55.4 > 36 Am I accepting second best?.......relationship

[JoeCampbell]

Hello everyone

I am struggling to get some kind of peace around love and relationship, specifically with the woman I love and yet from whom I am separated at the moment.
We have been in contact via Skype, she is keeping it all "friendly" but will not commit to a relationship again yet - says she is enjoying being alone.

However, now she wants us to go on holiday together - and this is purely because we get along so well and because we have an electric chemistry - so, a chance to get the erotic part fulfilled after 6 months without. Part of me is hurt and disappointed by this (I want it to be a proper reunion), and part of me thinks, yes it will be fun and who knows what it might lead to.

With these conflicting emotions inside, I asked 3 questions:

"What would be best for me to do with regards X, no matter what?" 55.5.6 > 13

"Am I accepting second best with X?" 55.4 > 36

"What must do to get the love I need?" 37.5.6 > 36

If I was to look at themes, at least superficially, then there's 55 Abundance and 36 Brightness Hidden turning up here twice.

With regards to the first question, I think it was Trojina who commented somewhere that 55.6 is advice to grab opportunities and not let them pass by. So that sounds like, "go on the holiday and enjoy it to the fullest"

The second one seems to point to "getting help" - but from who???

The third question was commented on by Bamboo somewhere, along the lines of "come home to yourself, make your decisions, set your intentions and work quietly (hidden) to achieve them" - which I quite like.

Can anyone shine any other light on this - I guess the underlying theme for me is, should I continue trying to build a relationship with this woman (mostly under her premises), or should I try and move on?

Thank you as always for any input

Michael

 

[angelatlantis14]

Hi Michael,

difficult sitation...
your first question was about what to do about person X and you drew 55 5.6. changing to 13.
55 to me often implies that a thing has reached and passed its peak - be not sad, what you had was good, but it is nearing the end. This to me would not imply to try and rekindle the relationship on her terms - it already has passed its best point and now will only decline. Hex 13 might point to yoou searching for more congenial company with someone who is a better fit - but I am not really sure about that.

Your second question about accepting second best seems to be in the same vein - this thing is declining, and you shut yourself off from the really good things by pursuing it ("The curtain is of such fullness that the polestars can be seen at noon.") This compounds the sense of isolation hinted at in the previous 55.6 line. While you follow this woman and what she is offering you cut yourself off from other opportunities. Plus, this kind of realtionship is forcing you to hide your light (36) so it does seem to me that the reading says, yes you are accepting second best, and must deny yourself to do so, and don't really feel good about it.

For the third question you received 37 which I see to mean that you need to find the love and peace you seek first inside, then it will come on the outside too. If you manage to see for yourself your inner worth, and not hide your light anymore (36) then very good things will happen: "As a king he approaches his family. Fear not. Good fortune."

So in summary I'd take this to mean that the I ching does not recommend you going on a holiday with your previous partner, as this does nothing for you to reach your ultimate goal of a good and loving relationship - with someone who can see your worth and you don't have to hide yourself.

Hope this helps!

maui