53, 6 in 4th,9 in 6th-29, 6 in 1st and 9 in 5th

[rho]

After a long time brewing a great friendship reached a different level a few weeks back(no sex,but emotional,truthfull & passionate)...for the 1st time in my life I experienced true Reality,absolute Trust and true Bliss, I feel like I have changed forever because of it. Only problem is he's still married and the marriage has been a bit unfulfilling for years now. I know how he feels about me, and I feel the same but I haven't told him yet...The question was "How should I conduct myself with...?" I'm thinking that my reply was something along the lines of, not going any further, no torrid affair (which i'm not into anyway)and just keep getting on with my own personal development, and as time goes on things will work out...but i just don't know, I really am finding it difficult to fully gain benefit from this reply...can anyone help me achieve clarity? I'd really appreciate it

 

[stuart]

I think the reading suggests that you have found a blisful situation that may not have any real permanance.hex 53 line 4 speaks of a finding a safe situation for a while that you can adapt to. line six seems to suggest some sort of happy retreat.Is this a platonic relationship that may eventually be replaced by something else more fullfilling for yourself.Sometimes people develop to such a level of perfection,could this be you.Hex 29 moving lines suggeste eventual retreat from danger.

 

[seeker]

Well, I'm new so not sure how accurate my interpretation is, but I get the sense that the I Ching is warning you that if you follow up on those feelings now, not only will that not be the correct course, but you will lose the friendship as well, something that is obviously of great value to you. Also, a couple of the interpretations I have list 29 line one as getting used to a dangerous situation. Perhaps it is warning that if you allow this man to become too important to you, you may not be able to stop yourself from pursuing a course that you know isn't the right one for you. We are all human, and speaking from experience, it isn't always easy to keep your feelings in check, no matter how good your intentions are. There may come a time when you will have to make some very hard choies between your feelings and your values, and perhaps that too is another warning of the I Ching, to stay true to who you are. BTW, if his marriage is unfulfilling why does he stay? Not a judgement, people stay in bad marriages for all sorts of reasons, just wondering if you had asked.

 

[candid]

Rho,

I like both Stuart's and Seeker's answers.

Let me ask you, or rather ask yourself, do you think this true reality, absolute trust and true bliss is an enduring condition in a long term relationship?

This is exactly what the 'boss and secretary' stealing away for a private lunch together feel, or any couple who can talk about their life, their feelings openly, freely to one another. Unfortunately, those doors too easily close over time, as do the feelings of truth, trust and bliss. It takes work in any relationship to not only develop those things but to maintain them as well. Such work is always gradual, no matter how intense the initial rush is.

The wild goose in 53 is known for it?s conjugal fidelity.

Line 4 shows the goose in an unsuitable position., fraught with danger. Being sensible and yielding allows it to holds it?s own in safety.

Line 6 shows the goose drawing near the heights of clouds. This is a culmination of life?s work.

29 is holding to your true nature, which sometimes brings you into danger. This is how we learn life?s lessons. It is also a picture of the heart locked within reason. Gaining an objective view allows a way for water to escape and continue moving forward.

C

 

[rho]

Thank you so much to everyone who replied, but I looked at my notes of this reading today and I got the follow up Hexagram totally wrong! Its actually 53 changing to 31, I've reposted as a new conversation..would love you're take on the REAL casting I did (i must have had too much sun the other day!)

 

[rho]

Thank you Seeker for replying to my post,because we're good pals we have talked about why he's still married and to be honest they live seperate lives but he still feels that he has to stick around because in some way he feels bad that she can't have children.