boundires.
Now.. he is trying to get back together, flooding me with calls and texts, says he loves me . But I do know that he continued to flirt.. spec with this one person, during this break up week.
In my girl brain.. I feel that if he truely loved me and wanted us.. that the flirting would of came to a complete halt... but then I did break up with him and would not talk to him.
Today... I agreeed to meet with him..... I have a decision to make .. to stay or go.
I asked am I fooling myself about X's true intentions toward me?
got 53.5 to 52.
Can anyone give me insight ? I want this relationship.. but have so much fear that he will not stop.
Thank you

 

[patro]

I'm trying to help you!!
but any reading is different from the other even if the response are made from identical hexs!!
so after reading your post I focused on a demand detail.
"I asked am I fooling myself about X' "s true intentions" toward me?"
do you know...or are you sure what is his true intention...?

adapt the answer to your question is just difficult... and I need to understand the above pinpointed detail!!

 

[pammy]

Hi
my guy.. has been consistant in telling me he wants this relationship, telling me he loves me ect.
We are meeting tonight to talk.
The fear is within me... I want to believe, but am scared. Due to his continue flirting .
How can a guy flirt with others and tell me he wants me at the same time?
Just dont know what to do

 

[patro]

this is a time of misunderstandings and time will also fix everything!!
this mean that probably tonight you will not resolve the question!!
and 52 meditation indicate that you need time to understand it's real intention!!
and words can not give you security... you want see, observe and analyze!!

 

[pammy]

Yout so right... he said he will do anything to prove his love....
time will tell
Thank you

 

[maremaria]

How can a guy flirt with others and tell me he wants me at the same time?

Each case is unique, but a more general idea is that people when they try to decide wheather they will commit themselves to a relationship do that very often. It provides them some sense of security, .... but again its a very general pov.

 

[ginnie]

Hex 53 is often a picture of a type of relationship. There is a mature-minded woman (older sister type) and there is a man who is immature or acts a little foolish (youngest brother).

That is, he acts in ways she would never even consider acting, and she does not approve of this behavior. So, maybe he is continuously offending her high standards -- and what makes it hard is that he keeps saying he 'loves' her. Well, maybe the word 'love' does not always mean the same thing to all people, but usually you can take it to mean tender caring and good intentions.

This relationship may take some time to develop, because the man needs to grow up a little bit, and the woman needs time to learn to appreciate his good points. It may be hard to see his good points at this time.

But usually H53.5 means the best with respect to a long-term relationship. So, my interpretation of your question is that he wants the best relationship for both of you, and he is not offending you on purpose.

A lot of people flirt, and they regard it lightly, as a social skill for just getting along with people. Could it be that you are a little too proper or lady-like to flirt with other guys? To tell you the truth, I am the proper type of woman, too, so I know what you are going through. However, maybe we are too serious, and he is just having fun.

So I think the best thing to do would be to change your thoughts. Every time you want to disapprove of him, try to think of something good about him instead. Or something nice he did for you. No need to make yourself miserable over this. That would be focusing on the negative. Why not focus on the positive instead?

 

[pammy]

Oh my !!! Ginnie... you hit the nail on the head
I am older than him, and more serious minded, he is like a child sometimes and it drives me crazy on minite and the next I love it.
I will write more... off to meet my guy

 

[willowfox]

I asked am I fooling myself about X's true intentions toward me?
got 53.5 to 52.

No, your not fooling yourself but you need to have a very serious talk with the boy, and concentrate only on the issue at hand then the chances for a reunion look so much more positive.

 

[pammy]

Thank you all for responding... our talk went well ( I think) He told me he was feeling scared of the committment, and that this flirting meant nothing. He says he loves me , and talks of wanting us to move in when I get this house sold.
He has been here every since, spent a nice day at the ocean yesturday.
Am really not all that old school, flirting is ok and even healthy at times, but he did over step the flirting boundries.. big time. I really worry about this one girl... so I asked
If she was a theat to our relationship and got 46 2-4-6 going to 56
what do you think??

 

[gato]

53.5 is a long arduous task, but when it comes to relations i found 52 to be killing.

 

[pammy]

GATO
Killing ? are you saying he is flirting to really try and kill our relationship? Not wanting to be the bad guy or something? Please explain

 

[pammy]

I this one girl a threat ? 46 2-4-6 going to 56
I really love this guy.. I dont want to lose him

 

[gato]

GATO
Killing ? are you saying he is flirting to really try and kill our relationship? Not wanting to be the bad guy or something? Please explain

No... I'm saying that 52 is not very good for relations ( but that's only my experience ). So do whatever you decided to do and keep your eyes wide open. ( i also believe that you already decided what you will do, you just need a confirmation )

 

[ginnie]

I really worry about this one girl... so I asked
If she was a threat to our relationship and got 46 2-4-6 going to 56
what do you think??

Hard to interpret it as you are asking here about three people and whether or not one of them is a threat to the other two. I don't know if the response is referring to this girl, or whether it is referring to your relationship. Maybe someone else can help you better.

Just want to point out that as an oracle, H46 urges you to go visit a 'great man' -- for the express purpose of banishing your worries and anxieties. Sounds like your guy is not the only one who has a fear of commitment.

 

[pammy]

ginnie
This is amazing! I came back in to reread all this. And the last week, I have been looking within myself because of a few things my guy has said to me.
We have talked... He told me he was scared of his feelings.. and told me that he felt I also had a fear of commitment.. I think he is right. lol
Looking back over my past relationships.. I think I have sabatoged them with my worries..
How in the heck did you peg that of me?
Thank you everyone for your responses.

 

[ginnie]

You're welcome, Pammy. Maybe the I Ching works so well because human nature is consistent and the I Ching can help us understand ourselves. Usually we humans don't understand ourselves very well.