53.6 and the wild goose feathers

[strawberry_blood]

Dear All,

I have been trying to figure out the meaning of 53.6 (in a context of the future of a love relationship).I noticed Hilary posted a link in a reply to a post by Clarissa entitled "Hex 53.6"), but sadly, the link does not take one straight to the thread.

I'd love to read this link - does anybody remember where it is? The image of a wild goose as a model of long-term relationship is clear; line 6 with the feathers gets a bit esoteric, not entirely sure what to make of it.

Any other insights into this line will be appreciated, if you have a moment to spare :bows:

 

[ginnie]

53.6

Hexagram 53 describes the gradual unfoldment of a long-term relationship.

It must go through many stages because the people involved are so different at the beginning. Usually the woman is the older sister type, very mature for her age. But the young man can be rather silly and immature.

This is a complementary relationship, because he needs her seriousness, while she finds his immaturity amusing or fascinating. But it may take time for them to appreciate the qualities of the other one.

Line 5 is the culmination of this relationship, the attainment of the goals they both had in mind.

And you are asking about line 6: "shows the geese gradually advanced to the large heights (beyond). Their feathers can be used as ornaments. There will be good fortune."

I see this line as having various outcomes. I am thinking now of my own experience with this line. I had a long-term relationship with a man, and after a certain professional or job-related culmination had been reached, I needed to leave the relationship.

I had to leave because my perspective had shifted. I had become a more spiritual person. I needed to fly to the heights, as it had become too painful for me to be down below, engaged in what seemed to be a meaningless battle for existence. That is, the man was a workaholic, entirely focused on making more money.

But I would say that if you and the partner can both fly away together to the heights -- if you both come to share the same perspective and values -- then the relationship would not have to end at that time. You could both fly away together to the heights, constant long-term companions, setting an example that will linger in the minds of all who know you forever.

For the hexagram 53 relationship is the longest lasting relationship of all ...

 

[maremaria]

Any other insights into this line will be appreciated, if you have a moment to spare :bows:

Just a image came into mind when I got that line

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showpost.php?p=114353&postcount=370

 

[willowfox]

Perhaps at the end of the day you will indeed have something to celebrate about.

 

[bradford]

Any other insights into this line will be appreciated, if you have a moment to spare :bows:

The feather is a talisman of the success of the geese in going beyond, after lots of patience and persistence. Maybe with regard to relationship, look to successful long-term relationships and to how they solve short-term problems and difficulties (Zhi Gua 39). Keep the long-term in mind.

 

[strawberry_blood]

Dear All,

Thank you for the illuminative replies. Ginnie, thank you for sharing your personal experience with this line - in fact, my personal circumstances are about to undergo a change and I am wondering whether I might have to move beyond the relationship.

Thanks to Maremaria for the picture, again illustrating to my doubts whether or not ot move on.

Always a big thanks to Willowfox for geting straight to the point.

And last but not least, special thanks to Bradford for drawing attention to the the relating hex 39, and expanding the message with Opposition in mind. This has tied together nicely all the parts of my question - yes, there are difficulties, and they are actually quite petty, but persistent. There's strong love between us, but we are very diffrent as individuals, so the petty day-to-day arguments about trivial stuff get the relationship down and make me wonder whether to just move on when the time comes.
However, I also recognise that love like that only comes around once in so many years, so losing it to a mass of daft arguments seems immature and spiritually unripe

Bottom line derived from your cumulative replies: I see this love can work and be a blessing, but I have to handle Opposition well, and keeping the big picture in mind, it is entirely possible.

 

[willowfox]

Hex 39 suggests that those petty arguments are a test, something you really need to think about. But it indicates that your "problems" can indeed be overcome, if you step back and analyze them, think how to overcome them, and that would necessitate a conference with your partner. By working together you can successfully overcome the problems then you can gain a new understanding of each other.

Time to sit down and bang your heads together.

 

[strawberry_blood]

Dear All,

A quick update: the situation turned out exactly the way it had for Ginnie, i.e. I realised I couldn't do this anymore - the 39 - Obstruction (and not Opposition, as mistakenly interpreted by me in one of the above posts!) was too much to handle, so instead of compromising on a hundred and one interpersonal issues that he had no wish to compromise on, I chose the higher path, i.e. moved out swiftly and cut off all communication. He's in shock. I'm feeling free like that goose in Maremaria's picture (shame she no longer participates!...).

Thank you all for your help - it is a great pleasure to study the YI in your company - and life always provides ample study material!