54 regarding an ex-boyfriend

[teal]

I just got 54 with no changing lines, in regard to an upcoming meeting with my ex-boyfriend, and whether I should try to seduce him. I am finally going back to pick up some furniture I had left behind. We have not seen each other in several months.
He has a new girlfriend, but in my opinion he actually “traded down”, especially in looks, and not to mention that they live several hours apart and hardly ever see each other. He broke up with me, but I am still sexually attracted to him. I admit, I just want sex. I think 54 is giving me a strong message, but is it advising me not to have any sexual acts with the ex? Or is it just a commentary that I am now the “other woman”?

Any insight about 54 (with no changes) would be greatly appreciated.
I already know that everyone is going to tell me it's a bad idea, but I am more interested in what the I-Ching says about it.

 

[willowfox]

It is advising you to keep your clothes on when you visit him, and superglue the zipper on your jeans, and keep your hands in your pockets and your head averted.

 

[teal]

I don't only want sex, but hey, it's my weakness, and oral action with the ex sounds good...at least in my imagination. Maybe a bad idea, maybe it would cause a loss of respect for how I feel about myself or his loss of respect for me? I'm also thinking he needs a reminder of what fun we had.

My other thread is http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=10399

Yesterday I asked 2 other questions regarding our upcoming meeting (I know--overkill) and 28 "Preponderance of the Great" came up twice, first as 28 to 6, then 59 to 28.

28 changing to 6 --- I was thinking about a sexual seduction with hopes of reconciling. The results are telling me it's a terrible idea. Especially the changing third line.

So then I took the oracle into consideration, and pictured behaing myself and keeping it platonic. How would it go then?
59 changing to 28

 

[teal]

Willowfox, Thanks! Just read your message that you posted while I was typing.

I was amazed to get #54 in response to my question. I mean, how relevant an answer can you possibly get? And unchanging lines, too. The I-Ching blows me away, and I'm new to it.

 

[willowfox]

I was thinking about a sexual seduction with hopes of reconciling. The results are telling me it's a terrible idea.

I suggest you read about his feelings in the other thread before venturing any further with your questions.

 

[ace]

My money is on WF's 54 interpretation for the situation.

54 unchanging can be about correct social behaviour when you are the social inferior in a hierarchy (household). If you want to find a place or acceptance in the hierarchy, then finding the appropriate behaviour for your station is the key.

Thus, WF's above comments about "It is advising you to keep your clothes on when you visit him, and superglue the zipper on your jeans, and keep your hands in your pockets and your head averted" AND "I suggest you read about his feelings in the other thread before venturing any further with your questions" is not only key, but possibly crucial to finding any place in the new social hierarchy of your ex and his life.

Much luck ... it sounds like this situation may sting a bit ...

 

[teal]

Damn! I guess that means my idea to seduce the ex's bad-boy brother is also a bad idea. Some of my girlfriends actually said "you should!" (Hey, it was just an idea, and now I can see it's a bad idea.)

Yes, this situation feels stressful, knowing that I'll be seeing the ex. It has definitely caused me to think about him more. It feels healthier to be over him instead.

 

[willowfox]

It feels healthier to be over him instead.

It is healthier to be over him full stop as you will not be invited to the funeral.

 

[teal]

I asked today "what else does he think of me?" and got 54.3

Which of course is very upsetting, but because I got 54 again, I will definitely take heed. This is saving me from ultimate, supremo humiliation. A slave girl? How awful. But, I will take the advice and keep my dignity and virtue.

But then I was thinking, why does he want me to get my stuff now, after all this time? I began wondering if he had some ulterior motives. So I asked "why does he want me to get my things now?" and got 20.2,4
Contemplation. That makes sense.

 

[teal]

To follow up on the 20.2,4 result when inquiring about why he is calling and asking me now, after all this time, to come get my furniture. I have brought it up before to him, but it always seemed like he was putting it off by saying yes, but it's no big hurry.

When he last called, he explained to me that he was considering selling his house, and so that's why he was suggesting that I get my furniture really soon (no we haven't because of the rain). So to me, it looks like he truly is just "contemplating" selling his house, and that there is no real urgency in the matter. Pretty much what was conveyed over the phone call.

I just thought I would add that bit of my personal insight, since this is all ringing true for me.

 

[ace]

Hi,

Just a comment. 54 is not a slave girl; she can hold a very honoured position in the household, this secondary wife. Somewhere in the annals of Clarity is a post by gene where he outlined 8-10 possible interpretations for 54. It was very very illuminating; gene tends to be that way.

Perhaps someone, on their journeys around clarity site archives, could find it and point it out/link it. I know, it was not in Rosada hexagram review of 54. It was in response to a reading. Sorry, I can't be of more help. However, one of these alternative interpretations may be helpful in understanding your repeating 54.

 

[teal]

Thanks, ace.
I didn't see that changing line 3 of 54 as literally meaning "slave girl" but, just the fact that I got 54 twice, regarding my ex-boyfriend says a lot to me. I see it as a big warning. I don't consult the I-Ching too often, but in the recent past, I have posted all my results here. Every I-Ching reading of every question, since I have been a member of onlineclarity, I have posted here.

 

[teal]

Actually, I see it as big warning, and also as the underlying truth. I was dependent on him through the last couple of years of our relationship, and neither one of us liked it.

 

[willowfox]

Thanks, ace.
I didn't see that changing line 3 of 54 as literally meaning "slave girl" but, just the fact that I got 54 twice, regarding my ex-boyfriend says a lot to me. I see it as a big warning.

This line shows a dependency upon another, thus throwing away one's liberty to chose and makes one feel trapped because of one's longing to remain in the relationship.